Many gay people fortunately don’t hide their sexuality anymore. However, I read in the German lifestyle magazine Neon that some gay men started avoiding this topic again – but not because of shame and outmoded traditional values. They are annoyed by ‘gayophile’ women who desperately seek a gay best friend to use him as fashionable accessory, according to the magazine. Queer is cool!
I thought about this article since I have quite a lot of gay friends. When I was in high school I took dancing lessons and almost every guy who continued after the basic course was gay (I don’t like clichés but that’s actually true). Anyway, I made lots of gay friends there so that I started to go to gay prides and clubs when I was 17. Here in Sweden I don’t know so many gay people but sometimes I still go to the clubs. The music is fantastic (Madonna is best!) and there are no annoying men who don’t understand that I role my eyes and don’t wink at them.
Of course women love partying with their gay friends! It’s not just about that the most popular clubs are gay clubs like the Berghain in Berlin or that many gay men are interested in so-called ‘female topics’ such as fashion. It is also a certain statement and way of life that is conveyed if a woman goes to a party with her gay friend: I’m independent but not alone!
There are for sure some women who consider their gay best friends as fashionable accessories and that’s of course not ok. However, most women who ask their gay friends if they want to be their ‘plus one’ don’t have in mind to pep up their outfit. I think it is more likely that they don’t want to go alone to a party full of couples. Or what about the possibility that they like their gay friends and want to spend time with them??
Don’t listen to the miserable anti-hag fags. Where on earth would we fags be without our hags?
OK, it’s a fair point that some women view a gay best friend as an accessory. That’s always a bit irritating, but they’re the exception. In general, a friendship between a gay man and a straight woman can be hugely rewarding. It’s fun and it’s (usually) not complicated by sex. My only gripe right now is that all my hags are having babies. Boring.
But what I really don’t get is the idea that we would go back into the closet to avoid picking up unwanted hags. I mean, please – I like to think that most of us are socially competent enough to brush off unwanted advances!
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