(edit title) Are Swedish girls "off limits" for foreigners? Why is this thread still here?? Options

[*Trowbridge H. Ford*]

Just another example of Skogsbo overstating and overplaying nature's power.

I would still be here, though the little birdie has apparently died.

Have ignored the offers of bargain-basement viagra, penis enlargement kits, and obliging bimbos, that some trolls keep sending me, and have made no independent efforts to revive him nyself.

It will come to you too, some day, but don't fear it as it is much more liberating then you think or feel.

[Svensksmith]

When I'm your age, Trow, and the flame dies out, then so be it. Until then, I'm going for broke.

[adiman83]

But he ain't getting laid.

Who, me?

[adiman83]

If you were talking about me it's true I'm not getting any but I can't just run off to Denmark and pay a professional everytime I need a "piece of tale". It's kind of expensive, you know! I'd be completely broke in notime.

sorry for the double post but the Edit button dissapears quite fast apparently

[Svensksmith]

Getting married isn't cheap, either.

[adiman83]

I'm sure it's not but I can't constantly remind myself that the only way to get some for me is to pay for it.

[Shibumi]

adiman- what makes you so exceptional that you will never find a woman to share your life with in spite of the fact that an overwhelming majority of men do, in fact, find women who agree to spend long stretches of their lives with them? What's so special about you?

[adiman83]

What's so "special" about me?

Let's see. First of all is the absence of friends because of a total lack of social skills. And I can't think of any way to improve those skills because I have no activities to fill my time with that would involve interacting with other people. And I did try searching for some evening (or week-end) classes or activities but since I don't really speak Swedish there are no such things in Gothenburg ... I am taking language classes but my progress is very slow because I don't have a talent for foreign languages and I can't seem to grasp this language.

The second thing that makes me "special" as you say: I have absolutely no courage to talk to women and no idea how to do that in the first place. Everytime I find myself in a place with women around and possibilities of socializing I'm absolutely terrified and I can't move or say a single word.

The third and most important thing on the list is the complete lack of opportunities: I live in a residential area full of very rich families with small kids so meeting someone there is out of the question and my job is of such nature that completely removes any such possibility.

There are many other issues I can't think of right now.

The truth is I need help finding someone because I'll never be able to do it on my own.

You wanted to know what's so "special" about me, here you go!

[skogsbo]

What's so "special" about me?. You wanted to know what's so "special" about me, here you go!

basically you just lack confidence, nothing else wrong with you then.

You might find that practising your weak Swedish at these clubs, will rapidly improve it. If you have no life at the moment etc etc.. then what have you got to lose by venturing forth?

Internet dating? Singles holiday? Holidays that relate to pastimes and interests? There are opportunities abound, but they won't come to you on plate, you need to go meet them half way.

[adiman83]

I tried every single internet dating possibility I could think of with absolutely no degree of success. My profile was never visited and my messages never got replied. The same situation on every internet dating place possible. And holidays never helped me with this because of the same confidence and comunication issues.

To summarize my "what's so special" post above in one sentence: I'm just to stupid to find someone for a long term or short term thing. And it's not me saying this, I'm just quoting many people that told it to me straight into my face.

[Gamla Hälsingebock]

Why not post a picture of yourself here and then let's see where that goes...you may find a female friend.

Go on...do it!

[skogsbo]

I tried every single internet dating possibility I could think of with absolutely no degree of success. My profile was never visited and my messages never got replied. The sam ... (show full quote)

I tried every single internet dating possibility I could think of with absolutely no degree of success. My profile was never visited and my messages never got replied. The same situation on every internet dating place possible. And holidays never helped me with this because of the same confidence and comunication issues. ... (hide full quote)

chances are your internet dating site wording was as interesting as some of your posts here. Do you have a friend anywhere, ideally female, somewhere in the world, who can help you re-write your dating profile? Write in Swedish, not English if you can, or at least most of it.

[adiman83]

Why not post a picture of yourself here and then let's see where that goes...you may find a female friend.. Go on...do it!

Challenge accepted. You wanted pictures, here you go:

http://img98.imageshack.us/img98/8483/64533151.jpg
http://img856.imageshack.us/img856/6055/51185629.jpg
http://img259.imageshack.us/img259/6231/33074186.jpg
http://img85.imageshack.us/img85/8114/52356089.jpg

Happy now?

chances are your internet dating site wording was as interesting as some of your posts here. Do you have a friend anywhere, ideally female, somewhere in the world, who can hel ... (show full quote)

chances are your internet dating site wording was as interesting as some of your posts here. Do you have a friend anywhere, ideally female, somewhere in the world, who can help you re-write your dating profile? Write in Swedish, not English if you can, or at least most of it. ... (hide full quote)

I tried that once but the result was the same. But not in Sweden because I have no female friends in this country. Actually I only have 2 friends and both of them are male and non-swedish.

[skogsbo]

ok, only looked at the first one, ditch any pictures of you looking nerdy in your dad's old coat with an old camera in your hands. Pick a more interesting background, but not one right where you live. Make the photo a talking point? So someone might ask you is the mountain in the background so and so, is that lake, church, cafe... whatever? |You photographed under in front of some novelty. Even if you are a dull as dishwater, make yourself appear interesting. You get the idea.
Perhaps a smile, or a pic that doesn't show your face full on, if you always look you like someone just robbed your wallet.
Lie about your interests a little, expand them, if you only like playing computer based role play games, carrying old cameras, whilst wearing a tramps jacket, you ain't going to get many replies.

[Svensksmith]

I've seem far uglier guys with girlfriends.