An Alien in Sweden

A blog about my move from England and my new life in Sweden.
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Remembering why I moved to Sweden

Friday, July 27th, 2012

Even though I have been in Sweden almost two years now it is still all so new to me sometimes. Today was one of those instances where all I had to help me was my understanding of the language and common sense (yes I did have Itranslate app but that it’s cheating).

I was a little bored and decided to take the train to Linköping. On the train, the ticket inspector didn’t speak any English so it was a decent opportunity to talk Swedish to her. It went well, and I arrived safely. Walking around parts of a city I know are easy, that is staying in my comfort zone, but I decided upon venturing to different places, in a country where English is not the first spoken language you realise that you are totally out of your comfort zone.

Yet this afternoon reminded me of the decision to leave the UK and move to Sweden. I needed a challenge, I wanted to brush of the shackles of the past decade that I had in London and push myself to new boundaries. Of course, love was my main decision to move, but living somewhere new was also the main decision. It’s funny at times living here.

Often staring into someone’s eyes, as you don’t know exactly what they are saying to you. Reading signs and trying to recall the words you learnt in language lessons. Yet, for me, it makes it all the more exciting and challenging.

Sweden has been my home for 18 months now, and whilst I miss the UK Sweden feels more warming with each day. No doubt there are many challenges ahead, yet I wouldn’t move back for anything right now.

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One year one, what now for my blog?

Tuesday, December 20th, 2011

I have been in Sweden for a while now, and the past few weeks I was thinking what I could do with this blog. The main point of the blog was to express my move from the time I decided to move to the first few months after arrival. Through the time, this blog has been active I have learned a tremendous deal about Sweden, its culture, its people and most importantly how it is to live here.

The Local has been a tremendous resource for me to communicate and meet other people who have an affiliation with Sweden and I have even been giving advice of my own for some who are taking the decision to move here. There have been highs, and lows but this is par for the course when trying anything new.

After several months I finally landed the Right of Residence and the Personnummer is on its way. Things have changed for sure. Though this is my first Christmas here, it will be my third winter in total. I’m slowly getting used to things that I one found a novelty. The endless months of snow (though not so much this year!), eating wild boar on Christmas dinner and so on.

Yet though, I have been here one year on and off, I am far from being an expert. One thing that I have found about Sweden is that many only get to experience the tip of the iceberg before forming an opinion. They believe all that they read and acknowledge that as being the only way, which is not so. Sweden is a country with a wonderful heritage, a fantastic society and it takes time to understand the true beauty of this country.

Of course, things will not stay the same forever. Like my blog my direction in Sweden will change course over the next year and where I am twelve months down the line is anybody’s guess. But I certainly am not going to close this blog down. Whilst it was actually aimed at my first year here, I still have so much to learn.

The next phase of my Swedish journey is about to begin. I am not a newbie anymore; I am like the schoolchild who has stepped up the year in High school. I don’t know it all, but I certainly know more than others.

I hope that this blog continues to help, amuse and sometimes get under peoples skin. It’s nothing more than my own thoughts about one mans move from London to Sweden.

Thanks all for reading the past year and here’s to a happy 2012!

Göd Jul!

god jul

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Coming “home”

Friday, June 3rd, 2011

Sat here at 36000 feet on route to Stockholm. The sun is beaming down through the window, life is peaceful.

Reality suddenly hits me when I realise that I am flying “home”

Its now been 7 months since I moved to Sweden and time if I am honest, has gone very slow. I’m still in the same apartment, living in the same city. Since the long-harsh, winter ended Norrköping has suddenly come to life. The dullness of a cold and barren winter has been replaced by a wonderful spectrum of spring time colours.

Were talking about leaving, taking about moving to a new part of Sweden, but I don’t feel that I have explored this little city enough yet.

The trips to London have now become like shopping missions. Buying all the delicate treasures that you simply cannot buy in Sweden. In other words, vinegar, tumble fresh and branston pickle. How many of you have watched The Beach when Leonardo Di Caprio’s character has the endless shopping list on his jaunt to Bangkok? It does feel like this for me and I have already broken too many suitcases.

Yet life in Sweden is not all that cost. I still get stressed out when entering my pin code when shopping. I don’t know if I have to press the green button once or twice, it varies from store to store. For those learning Swedish, or planning a visit I seriously advise learning “Please enter your pin” as a primary lesson.

Though the fact that so many Swedes speaks perfect English still astounds me.

So where is home?

I guess it’s somewhere over the Atlantic.

There are days when I truly miss England, there are days when I need to be reminded that London exists.

Above all, I know that I am so lucky doing what I am. The traveling is cheap and I get to spend my time between two countries that I love. I know that this will not last forever so I will just make the most of it when I can. There is forever this horrible moment in life when you have a perfect scenario only or it to come crashing down.

I cannot predict the future, nor can I change the past. All I can do is live in the moment.

So from this rather lovely flight I leave you with my view.

There are dark days at times but, right now, life is a golden sunset.

sunset

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When the going gets tough I won’t be going

Wednesday, December 15th, 2010

There is so much negativity on this site lately when it comes to people moving to Sweden and then going back when it never works out for them. I’ve said it time and time again that the decision to move to Sweden was one that as an individual you have to make. Some will have it easy, some will have it hard but the decision is ours.

If we give up and go back to our native countries the minute something goes wrong then we need to question our commitment and reasoning for moving here in the first place. Was it love, work or a desire to see if the stereotypical view of the Scandinavian life was true? Whatever the reason it’s yours.

Life is never about waking up and knowing that it’s all going to be happy sunny days. Like me you are or were in a strange land, a place where the climate, people, laws and social ways are all different. This can simply be the best notion for moving yet alternatively it can also be the reason why many leave and go back home. For those who have gone home is it the end of a dream? Did your relationship end because of it, or was it circumstances outside of your control that led to this decision.

For me the choice is simple. I stay here for a reason and that reason is a collective source of different emotions, love, desire, and destiny and above all respect. It are these reasons alone that I will fight to the very end in order for this dream to stay alive and I will swim against any tide, climb whatever mountain possible for it all to succeed.

In the event where I do find it impossible to stay then of course I will return home, but unlike some that give up my return will only be one of temporary residence. I vow to return. Until the day comes where I am facing my darkest day I will enjoy the beauty that this country has and enjoy every single second.

For what other reason did I come here for in the first place except to live the best life possible. Those who face the dark days. Don’t give up so easily.

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Trying to be as “UnBritish” as I can be from now on.

Monday, November 22nd, 2010

I took a step back today and realised that something was wrong with the way things are going here in Sweden. This all comes from my recent visit to the UK.

I flew into London and after a few days’ work and meetings with my publishers and authors house I took the familiar route of going out with some friends and then after a few drinks hit my local Asda to stock up on things that I cannot get in Sweden. Yes I was armed with Vinegar, Reggae Reggae Sauce and other delights that I miss.

A few days later when I was back home I realised that something was not quite right. Let’s look at it in a simple way. Since I have got here every time that I have gone to a bar I have been ordering Guinness or Carlsberg, every time I have gone shopping I have been hunting for food that I had back in England, yes I’ve cooked Curry, Lamb Chops, Fish and Chips and of course my little gifts from the UK have ensured that each and every night I have had that little bit of comfort from home. Then of course there have been the nights that I have been using the internet to watch a collection of backed up UK TV shows that I have missed since I moved here.

Ok, so why did I not just stay back in the UK?

It seems that I have forgot why I am here, the real reason that I moved to a new country was to embrace it’s culture, enjoy it’s experiences and do things that I simply did not have the opportunity to do back home in London. So it all stops here.

The next time I go to a Swedish pub I am going to enjoy some real Swedish traditional alcohol, the next time I go shopping I may swallow some humble pie and actually try some Pickled Herring instead of cussing the fact that it seems Sweden loves chicken thighs rather than diced chicken. Yes I may even try some PeppaKakor instead of McVities Hob Nobs.

The TV though…well I do need one lasting comfort from home!

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13 days to go – Nothing else matters but Sweden!

Monday, September 13th, 2010

In less than two weeks I will be living in Sweden. Scary thoughts.

Most of my clothes are already boxed up and ready to go. I will be flying out in two weekends. The previous few weeks I have been very nervous about many things and I have been trying to make a joke out of how the little differences will be affecting my life.

But now it’s time to be realistic.

I am moving to Sweden because I love the country, I know the country and I want to be part of the country. The people are nice, the scenery is wonderful and it’s the Swedish culture that makes me realise that this is not only the place where I want to spend the rest of my life and raise a family.
a family.

Travelling is something that I have been lucky enough to do in my life and of all the countries where I have visited Sweden is the one that I always came back to time after time. Whilst I am moving to a new country and it’s quite scary times I will only return to the UK if it all goes badly.

But with the woman of my life by my side and a desire to succeed like I have never felt before. I know that this will be a decision that I will not regret, it is a decision that will change my life forever and I will overcome any challenges that come my way.

Nothing else matters but Sweden.

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19 Days to Go – I am really scared.

Monday, September 6th, 2010

Time is seriously going too fast.

I came to the sudden realisation today that it’s now less than three weeks until I move to Sweden. Whilst most of the blog to date has been a light hearted attempt at humour the sudden realisation of change is to me a serious one.

It’s not a sensation of fear as I am a person that thrives on the unknown, I love a challenge and I love a risk. No it’s more a fear of change. The realisation that every single aspect of my life will be different is something that will take a lot of adjusting. Language, law, society, social, food, economical and even the psychological structure of Sweden is far different from where I am used to.

I’m jumping head first into this one and it’s something I have never done before in mu life. But there is no going back now, I cannot change it and I don’t want to change it. Yet there is always the knowledge that if it all does go wrong then I can easily just return to the UK with a tail between my legs to start life again. But that is something that I do not want to do.

After spending a considerable amount of time reading this website from blogs to discussions it appears that the majority of people have struggled with moving to Sweden and that the main two reasons seem to fall into financial and social adjustments. I guess I am quite lucky in that I have a job that I will be carrying with me but that does not say that it will all be a bed of roses. In this day and age nobody can predict too far into the future.

Were still in an economic mess and it’s not going to end overnight but I do feel with enough planning, incorporating a sensible life strategy will really work in order to make the transition of moving to Sweden possible. Things will change and I need to ensure I do it all ahead rather than be surprised with anything that comes out of the blue.

So it’s just under three weeks now. Three more weekends, three more mundane Monday’s. No going back now.

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31 days to go – Don’t let the negative critics spoil your move to Sweden!

Wednesday, August 18th, 2010

31 Days to go –

Part of my investigation into moving to Sweden was to speak to as many people as possible on forums, in person or on social networking sites. Some were helpful, others not so but most seemed keen to share advice which is one of the reasons that I set up this blog.

For those thinking of moving to Sweden the forum on thelocal.se is a wonderful library of information, knowledge sharing and advice. Yet there are some people who are just so dismissive about moving that they seem almost intent on making sound as bad as possible.

We are all individual with different reasons for moving to Sweden. Some are moving for a change, some for love and others for work. No matter what the reasons it is not going to be an easy process. The world we are living in is in a financial mess, unemployment is up and the cost of living is increasing. On top of that moving to any country that has a different political, educational and cultural environment is always going to add to the challenge.

Some will find the move life changing; others will find it the opposite and will return home quicker than they anticipated. But it is all about the personal challenge that, for me at least, makes it something I will strive to succeed at. Those who only offer the worse negative advice just fly over my head I will not let them distract me.

There are going to be days that the move to Sweden seemed like the best decision I ever made, but I am old and wise enough to know that there will also be days where it seemed like the worst decision ever. That is called life, what comes with the good also comes with the bad, just as light follows darkness.

For anyone thinking or moving to Sweden my only advice is make it what you want to make it. There are hundreds if not thousands of us in the same boat and anyone that needs a friend or advice, I’m here. Were all in this together. Let’s not let the negative idiots drag us down.

Keep smiling!

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What shall I take with me?

Monday, July 19th, 2010

Well in five weeks time I will be in Sweden for one week. I’m planning to take an extra suitcase and pack as much as I can in so I then have room to take even more essentials when I move in September.

I have begun a mass clearout of what I own and it’s about 90% clothes. With the exception of my mobile phone and computers I won’t be taking any electrical goods with me. It’s a bit pointless as to ship it over is the same price as buying a new one.

One thing that has been a little strange is thinking of how much downsizing I have done in the past ten years since moving from Bristol to London. When I made the first move I had to hire a van to move all my things down. Now I can practically fit all I own in a car!

I’m in the process of packing things up into boxes and will then ship over the rest of the items I need around October/November time. I will need to take a lot with me but not so much that I have things I do not need.

Over the years I have become a rather experienced traveller, but going travelling and moving to a new country is a totally different ballgame!

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Here I come!

Wednesday, June 30th, 2010

I just realised that my blog says that I will be moving to Sweden in 2011.

Scrap that!

It’s now September or October 2010! This obviously means that I have more to do to prepare for the move than I actually have real time. The language lessons are coming along nicely, I no longer sound like a man with marbles in my mouth, yet still have the vocal talents of a four years old (They probably have better writing too!)

My knowledge of Sweden, I will admit, is good. Over the past six months I’ve been researching the history, political setup, geography and of course the culture. But reading this information and listening to all the podcasts in the world can never prepare you for a physical move to a country.

Knowing that it is only several weeks (10 and counting away) I realise that it’s not just a change of location, it’s a way of life. No longer will I be able to do the trivial things in life that I do day in day out. Walking to the shops and buying food without pulling out the old Iphone translator, giving people directions, understanding TV adverts and of course the most important of all, buying beer without being in the presence of my Swedish lady.

But life is never about standing still for me, it’s all about throwing down a challenge to yourself every so often just to prove that you have got the hunger, the passion and the desire to succeed in life. I may not know what goes on a Smorgasbord just yet, but through this choice of willing to move to a country to improve my life, I will.

So hello Sweden, the boy will soon be arriving. I guess I will now consider myself an official adopted Swede. Well, come on we adopted Sven Goran Eriksson for several years ;)

It’s going to be one amazing adventure!

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