I just woke up from one of those nights that left you thinking. The honey moon period in Sweden has just ended and time came for me to realize where I was living. I am far away, I still don’t understand the social rules in which the country moves and sometimes I just feel alone or left out.
Yesterday again a party, as it has been since Tuesday. I go so often to this things that I know so many people and yet only one or two Swedish people total. Is like foreign students create a parallel society from the local ones and the bridges between them are scarce. I am not complaining, not yet. I think is only natural that foreign people are more open to meet new friends as everything they do is just new, however some of the best people I have met so far are Swedish.
After the party I decided to go to a nightclub, It sounded like a good idea until I was rejected the entrance for reasons I couldn’t understand. Then it hit me. I still don’t belong here.
But now Ill write about it, sometimes strangers are the best guidance.
Hey man, I was over there in Lund for a week. I went to a nightclub and met some cool Icelandic guys, and lets face it, we can’t complain about the women.
When I was over there i blogged a little about it on
http://totallysweden.wordpress.com/
Hopefully something on there will help you make more friends, please comment freely
Report abuse »
I hear you man. My 2 years here have been as you describe. Im very friendly, I like to do stuff and meet people. At some parties where only Swedes are, I realise that the people are old friends since dagis (nursery school) or high school.
As a ‘freebird’ Ive become accustomed to doing things alone, but going to clubs, I always get stopped.
I think this is unfortunate, because I really try to befriend Swedes, but I can’t say I have a Swedish friend, not one. Therefore I hang out with other new arrivals, as we have something in common…..really unfortunate
Report abuse »
Why do you get stopped? Surely there is a reason for it?
I think that it is good to meet new Swedish friends but it sounds like both of you have had it hard. Hope that it eases up for you.
It’s got me thinking now.
Report abuse »
Hello there, I can’t begin to comprehend what a life in a foreign country is like although I plan to one day move to another country myself, there will always be ups and downs but reading this makes me think what the hell is wrong with this country. I’ve actually considered to move to UK though atm I need to finish my studies. Getting new friends is always a pain in any place, but if people have a closed mind and prejudice it’s their loss that they couldn’t get to know who you are. Just hang in there is my best advice. Keep a smile on your face.
Regarding being refused to entrance to a local nightclub, I’m pretty sure that’s even illegal unless there is a very very good reason, people have even sued clubs for refusal of entry because they were example, black. I’m no party animal though so I can’t say from personal experience.
Report abuse »
Things have gotten a lot easier now. There were a lot of things I didnt see at that moment.
Report abuse »
Being Noob, I will be consistently seeking web-based for the purpose of reports that could advantages for me. Thanks
Report abuse »
Hesitate how to be a good thing?
Report abuse »