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Island of love, hope and humanity

Thursday, July 28th, 2011

A place that everyone can believe in

They boarded the bus to visit the camp site on the idyllic island near their temporary quarters. Mother, father, and four children had fled from Iraq and were staying in the country-side. Here, they waited to learn whether they would be allowed to stay in this country, where they needn’t fear for their lives each day. In order to break the agony of waiting for that day of judgement, the parents had decided to take their children fishing at a nearby waterfront camp site, where one could stand on the long docks and cast a line out towards the horizon. It was a beautiful evening: one that offered the hope of forgetting, even if just for a few short hours, so that the young ones could catch a glimpse of how childhood could be. All of them longed for their homeland, but it was too dangerous a place to be in. They told themselves that there were beautiful experiences to be had in this new land, to which they had reluctantly fled.

As they boarded, the bus driver – a local woman with family roots in the area – greeted them. The youngsters responded in the local language and held out their tickets. The parents remained silent behind their children, embarrassed that they had not yet picked up this language that was in every way foreign to their own. The bus driver looked into each of the children’s faces and smiled at them. She had children of her own and knew that these young ones had been through experiences that she could not imagine. She acknowledged the parents, thinking how bizarre it was to believe that her country’s problems were created by them.

The family disembarked from the bus and walked down the long path that cut through the middle of the camp site. To their left and right, they saw people enjoying the still summer evening outside their trailers and tents. The mood was open and friendly. No one stared at the outsiders, or, for that matter, thought of them as outsiders. This was a place for anyone who loved nature and the sound of the crickets as night fell.

Children playing football near one of the trailers kicked their ball in the direction of the Iraqi children. At first, the newcomers were afraid to kick back, not because they couldn’t play football (a national sport in their country), but because they had been told by their parents to keep a low profile. Ignoring their advice, the most forward of the children took a gigantic kick and sent the ball flying back. The children at the camp site cheered.

There were many boats moored at the long docks. The family walked quietly past them to the end of one of the docks and cast their lines toward the horizon. This evening it was in various hues of fuschia, orange, and yellow, no different than the sunset in Iraq. The boaters, many of whom were drinking coffee after dinner or having a night cap, watched the night entertainment with interest. Would they or wouldn’t they catch a fish? After an hour or so, one of the boaters emerged from her boat and offered the parents some coffee and biscuits, which they gladly accepted. The children’s eyes were wide with delight, as the boater offered them some cordial, and, most importantly, biscuits.

A fish bit onto one of the hooks, and the boaters collectively held their breaths. After an extensive struggle, the fish got away. The silence was broken by the father of the children, who began to laugh. It was the kind of  laughter loaded with the relief that there were good people here, and that life still had its beautiful moments. The boaters thought it infectious and began to laugh along. The parents looked back at the boats as their children continued to fish. For the first time, they felt a commonness with these people, who could laugh with them, sit in suspense with them, and share in the universal love of children.

I was one of the boaters this evening, and I know that this is how it can be on a Nordic island. Here, love, hope and humanity are so great, that there is no room for anything else.

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Written in memory of the victims of the Oslo and Utøya tragedies.

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Looking beyond four seasons

Saturday, August 15th, 2009
You'll never know if you don't jump

You'll never know if you don't jump

The children are still jumping off the dock into the gradually cooling water during these last golden days of Swedish summer. The autumn rudbeckia (view for the next few days in the Relaxation Room of nordicwellbeing.com) has reached its full height and is once again standing up tall and proud, having been battered by the hard rain of the first pre-autumnal storms. Soon it will be time to give up that morning dip, to set the alarm clock and to move the table cloth from the dining table outside to the one inside. No matter how many times I’ve had to do it, leaving behind the Swedish summer doesn’t get any easier.

My husband pours himself a glass of red wine and goes to sit on the terrace as the clouds gather and the rain threatens to beat down. “Come and sit with me”, he says. I bring my blanket and cup of tea and we sit watching the cloud formations moving at an amazing speed so that the rain passes quickly. Eventually the horizon is free of even the slightest blemish and the sky above the water line is lilac and cerise. My husband concludes that tomorrow will be a good day for that boat trip we have been thinking of doing around Lovö. My reaction is that the summer is just about over, so isn’t it a bit late? Time to phase out the fun, zero in on that desk and hunker down for the cold season.

On the following day, I brew some strong Swedish coffee and pack sandwiches for our tour around Lovö. Yes, its most famous landmark is Drottningholm Palace, a place which these days seems rife with love. Yet we are out to find out what else there is  (is there anything else?). We pass one of the first Swedish summer houses which was the childhood home of Swedish author and artist Gunnar Brusewitz. It is a vision of quiet beauty with its round terrace and classical statues. Then we pass through a place that we are not really supposed to because it is a water skiing school littered with water skiing jumping ramps. Eager not to have a water skiier land on us, we move along quickly.

During breaks we learn that Lovö is the home of one of the Lake Mälar area’s very few small-scale dairy farmers, a woman who is the face of dairy giant Arla. We also find that Lovö Church is the burial place of Carin Göring, the Swedish woman who had the misfortune of marrying one of Hitler’s henchmen. We pass the little waterfront paradise of actress Helena Bergström and director husband Colin Nutley, a Brit with an uncommon understanding of the soul of this country.

When you stop, look and talk to people, there is so much more than meets the eye. Yet you can only learn about these things if you are prepared to venture out after the first pre-autumn storms and to believe that there is life after a Swedish summer. Every day, every week and every month is its own season, but you’ll only know it if you are prepared to look beyond the artificial construction of our meager four.

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For more about Lovö visit http://www.lovohembygd.com/. You can walk it on foot by following the demarcated hiking path which passes through the forested area behind Drottningholm Palace.

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Twittering for Real

Sunday, May 24th, 2009
A sunny afternoon in Drottningholm Park

A sunny afternoon in Drottningholm Park

It’s the place where twittering isn’t 140 characters including spaces. It’s a place where your brain is allowed to be in a mode of  spontaneous rather than directed consciousness (leading to exhaustion and stress). It is a place where noticing the fine detail is a path to gaining a broader perspective, and where things are not at odds as they often seem to be wherever we look these days. There is flow which is the key to all authentically fulfilling experiences. The amazing thing is that it is usually free and you can go there at any time. Where is this and why aren’t people there more?

As you already know from my previous blog entries, I am a big fan of the park. What you might not know is that this 2009 marks 100 years since Sweden’s (and Europe’s!) first national parks were established and that today, 24 May, is the high point of this celebration. In honor of this happening, Naturens år 2009 has been established, a site filled with superb greenery, inspiration and events that all of you, my fellow tree huggers, will adore. Visit also The Swedish Society for Nature Conservation for more.

What is it that we should be celebrating? Parks, whether city parks or great national wilderness parks, have become  places where nature and its most avid offspring, humans, are learning to co-exist and even help one another along the way. In this sense, the park is a greenhouse of hope and optimism for the future of our planet.
Tulip beds in Drottningholm Park

Tulip beds in Drottningholm Park

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Doing Things Differently

Thursday, April 23rd, 2009

Sometimes it takes going against the prevailing trend to get somewhere. That sounds like hard work, not wellbeing. Yet, I believe the truth is that during any given day most of us have an idea, no matter how big or small, that actually suits us well personally but that doesn’t fit the way that other people seem to be doing things. Who hasn’t sat in a seminar room and abstained from asking a question because they thought it would be just too bohemian?

I recently spoke with the Managing Director of a Danish company which said “no” to the financial crisis when things became too unbearable in January(read the full interview which is going up today under Nordic Highlights at www.nordicwellbeing.com). Sound absurd? They not only announced this position as a part of their company policy, they also handed out stickers with smiley faces delivering the same message to anyone who wanted one. How many people were instantly attracted to this idea? Only the world’s leading media and 11,000 people on Facebook. The result doesn’t seem to have been a mass of instant contracts (not the intention according to this company), rather happy and proud employees.

So, Lucy and I charged out for our daily walk in the park yesterday determined to do things differently. We walked our usual path in the reverse. Nothing seemed to be happening for us. As we were approaching the small cottage with the fenced-in yard we noticed that the place wasn’t empty as usual. 10 exhilarated children under the age of five raced about in water-proofs in primary colors. A dagmamma (day care mother) applied a bandaid here, emptied a water-drenched rubber boot there and, amid all of this, attended to a gigantic grey sow attached to the fence at the end of a very long line. The voluptuous sow whose belly brushed the ground, snorted an unsatisfied sort of snort. The dagmamma responded with her one free hand by patting her on the head lovingly and comforting her with the words, “there, there, I know you want to participate”.

I couldn’t help asking whether the sow was hers. “Yes,” she said with a loving twinkle in her eye, “she’s mine and I just cannot leave her at home alone everyday”.  As I walked away I realized that this woman had added a truly new dimension to combining home and career.  I could hear her laughing, the children screaming and giggling and the sow snorting all the way home. There you go. Doing things differently isn’t always just work – it can be wellbeing.

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