(edit title) Dating a Swedish Girl? Courting in Sweden Options

[iheartbulle]

So, I really don't get them...

Been dating one for nearly 2 months, and it feels like its always me doing all the suggesting to meet up and do things? is this how it normally is with swedish girls?

I just cant read if she is into me or not. I mean we spend the night at eachothers places, but maybe she just is doing it to be polite? for sex? I dont know?

Like she went on holiday for a week now and i only received one text from her, and thats only because i texted here first.

Do I just need to be forward as thats how it is? Or should I leave it and see what she does?

If it helps, age range is in the 25 to 30 bracket.

[AW1]

Swedish or not... She's just not that into you.

If you want a better idea what's going on, ask her.

[chazza]

Try backing right off and giving her more space and she might just wonder if you are no longer into her.

women like a man who plays it cool and is not too easy to get.

[iheartbulle]

Funny all the advice, other people say, you need to chase a woman likes to be chased!

Anyway, I havent been too full on at all. I guess I'm just used to the girl being more proactive with things.

[chazza]

Then maybe she's just not into you.

[axiom]

From my little experience with Swedish women, I would be inclined to agree

[John.Smith]

Yep... she's not that into you and probably quite into herself. You are her 'inbetweener' until something else comes along.

Just as a test, stop being proactive and let her do the work and see what happens.

FYI... Swedish women are just like women from any other country, some like to be chased, some like chasing* etc... There is no written rule for how they behave or expect to be treated.

*speaking from experience of being a chaser and chasee (and once in university I was both at the same time )

[Svensksmith]

Find another girlfriend and she'll be calling you all the time.

[bobthedog]

Always leave them wanting more !

[skogsbo]

she is probably spreading herself a bit thin and you are one of many plates she is spinning and she can't afford to keep texting all of you. If one of you appears to become a front runner, the rest will get dropped. Think you should keep this plate spinning yourself, but look for a better plate at the same time. Better to have one really nice plate, than several you need to keep faffing with!!

[Wes]

Having experience in dating women of different countries, there is no set rule or way to act, sometimes they like you sometimes they don’t!

But it has very little to do with which country they come from, more if there is chemistry!

And what you need to learn is all women are not the same, there isn’t a mould somewhere some women are more affectionate than others!

If I was you though I would have this conversation with her rather than a public forum

[brenty]

Agree fully with wes. Think you should man up

[Wes]

Sounds a lot like my mate Ian?

[BeckyJL]

No!!

Ignore the whole chasing/being chased advice. Relationships aren't games *takes a deep breath*

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If you really like her then let her know, show her you care. Who cares if she doesn't reciprocate! Just don't play games and see how it plays out.

I hate it when guys play games, I text my guy when I want to text him and he texts me when he wants to text me. We send cute poems to each other just whenever we feel like it.

I don't feel I MUST reply to him to show him I am interested and yes I am so busy sometimes I forget to reply to his texts. I love him and the fact that I do or don't text back sometimes, has nothing to do with how I feel about him. I am just busy sometimes. It happens

If you want to engage her then do something together? Not just sitting and hugging but actually do something! There is nothing more flattering than a man taking time out of his day to do something I like with me.

But I would be careful about 'talking' to her, yes it can help but be sure not to be accusatory! It is really scary when someone confronts you and can lead to arguing and bad feelings and you don't want that.

I'd say, play it by ear. Enjoy her company and if it works out then great! If not then it's an experience with someone you cared about! Life is all about building great experiences, so focus less on your worries and more on having a great time with her

I'm not an expert though... By no means! But it seems to me like common sense? At least I hope it makes sense!

[Gamla Hälsingebock]

If she likes you well enough to sleep with you, then???????

What does she communicate to you when you are being intimate?

Pillow talk is important...what do you say to her?

Do you crave a "clinging vine" relationship?

Are you so insecure that you need constant proof of her feelings?

That's the problem with women...they make us doubt ourselves.