Swedes extend warm embrace to 'cuddle party' movement

Published: 8 Mar 10 15:21 CET
Online: http://www.thelocal.se/25412/20100308/

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Swedes are often partial to picking up on trends from "over there" with the latest offering a new way to socialize American-style - introducing... the "cuddle party".

The cuddle party has been in existence since 2004 and has been offering a comforting human touch to a legion of followers from the US to Canada, Australia, the UK and the Netherlands ever since.

It is now Sweden's turn to hop on the cuddle bandwagon and explore "a playful social event designed for adults to explore communication, boundaries and affection."

"A cuddle party is a concept where people meet and and practice touching within clear boundaries and learn to set limits, this is important in several fields in society. It is about building integrity," Oskar Palmenfelt at cuddle party organizer Myskurs.se told The Local.

The ambitious Swedish model will however differ somewhat from the more relaxed US cuddle party, Palmenfelt says.

"A US cuddle party is more a pleasant evening when people cuddling in a non-sexual way. In Sweden we see boundary-setting when practising cuddling as an important skill to be learned and developed," he explained.

Swedish participants will participate in an after-cuddle workshop where a specific pedagogic method will be applied to expand the understanding of the value of boundary-setting to personal well-being, Palmenfelt told The Local.

Palmenfelt said that the integrity and boundary-setting which cuddle parties afford are necessary in a society which imposes such heavy demands on its members and agues that the methods are applicable even outside their intimate setting.

"It is about learning to build and trust your own personal integrity, drawing limits and also asking for help in everyday situations," he said.

While the movement has established itself, the cuddle party is not short of detractors with many apparently wondering if it is not just a precursor to an orgy. But with clear rules and the supervision of a Cuddle Lifeguard or Cuddle Caddy, the events are kept strictly above board.

"The facilitator or their assistant is always on hand to ensure that the rules are followed and any questions can be answered," Oskar Palmenfelt told The Local.

Myskurs.se plans to expand its operations this year with April courses in Stockholm and May courses in Gothenburg. There are also plans to extend the cuddle party to youth groups and others in need of the warmth of the human touch.

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17:13 March 8, 2010 by craicen
Lost Western man (oh and woman).
18:11 March 8, 2010 by Soft Boiled
I was recently caught up in the early morning and late afternoon riots in Stockholm where Swedes and other nationalities tried to make their way to and from work while the trains refused to work. There was a definate pack mentality and many showed little or no regard for their fellow travellers. Infact the police were brought in several times to restore law and order; all I really want is for people to act half civilised, there are so many people who act like they have just fallen out of the trees. So Tinkywinky and Lala say NO to big tuletubbie hugs. Act with consideration before pretending you want to love everyone
19:17 March 8, 2010 by calebian22
What a bunch of kombayah hogwash! Sounds like a cheap thrill party.
20:24 March 8, 2010 by dockmandock
It sounds wonderful and beautiful.
21:22 March 8, 2010 by sissygirl
What the fxxx?! I am not impressed
22:43 March 8, 2010 by GLO
This is semi-Nuts...
01:05 March 9, 2010 by capt
Coed pillow talk-no thanks! More metrosexual c4ap.
02:44 March 9, 2010 by VicTaulic
I am an American and I have never been to a "Cuddle Party". Of course, it's been years since I've been invited to ANY party.
08:22 March 9, 2010 by Barnflicka90
This is a huge orgy. Thats all it is!
10:59 March 9, 2010 by J.Darling
Still, I could use a cuddle lol just would prefer one person i already know and like.
12:51 March 9, 2010 by Audrian
If it does not degenerate into orgy of sex, alcohol and fighting it is alright with me - though I do not count on it.
13:20 March 9, 2010 by soultraveler3
Lol, most people here think you're scary if you even make eye-contact with them and god forbid you say Hej! People run into each other all the time and can't be bothered to say excuse me.

Scandinavian culture is what it is though. They seriously think these parties will be a big hit here? :)

/cheers for trying I guess
14:46 March 9, 2010 by glamelixir
Are they that cold that they need to learn how to cuddle when they are adults?

Where were the parents to built all these things they are mentioning?

Oh true... they were left all day in dagis where they had to learn how to be individuals....Feel kind of sorry for them.
14:54 March 9, 2010 by Swedesmith
Oooo do you think they could play new age music and light some smelly candles? I'm all a twitter...
15:19 March 9, 2010 by Dinaricman
Odin help you all.
10:34 March 10, 2010 by ameribrit
Only in Sweden could we have a course to explain the rules for cuddling. He he, I love it here.
23:22 March 12, 2010 by Alasdair MacCorquodale
Wasn't this sort of thing origionally known as a '' Group Grope ''
00:11 March 13, 2010 by mjennin2
Wow...Just for the record, I am from Los Angeles and I have NEVER heard of this hästskit, faaaan. How is this appropriate at ALL? Kanske det är acceptabelt i ett land som Frankrike hehehe....men, Amerika? Sverige?? Nej, tack.
04:47 March 13, 2010 by dadgumgenius
I have lived in the US all my life except for the time I have spent in Sverige and I have never heard of a cuddle party.
09:17 March 13, 2010 by darrenj
I guess must be an "after after" cuddle party for the more uninhibited ...

Underlying sexual tensions exists in such cold countries
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