(edit title) Are Swedish girls "off limits" for foreigners? Why is this thread still here?? Options

[Gamla Hälsingebock]

Wait a minute!

I'm 73 and the most important thing in the world, IS having a girlfriend and getting laid...you better really leave now, because you are starting to "creep" people out.

TaTa

[Elf_Moon]

I've not been following this thread, I also don't intend to read 24 pages O.o

What I want to say is that you will find someone It will also happen when you least expect it, it will be the most unlikely person you ever thought of as well maybe.

I should tell you that not all of us 'find' people or 'get laid' early in life. I found my first real boyfriend at the age of 19, though that's relatively early and if I'm honest I started dating him to make my family happy and stop the lesbian jokes *sigh*

My boyfriend was single until he found me at 24. I'm his first girlfriend.

My best friend is 26 and she is now in her first relationship.

My sister has been 'single' for 5/6 years I think now.

What do they have in common? They are all very good looking, great personalities and just wouldn't settle for anything but the right thing.

Maybe internally you are just looking for the right person and maybe when you approach women it's more that you don't completely feel they are right for you (that kind of thing really does show up in your body language and women pick up on that super easily.)

You won't be alone forever! Besides, you don't have to be in a relationship to not be alone! Who ever gave you that idea? Make friends if you are alone!

And stop worrying about finding someone early in life. You should have plenty of time on you yet. Just get on with things and see how things pan out!

[Gamla Hälsingebock]

Read the whole post...you will find that he has been told what you said multiple times...your good intentions are lost on this troll...

[Svensksmith]

adiman, if you're not going to use it, please cut your willy off and mail it to me. I need a spare in case mine wears out.

[oddsock]

I think foreign guys from the past are just to make Swedish woman's CVs look good for when they finally meet Mr. Swede.

[mexican boy 2012]

Hi Adiman!

Im a guy from Mexico, i just read your article and i know exactly how you feel. I think the most of people here dont really understand you. Your problem has nothing to do with your personality or social skills, but with your status as foreing in Sweeden.

Like i said, im from Mexico but i live in Germany sinde 3 years and here is pretty much the same. No german girl looks at me, never. And everytime i go to a club girls get angry and tell me too leave them alone. Ok, im not very handsome, but also not ugly. Im not fat or something like that and i do care about my apperance. But that doest change anything. Besides, i speak very good german since i have learned this language almost 5 years in my country and im studing german literature at the university. So its not the language. The problem is that im darked haired. And usually dark haired guys are turks or arabics. And germans have problem with these people. In many clubs the bouncers dont let those guy come in. Germans call everybody with dark hair "Südländer", wich means "southerner", meaning turks or arabics. And usually they cant make difference between turks or latins. So if u are from Italy, Spain, Portugal or Rumania you still a "southerner" for them. Many girls are told home, they should get that kind of boyfriend.

So i can imagine the situation in Sweeden is pretty much the same. Dont feel bad and trust me, its not you. Its the country. You cant be exotic there because you are not the first guy with black hair they have ever seen. They already know a lot of arabs and turks who have been living there for the last 20 years and many are afraid of these people because of Islam and also because they say that among these groups there is a high level of criminality. The worst part is that many of these people dont speak the local language, even if they have live there for 10 years! Because there are big groups and keep speaking turkish or arabic home, so they dont really feel that they have to learn sweedish.

An this means: If you are darked haired and dont speak good swedish girls are not going to think that u are the nice, foreing erasmus student who is trying to meet a hot blonde, but the islamic, macho agressiv guy who after 15-20 years still dont learn the language, who probably lives in some ghetto and is trying to get married a local girl just to get the nationality and stay in the country. Im sorry my friend, but its like that.

So, i already told you why u are not being so successful as u wanted. Now im gonna tell you, what u have to do to get the girl of your dreams. I did this myself and i can asure u that it really works. The solutions is to go to a country where u are really exotic, new for the local girls. But as u alrealy probably now, this cannt happen in rich countries such as Englad, France, Germany, Holland or Skandinavia for the reasons i already mentioned. The only solution is Eastern Europe, it means Poland, Russia,Ukraine, Slovakia, Hungary etc. Of this least you have to check which of them belong to the European Union, just in this way u can be erasmus student there.

My choice was Poland.I spent there the best time of my life. Poland is a relativ poor country compared to Germany or England, but still better than african countries or Latin America (dont forget im from Mexico and know what im talking about).Anyways, for some reason, german, french and other people from better countries dont want to go there. It means, if u want to be there its not going to be a problem because there is gonna be a lot of places for erasmus students. I was living in Rzeszów, a city near of the ukrainian border. And in the first few days my life changed. Beautiful, green or blue-eyed girls were smiling at me in a lot of places, In the bus, the backery,everywhere! and the best was in the university. I was like a star there, since i was the only foreing in that faculty. Many girls told me, im the first foreing they have ever talked with. I was often in discos and it was not a problem at all to dance and flirt with girls. I still can remember one night, when i kissed 3 girls on a party!! And girls often keep saying that the like my dark eyes and hair.Just because im different.

Ok, i could write a book about all my adventures with polish girls, but that is not the point here. What i wanted to tell you: You are not the problem, its the country. In Latin Amerac is the same. Every white guy can get easily gils because almost nobody is white there, so he is something new. If u are white, to have to go to Latin America or mayba Asia. If u are dark, than Eastern Europe. Forget Skandinavia and all rich countries in Europe, there are all the same and u will be alone. I was living for a while in Danemark and it was the same like in Germany or England.

I returned to Germany about 5 months ago. I sometimes go to discos here to listen to music or drink something, but i know that is useless to try to talk to girls. I just want to finnish my studies and there go back to Poland or Ukraine for real party with girls! Maybe you should try the same

Pd: In Poland for example you have to learn polish if u want to pick up some girls because usually they dont speak english at all. But when u see all those beautiful babes u will be really motivated for it. With luck u will find in a few time your own "private teacher" like i did

Powodzenia i do widzenia!

Francisco

[Migga]

get the girl of your dreams . i kissed 3 girls on a party!!. girls often keep saying that the like my dark eyes and hair.Just because im different.

Hola Francisco

Let me give you a tip. Don`t fall for the romanticized and sexualised myths of the white, northerneuropean, blonde woman. Or any other group of women. It will only leave you with broken dreams. Live your life and fall for a woman that you like, not just someone who looks like the ideal. Did you ever met a german girl in person before leaving for Germany? Did you ever visit Germany before you made up the dream about the perfect woman? I mean how can you know that you like a group of women when you haven`t lived with or met them? That just shows you have made up a stereotype of the perfect woman in your head, not from real experience. If you have extensive experience before leaving for Germany then Ì guess I`m wrong, but you make it sound like you didn`t.

Given your post it`s obvious that you failed with your trip to find a girl of your dream in Germany. When faced with this you put up the defences and start blaming it on the germans. Did you ever think that you might have some responsibility regarding what happend and that you were there for the wrong reasons? I think most glorified groups of women get tired when foreign men come from abroad and wants to get with them. Especially if it`s from a poorer country. If it wasn`t for the fact that you found a poorer country where you could exploit the women because they haven`t met enough of exotic foreigners yet it would probably be a total fail. But I`m not sure that it isn`t. You said it yourself that they like you just because you are different. That`s really sad, they don`t like you because of who you are but because you are different? Do you really wanna go through life like that?`

Live your life, search yourself about what you like in a person and then go find the girl that fits the description to share your life with. Don`t fall for some glorified propaganda. The last thing you should do is to run to the other side of the world with no prior experience and a made up picture in your head about your "dreamgirl". You will fail and it just shows how shallow a view of women you have.

[mexican boy 2012]

Hi Migga,

thanks for your opinion. But it think u also have to accept that not everybody is the same and has the same goals. To be honest, i dont really care now about the big love. I still young and i just want to have fun. But dont missunderstand me. I dont like to lie or to play with anybody. I want to go to a party and dance, flirt , kiss and maybe more with a girls who likes me and i like her. And of course its about the look.

And the fact about sex with white women is not a myth, but the reality. Like i said, im mexican and i know that in my country for example many girls dont even like oral sex because of the religion. And i think in the most countries in Latin America is the same problem. I have had sex with some mexicans girls in the past and they were all pretty much the same. I was tired of stuff like "please turn off the lights", " dont look at me" " oral sex is a sin" and like that.

On the other hand, i had experiences with american, finnish, polish, russian and ucranian girls and most of them were absolutely fantastic! They are really open to a lot of thins on bet. Its the culture, i dont know. I have never been with a swedich girls, but im sure they are similar. Anyway, i dont care about scandinavian at all. Im happe with women from Eastern Europe. Im in not exploting or using anybody. I like them and they like me and thats it. What is so wrong with it?

So your question is: how can i know that i like those women before been in those countries? The answer is pretty easy: I have watched a lot of porn since i was in the school and i always knew that i wanted to be with white, liberal girls. Of course i have a heart,but im planning to look for a wife maybe not until 5 or 10 years. But even if i want to get in love before, it will probably in a country or Eastern Europe. Because those women (most of them) are simple, good hearted people, who dont look at me like something inferior because i come from a poor country.

Germans,americans, english or scandinavians feel they are the best of the world because they have a good economy and thats why those women dont want to be with foreing men. I have here in Germany friend from arabic countries who suffer a lot because they go to the clubs and look at hot girls but cant get any. I dont know, but if the price of living and working in a country with good, stabil economy is to be alone and ignored i prefer to be in the last corner of Ukrania or Kazakhstan with few money but with a beautiful girl who likes me , it doesnt matter if it is because of my exotic look or my heart, what it matter is that the chemisty exist.

[jack sprat]

With regard to the topic , re Swedish girls, limits and foreigners,... I'm all for it.

I suggest that us "foreigners" should set a our own limit on Swedish girls, out of respect for all the sad Swedish guys who have to resort to buying themselves a stick insect in Thailand.

I have decided to impose my own personal limit of a maximum of three at any one time.

After all these Swedish women can be a bit demanding at times and as I confess to being slightly past my peak,,... then three at a time 'll dee for me.

[jack sprat]

...or maybe even two, after a night on the tiles

[Migga]

Germans,americans, english or scandinavians feel they are the best of the world because they have a good economy and thats why those women dont want to be with foreing men.

My point is that as long as a group of women are glorified globally or sexualized in porno there will be an influx of foreign men going to those womens countries with some made up dream image in their head. Even more so if the men come from a poorer country. When they notice that reality isn`t like they imagined they can turn bitter, go online and make strange comments about the people living in those countries. At the same time they totally ignore their own responsibility and that that their approach towards these women, thinking they are pornostars, is`nt helping.

I don`t think white, educated and liberal women are interested in men that grow up with the only view of them being from pornomovies. To say western girls don`t want to be with foreign men because their countries have a good economy is laughable. If anything their good economy allowes them to have higher standards and choose for themselves which men they want to have fun with. Not their family, fathers, brothers, sisters, friends, bank account, norms, traditions or priest. I`d like to think that for the most part the Northeuropean countries are developed enough where women don`t submit to any man because they are a man or are attracted to having fun with foreign men because it`s considerd taboo or exotic. Atleast when I compare to Eastern Europe. I think that`s the reason behind why foreign men with a more religious, conservative and porn influenced background may have it more difficult.

I believe that North European women are more openminded then East European women, just because North Europeans don`t wanna have sex with men whos only experience of them is from pornomovies doesn`t mean they look down on foreigners. It`s the Eastern European women who just find men interesting because of their exotic looks that one should be suspicious of. I`d be more relaxed around people who don`t focus on "exotic" looks and can see past any naugthy taboo. East European women are hardly liberal or non religious when compared to North European women. It seems you want white submissive girls who goes for taboos and finds it "naughty" to have fun with "exotic" looking men. I`m not surprised you had an easier time finding women of that sort in poorer countries that are conservative, religious and unequal.

[mexican boy 2012]

Hi again!

I think u are right in some points. Of course women dont like been compared to pornstars. But its is what happens in the mind of many men. I just dont have to tell them.

And u are right also in the point, that in countries like Poland the situation of women is little bit more unequal . But the difference is not really big. Women also go to university and get a jobt and sometimes a better job that a man. Polish girls are theorical very religios. Many of them go to church every sunday and carry a "pierscionek-rózaniec", some kind of ring with a rosary engraved on it. I also thought at the beginning that they would be hard because of the religious. But its not like that. The religion there is for the most just part of the culture, but not of their own life. They like to drink a lot, i have seen 18 yea old girls with a bottle of vodka outside of the school of drinking in a park. They like to wear very shot skirts, high heels. They are vera sexy and feminine, so nothing to do with religius. In Mexico iits very different. The women dont wear many realigious stuff but in the summer they dont even dare to wear a skirt because "its not moral". Their parents are always after them looking that they dont look "like street women".

When summer comes mexican men are happy in the south looking for the springbreakers, it means usually americans or europeans who make party in Cancun. Because they are the only ones who make crazy things, like getting naked and drinking everyweher, while mexican girls still "moral", but boring for us.

So u are wrong if u think that East European women are prude because of the religion. They are not. They are the same open ans sexually liberal like North Europeans. But the difference is, that they like foreingners, dark skinned men, and North Europeans dont, or rarely.

I think im life its about to be happy. And why should a be in a place where im just being rejected?

I had before complex of inferiority when i arrived to Germany. I was wondering who nobody likes me, i got a lot of depression, was even thinikg of suicide and had to go almost one year to a psychologist for these reason. The only women i could ever touch were those in the brothel. In am sure a lot of men in Scandinavia are living the same hell.

Just try to answer theis question. Who do u think girls are being raped in Oslo? I have never been there, but i have read that many girls have been raped in park over there. And the rapers are always africans or guys from arabic countries. Now u will say, that they rape because of their religion, culture bla bla. But the reality, as i can see it, its very simple: they rape because the local women dont want anything with them.Im sure those guys who have raped didt arrived a few days fefore to the country. For sure they have spent a lot of time there until they got frustrated and desperate (and maybe could affort the visit to the brothel there).

Of course raping is a very bad thing. Im just saying, why this happend. In a nutshell: despair. Some men can get really crazy if they dont get sex at all. What those men dont know, is that they would be much happier in Eastern Europe. They would get women there easily , so they would never have to rape anybody. So simple is that.

When i arrived to Poland and i saw those beautiful girls smiling at me i realized that the world is big enough to be happy and that there are more girls than those fu*** germans and danish racist.

Im sorry, but for me its more important to get girls than good money. Besides, just foreing men are in this situation. Foreing women can everywhere get a man, lover or get laid. I know many mexican girls here who are married to a german guy. German men of course are not so racist as german women. They like to have foreing women.I was surprised when i was in a local language school and i found all spanish teachers from Mexico. They were all women and got a german lastname. Here a "María Stockmayer" or " Guadalupe Köster" there. One of them told me, they got a german men and thats why they came here. Vary nice. But it doest work in the opposite direction. I dont know any german girl married to a mexican. Its obvious. First of all, because the most latin men i know here are all the time being confused with Turks. So now wonder that nobody want to talk to them.

This is the way it is. Maybe its me, maybe im just to stupid to get german, english or scandinavian girls and thats why i have to look in the last corner of ex comunist countries. And maybe all my arabic, latin and turkish friend are the same stupid as me. Who knows?

But if its no the money, the race, the parents or the religion the reason why those girls turn us down, so i just cant imagine what the reason is. And more important, i have not idea, how to changed this.

Good night!

[Migga]

So u are wrong if u think that East European women are prude because of the religion. They are not. They are the same open ans sexually liberal like North Europeans. But the d ... (show full quote)

So u are wrong if u think that East European women are prude because of the religion. They are not. They are the same open ans sexually liberal like North Europeans. But the difference is, that they like foreingners, dark skinned men, and North Europeans dont, or rarely. ... (hide full quote)

I don`t think they are prude, I think there is a level of submissive behavior. Not open minded or liberal, when compared to north europeans, but submissive towards men. Both native and foreign men. Something that comes from a conservative, traditional, unequal and religious culture. I`d think open minded people would like another person because they saw an equal they liked and not because someone is dark skinned, dark haired, foreign, different or exotic. That seems very shallow, insecure and narrow minded if one did fall for those factors.

The only women i could ever touch were those in the brothel. In am sure a lot of men in Scandinavia are living the same hell.

No not really. The few that are do like you do and go to a poorer country where another group of stereotyped women live. In that case it`s Thailand. But I sure hope they don`t go online and write rubbish about previous groups of women they`ve been in contact with and call them racists.

Just try to answer theis question. Who do u think girls are being raped in Oslo? its very simple: they rape because the local women dont want anything with them.

So it`s the local womens fault for getting raped? They get raped because they are racists who don`t sleep with foreign men and turn the men into rapists? The women are to blame?

When i arrived to Poland and i saw those beautiful girls smiling at me i realized that the world is big enough to be happy and that there are more girls than those fu*** germans and danish racist.

So you didn`t have any luck in Germany or Denmark and that means all the women there are racists?

Foreing women can everywhere get a man, lover or get laid. I know many mexican girls here who are married to a german guy. German men of course are not so racist as german wom ... (show full quote)

Foreing women can everywhere get a man, lover or get laid. I know many mexican girls here who are married to a german guy. German men of course are not so racist as german women. They like to have foreing women. ... (hide full quote)

You seem to have a very set view about women, or atleast some groups of women. Mostly the ones from your own country and the northern european ones. Are all women who don`t date foreign men racist? You sound very bitter.

But if its no the money, the race, the parents or the religion the reason why those girls turn us down, so i just cant imagine what the reason is. And more important, i have n ... (show full quote)

But if its no the money, the race, the parents or the religion the reason why those girls turn us down, so i just cant imagine what the reason is. And more important, i have not idea, how to changed this. ... (hide full quote)

Well going online and claiming that german or western women are racist won`t help.

[Coolrunnings]

Hmmm... seen plenty of middle east guys and blacks going out with swedish women in public. Guys from middle east and africa are very agressive and assertive, even if they are ugly and have loser status written all over them.

Besides you're not missing much. So many of them swedish girls in the cities have hairy bodies, are shallow and socially very boring.

On the other hand, swedish women in small towns are very social and fun lovin...

[Yorkshireman]

So u are wrong if u think that East European women are prude because of the religion. They are not. They are the same open ans sexually liberal like North Europeans. But the d ... (show full quote)

So u are wrong if u think that East European women are prude because of the religion. They are not. They are the same open ans sexually liberal like North Europeans. But the difference is, that they like foreingners, dark skinned men, and North Europeans dont, or rarely. ... (hide full quote)

Whilst there is a standard stereotype that Swedish Men go to Thailand for their girls, there is an equal stereotype that the Swedish women actually go to Africa for young men. So, not so smart if they are not interested in dark skinned men!.

@mexican ...Your words can be summerised in a few words 'she wouldn't sleep with me, she must be a racist'. ...which kind-of reminds Me of the standard man-joke ...'I asked her out and she said no ...she must be a lesbian'.

In relationships, let's call it the mating game, underneath the surface there are subtle things that play a very significant role that you may or may not realise, that can be summed up in the phrase 'You attract what You project'. This is why many men/women end up with the same kinds of partner, relationship after relationship. without realising it.

In your respect, you are clearly out projecting that Germans, Nordic gals are racist, and you only want to f*ck ...they with/without realising it pick up that (sub)conciously. When You go into Eastern Europe, maybe those girls are just looking for that kind of relationship ...but, in the 5-10 years time when you are looking for a wife ...those girls will pick up on that, and will reject you. You attract what You project ...