An Alien in Sweden

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Archive for December, 2010

My 2010 in review

Friday, December 31st, 2010

Well here we are another year over a new one just begun as John Lennon once sang.

Usually at this time of the year I do a review of the year that I have had and also delve into my hopes and aspirations of what awaits me in the new forthcoming year. Yes I’m often guilty of making resolutions and breaking them very quickly but there is always one resolution or promise that I carry into the New Year with intent and desire and thus far over the past decade it is one that I have always carried out no matter how impossible it may have seemed at times. In fact it has been this way since the mid 1990’s but next year marks the beginning of the next chapter in my life.

Looking back a year ago my big goal in 2010 was to permanently move to Sweden which is a plan that had been in the making for two years and finally in October it became a reality. So this has laid the foundations to what awaits me in 2011. Just the mere mention of that number does send something of a shiver down my spine, the last year went very quickly but whilst it did I achieved more in the past twelve months that I have in any other.

But alas it was not all highs. I lost a very dear friend in Jessika who sadly passed away in the spring just aged 30. Yet it is her very existence in this world that put me into overdrive ensuring that my goals would be achieved this year. Life will never be the same without her, but in her memory I will live life for the both of us.

Next year’s goals is to stamp my mark in the writing world. This year has been quite frustrating with not only the level of writing that I have been producing but also on the publishing side. I finally completed my screenplay “Departure” and will begin the work on my new book “Neon” in the spring. I’ve gone through three publishers this year, one that has collapsed one that was just full of shit and I am currently with a smaller independent outfit. I think it was better to actually move to a smaller more reliable outfit rather than see my work gather dust by signing with a larger publisher. It is after all about exposure.

I also finally created an identity! Deanthebard! I know it sounds trivial and insignificant but when I looked at my internet presence I had so many usernames (blogs, Facebook, emails, twitter, writing etc.) so I decided to create one unique ID that will allow all of work and writing to be searched in one and I even went as far as buying deanthebard.com, Silly I know but it is always good to have everything under the same place.

Speaking of Facebook, I still cannot believe they closed my old account down. This was due to me trying to arrange a school reunion this year and as I found so many old friends that I had lost contact with I decided to add them all, they claimed I was spamming so they shut my account down. Certainly 2011 will see me less and less on Facebook and more on the rather excellent Twitter.

The use of social media is something that I will be doing more and more of in the next year, video blogging, podcast and increased blogging to ensure that my writing does not go too stale. No matter how busy I am there will always be room for more and more improvement.

I also have to be realistic and realise that there could be the chance that I have to return to the UK more and more, I have made Sweden my base but there is always the realisation that as time goes on there could be a temporary return to the UK but Sweden is the country I have chosen to make my home and nothing there will change.

So all in all 2010 has been an incredibly busy yet also rewarding year. I’m not going to make any bold predictions for 2011 but life is very good right now and I hope that this continues well into 2011.

Wherever you are, don’t be too drastic or hard on yourself as the midnight hour approaches look around you and you will realise that life is actually rather good. There are millions out there worse off than us.

Be kind to the ones you love, be happy to those who surround you and above all be true to yourself. Wherever you are whatever you are doing.
Have a wonderful New Year.

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God Jul!

Thursday, December 23rd, 2010

Wishing all in Sweden, The UK and wherever you maybe a very Happy Christmas!

God Jul!!

God Jul

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When the going gets tough I won’t be going

Wednesday, December 15th, 2010

There is so much negativity on this site lately when it comes to people moving to Sweden and then going back when it never works out for them. I’ve said it time and time again that the decision to move to Sweden was one that as an individual you have to make. Some will have it easy, some will have it hard but the decision is ours.

If we give up and go back to our native countries the minute something goes wrong then we need to question our commitment and reasoning for moving here in the first place. Was it love, work or a desire to see if the stereotypical view of the Scandinavian life was true? Whatever the reason it’s yours.

Life is never about waking up and knowing that it’s all going to be happy sunny days. Like me you are or were in a strange land, a place where the climate, people, laws and social ways are all different. This can simply be the best notion for moving yet alternatively it can also be the reason why many leave and go back home. For those who have gone home is it the end of a dream? Did your relationship end because of it, or was it circumstances outside of your control that led to this decision.

For me the choice is simple. I stay here for a reason and that reason is a collective source of different emotions, love, desire, and destiny and above all respect. It are these reasons alone that I will fight to the very end in order for this dream to stay alive and I will swim against any tide, climb whatever mountain possible for it all to succeed.

In the event where I do find it impossible to stay then of course I will return home, but unlike some that give up my return will only be one of temporary residence. I vow to return. Until the day comes where I am facing my darkest day I will enjoy the beauty that this country has and enjoy every single second.

For what other reason did I come here for in the first place except to live the best life possible. Those who face the dark days. Don’t give up so easily.

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Finally I see real snow

Thursday, December 9th, 2010

I’m actually walking in a winter wonderland

Flying back to Sweden a few weeks ago I was sat in front of three Australian girls. As the plane landed they were shrieking with excitement about the snow that was here. It was barely a few flakes, certainly not enough to build a snowman in. But you could tell from their excitement that it was the first time they had seen and also felt snow.

Well it’s been three weeks now since the snow arrived and though there has been the odd mad flurry it’s been fairly ok. What has struck me the most about the snow in Sweden is how soft it remains. This has been a question that I have been searching my mind madly for any sort of answer.

Back in the UK the usual inch or two has settled and as usual the entire country has come to a standstill, public transport is out fuel deliveries are low and the traffic is backed up for miles. So how can Sweden cope with over a foot yet the UK just collapse at a mere handful?

I really have no answer. My best guess is that the UK snow somehow freezes and turns to sheet ice whereas the snow in Sweden remains, as the carol depicts, deep and crisp and even. Yet the weather here is much colder. It’s on par with the temperatures back in Scotland and the snow is much softer there than it is in England, so I’m guessing it has something to do with the position of the countries. Maybe the closer to the artic you are somehow the snow is softer.

Whichever way it is a real experience to have such an amazing start to a winter this year, the snow is slowly melting and the rain looms ever closer. People say that Sweden is most beautiful in Spring, I have to disagree. I’ve seen this country in all seasons and when it is covered in a blanket of white it’s the most beautiful landscape imaginable.

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