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Are Swedish girls "off limits" for foreigners?

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byke
post 10.Dec.2012, 08:42 AM
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Whether racism comes into play regarding Swedish women's views on "foreign men".
We also must remember that the SD party are ever gaining more ground which shows an ever increasing sentiment in society. Be it the way that Swedish men or Swedish women view "foreigners".

So its not surprising if certain minorities feel they are given the cold shoulder.

A sentiment in which combined with nationalism and socialism its not so hard to understand why Sweden and many Swedes were so supportive of the Nazis regime when it came into power. Kings don't threaten to abdicate, and send letters of admiration to nazi leaders for nothing.

I would like to add, that I am often foreseen as a foreigner.
Not by my skin colour, and I don't dress shall we say in the same "chic" way many Swedish men do.
But the greatest distinction is my use of the English language exclusively.

And with that in mind, I do actually have a Swedish wife of almost 20 years.
So what I am saying, is its not impossible.
You either have to be the right type of foreigner (certain races or creeds may have greater status than others) or you have to make yourself more attractive in terms of your individual selling point.

I don't think many swedes, 20 years ago considered the name zlatan very Swedish.
Yet he seems to have scored himself a Sweish girlfriend.
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mexican boy 2012
post 10.Dec.2012, 09:48 AM
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" I`d think open minded people would like another person because they saw an equal they liked and not because someone is dark skinned, dark haired, foreign, different or exotic."

What are u talking about Migga? Are u trying to tell me that u never liked a man because he looks good? So why are so many girls over there who love fotball players , rock stars or even guys like Justin Bieber? Do u think its because they are their twin souls? You are funny.

I cant say that all women in Denmark and Germany are racist. But maybe i just have had bad luck meeting racist ones. Are u happy now?

There was even a time when i was trying to meet girl on internet. Many girls there write stuff like "if you are a Südländer (southerner) dont write to me/leave me alone." Is that not racist?
Im sorry, im so wrong. Would you call nazis from WW II racist just because they killed some millions jews in concentration camps? C´mon! =)

There is a lot of guys for example in Norway who think that norwegian girls are racist. Just read this :

well, i live in norway.
Most of norwegian girls they dont date black guys.
Norwegian girls are very rasist.
In norway about 10 por cent of norwegian girls they married a black guys.
she very dificould for a black guys to have a norwegian girl friend.
Norwegian girls are so cold, not friendly.
Well im a black guys, and i know a norwegian girls.
they dont like black guys.

http://www.topix.com/forum/afam/TK7LPHOPC4AQ2NLEC/p20

I think North European countries are for sure a nice place to be and have a very good education. But if you are a yound guy looking for fun with girls u are there in the wrong place. Actually this all started because of the post of Adiman83 who was like erasmus there.

Do u think its ok that this guy is suffering there and being alone all the time? Maybe i should remind you that there is a lot of fat, ugly white european men who come to Latin America to get easily women? What about that? I meet once an austrian guy in my city and he got a lot of girls because he was the "wealthy european". Actually he was not wealthy at all, he got epilepsy and got every month about 600 euro from the austrian state to live. Not so much money home, but a fortune in Mexico, considering that u can find a nice place to live for not more than 150 Euro.

Also black men get a lot of fun there. I met once a black dude from Alabama who was on vacation there. I could just believe how easy was to pick up girls there. He told me, he actually never got anything with a women in the US, Nor white or black or something else. And suddendly he comes to my country and in the first week hes getting laid, without speding any cent. He said "its funny to be negro (nigger) in Mexico".

I mean, i have nothing against this. Im happy for those dudes who can finally get a girlfriend or at leat get laid somewhere. Why not? Do you prefer them to stay in their countries alone and frustrated forever? Why are u so egoist?

And dont u think guys from another countries, for example like me, deserve the same chance? Thats why i came to Europe. I wish that somebody had told me before that Germany was the wrong place to make my dreams come true. I would have gone directly to Poland if i knew this. But anyways, it belongs to the past.

Actually like a said, i have never beet to Norway or Sweden. Maybe its no so bad as i think. I just have read about frustrated men like Adiman83 living there. I was in a small city in the south of Danmark an it was bad. There was a guy there,, a Turk, who was born there and tall me to forget about talking to gild because they dont like foreings at all. I assume he knows the place better than me since he was born there.

But to your post Coolruning: I might consider to visit someday one of those small towns you said.Why not? Just to try my luck.

And Yorshirem: Maybe u got some prejudices about mexicans. I know that in Europe many people believe all mexican are small and fat, To your information im 1.82 cm. And i think usually the only swedish women who go to Africa looking for fun are old and fat. They dont get the attenction of local men anymore so they go to poor countries like Somalia and get some guys on the beach for some dollars. That doesnt help me so much. Im not black dude living in those countries and i dont want to have sex with fat women for money. Any other suggestion?

And about that joke of" I asked her out and she said no ...she must be a lesbian'. i can tell you
an anecdote. I went to some club a few months ago. I realized that this time there were a lot of girls there. I started talking to a girl who was staying alone. She just said " no thanks". Then i aproached the second girl. This one said "sorry, i dont like men". I found a few minutes the third one. She said "tell me, did you know that this is a gay-lesbian party"?

So, as u can see. If she says no...she might indeed be a lesbian wink.gif
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Yorkshireman
post 10.Dec.2012, 12:31 PM
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Is it racism or is it personal freedom of choice, preference?
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mexican boy 2012
post 10.Dec.2012, 12:43 PM
Post #334
Joined: 9.Dec.2012

Lets put it in this way: A black man in the times of the apartheid goes to a bar in some city. The bartender ignores him. Some time later he tries to order a drink, finally the bartender says, that there is no drinks , although there is planty of them. Not problem, he goes to another bar. Same story. And he keeps trying in many places. Not law or something is written anywhere, but people just dont sell anything to blacks.

Of course, everybody can choose his costumers. Or not? Is it racism or freedom of choice, preference?
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John.Smith
post 10.Dec.2012, 01:03 PM
Post #335
Location: Sweden
Joined: 12.Sep.2011

The main difference being that the girls are not for sale. If that is how you see women then I would rather think that perhaps is the problem you need to overcome in the first instance.

If it were racism then why do plenty of white guys (German or Swedish or whatever) date 'brown' girls? In many cases, European girls simply do not like the attitude and pushiness of non-Europeans regardless of skin colour or ethnicity.
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mexican boy 2012
post 10.Dec.2012, 01:33 PM
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Joined: 9.Dec.2012

In my example i didt compare girl with beers meaning objects or something like that. I meant the attitude of ignoring somebody because he is different, and the fact, being "accidentally" rejected for many.

Of course men are not even 50% racest as women are. Do i need to explain you Darwins on the origin of species about the law of the stronger? Females tended to look for a healthy, strong (and now more or less wealthy) man who can protect them and their children. It has alwyas been like that, in every society. Thats way the "strongest male" get more children. Even animal do the same.

Of course times have changed but women still looking for somebody who gives the some security or confidence. Someone who is a little bit better than the rest. Thats way the love rock stars and famous men. They also need somebody who can give a good social status. For many to be with a dark foreigner is not so good idea.In a nutshell: women think about many things about before been in a relationship with somebody.

On the other hand, we men are pretty simple. We dont really care about the status of the woman, who look more for the sex.I dont know any guy talking about famous girls or rich sucessful women as something interesting. Who cares about that? We rather talk about pornstars. Its the way it is. I now many german and western european married with foreigner women actually because the local women didt like them.Of course not every swedish man can get a swedish girl. Even among swedish he got a lot of rivalry. If he is some nerd, fat or skinny boy who just talks about computer programms he would not have many chances. But if he goes to Latin America or Africa he can get even a model-like girl because he is the wealthy european who can bring them to a better place to live. And many women of those poorest contries are ready to be with a fat white pig as long as he can bring them to northern Europe or give them a better life home.

But like i said, status is more important for women than for men. Thats way we could say that women are more racist than men.
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John.Smith
post 10.Dec.2012, 01:38 PM
Post #337
Location: Sweden
Joined: 12.Sep.2011

I think everything you have just posted proves my point. All you see in a woman is sex. People pick up on this very easily and very fast. In some social cultures this is acceptable however in most Western European cultures it is deemed as derogatory. Change your attitude and approach and you should see a difference in how girls react to your presence.
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Migga
post 10.Dec.2012, 01:47 PM
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Joined: 26.Jul.2011

QUOTE (mexican boy 2012 @ 10.Dec.2012, 08:48 AM) *
Are u trying to tell me that u never liked a man because he looks good? So why are so many girls over there who love fotball players , rock stars or even guys like Justin Bieb ... (show full quote)

No I don`t like men. Alot of those girls are insecure and want to be with them because they are famous or rich. I`d say looks is secondary in those cases. When it comes to Justin Beiber I think most of the girls are 13 years old. My point is that those girls are hardly educated, open and liberal. They are submissive drones that fall for the medias glorification of musicians and fotball players. Nothing wrong with that but I wouldn`t call those women mature, independent, confident and educated.

QUOTE (mexican boy 2012 @ 10.Dec.2012, 08:48 AM) *
I cant say that all women in Denmark and Germany are racist. But maybe i just have had bad luck meeting racist ones. Are u happy now?

Yes.

QUOTE (mexican boy 2012 @ 10.Dec.2012, 08:48 AM) *
There was even a time when i was trying to meet girl on internet. Many girls there write stuff like "if you are a Südländer (southerner) dont write to me/leave me alone ... (show full quote)

I don`t know, there could be a million reasons as to why she doesn`t want to date a Südländer. To just assume she is a racist is ignorant.

QUOTE (mexican boy 2012 @ 10.Dec.2012, 08:48 AM) *
Maybe i should remind you that there is a lot of fat, ugly white european men who come to Latin America to get easily women? What about that?

I think that is just as bad as when foreign men come to Europe, or western women going to Africa. If you read my previous post you will see I meantioned Swedes going to Thailand. I think it`s bad because it will probably leave alot of people disapointed but I`m not against it. What I`m against is if a person going to another country starts bashing women of another group based on generalizations.

QUOTE (mexican boy 2012 @ 10.Dec.2012, 08:48 AM) *
I mean, i have nothing against this. Im happy for those dudes who can finally get a girlfriend or at leat get laid somewhere. Why not? Do you prefer them to stay in their coun ... (show full quote)

I`m not against it but it doesn`t make it ok to say that women of a certain group are racists and hate foreigners. That`s what I`m against. It just makes you look as ignorant.

QUOTE (mexican boy 2012 @ 10.Dec.2012, 08:48 AM) *
I wish that somebody had told me before that Germany was the wrong place to make my dreams come true. I would have gone directly to Poland if i knew this.

I wish I could have told you, hopefully someone thinking about going to Sweden looking for girls might see my post to you.

QUOTE (mexican boy 2012 @ 10.Dec.2012, 08:48 AM) *
I was in a small city in the south of Danmark an it was bad. There was a guy there,, a Turk, who was born there and tall me to forget about talking to gild because they dont l ... (show full quote)

I don`t doubt that this is true but I don`t think your Turk friend have met all danish women to be able to make such a statement without being the same as he accuse them of being. Also there could be alot of reasons why they don`t date foreigners, it`s not all about race. And just because the majority of danish women go for danish men doesn`t make them racist either.
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nosturnal
post 10.Dec.2012, 02:07 PM
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Joined: 5.Dec.2012

In Singapore people often says the following.

1. When Woman looks into Men. She primarily sees 5 C's into him, Whilst Credit Card, Car, Condominium and Cash
2. When Men looks into Women. He primarily sees 3 S's into her Whilst S**, Sleep, and Shut the %^(& up.

I, think the whole notion of love, relationship is quaint and poetic. There is no such thing call love with or loved to or otherwise, besides the the word or even language of love is inert and sophomoric. You can't describe one. However, you can express one with above equation.

Its like the "Game Theory" in relationship, Marriage. dating and so forth. Male give security to girl actually expressing. Look i have above to secure your chaotic future. Hence, i need something in return. Likewise, Female sees her self by giving birth to father's child and therefore, genetic immortality to him. We all subliminally taking turn for Sewer Test.

Management theory says when you want to sell the product or services, here in this case, present your self in society. You must have two distinct things. 1. Differentiation Strategy. 2. Cost of Leadership , to balance the book.

Even Uncle Sigmund Freud is bemused says the following

"The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is "What does a woman want?"
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mexican boy 2012
post 10.Dec.2012, 02:16 PM
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Joined: 9.Dec.2012

Maybe u are right and it doest have to be racism. Maybe there a a tousend posibble reasons why those girls dont want to date foreigners. But just to philosophize about it its like talking the whole time about the physical or mechanical reasons of a car accident instead of just going to the auto mechanic.

Lets resume this. It doest matter why, the fact is that many foreing men in Western or North Europe have problems in getting girls there. So my advice is to dont go to those places if the goal is to score with females. Period. Maybe after months or years of trying it could work, why not?
But lets be real: Scoring with north european girls its like trying to go to the 10th floor by climbig the wall like spiderman. On the other hand, european girls its like using the elevator. Why make life complicated?

Best wishes

Francisco
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mexican boy 2012
post 10.Dec.2012, 02:19 PM
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*Sorry, i wrote to fast. I meant that north europeans are the spiderman-climbing and eastern europeans like using the elevator. *
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Coolrunnings
post 10.Dec.2012, 02:27 PM
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Dude,west european women of german and celtic stock are not that attractive. Why are you so desperate? If you want some game then there are plenty of other places where women are more liberal and good looking.
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mexican boy 2012
post 10.Dec.2012, 02:32 PM
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You are right coolrunnig. If u read my first post u will know that i was one year in Poland. Im not desperate anymore. I was just curious about this forum and i wanted to give this give a piece of advise. I know that in Poland and Ukraine women look better, are more sexy and easier to get than here (im in Germany). But as soon as i finnish my studies i get out of here.

I mean, its no so bad here. I can find also polish or russian gils here who are open and find me interesting. I just wanted to show, that germans are hard and kind of racist. And i think scandinavian are more or less similar. Even germans say after erasmus in Sweden or Finland that people there is kind of cold and dont talk to much with foreigners. If germans say so...what can i expect... =)
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Mib
post 10.Dec.2012, 09:23 PM
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Joined: 7.Jul.2006

Just because a woman doesn't want you, doesn't indicate racism. Get over yourself. Sweden will take a while to accept change, just as it did in the UK. It's funny, cause in the UK, you'll find a lot of black men go out with white women. Are they racist? smile.gif If you look after yourself, show confidence, ignore negativity real or in your mind, show ambition, humour, modesty, empathy, unselfishness etc etc then your chances increase dramatically. Stop playing the victim and making excuses by blaming others for your predicament. If things aren't working, change your approach and/or make the effort. If people are put off by the colour of your skin or your religion or your job etc, then their loss and why would you want to be with someone so weak anyway.

It seems that the new generations coming through expect things to be delivered on a plate to them...the right to work, to have a car, to own a home, to earn good money, to have an attractive partner, to own nice clothes blah...blah..blah. You tend to get what you put in and the harder you have to work for something, the better the reward. Easy is normally not the right route.
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djmarko
post 10.Dec.2012, 09:40 PM
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Location: Stockholm
Joined: 18.Jan.2007

Amen to that!!! could not have been put any better!!! sorry to add, there are too many losers in this forum!! blaming all their misfortune on society in general, this thread is very retarded if you ask me, how on earth do you expect a woman to get attracted to you when you lack self confidence, women can smell this miles away, these days its called racism, please close this thread!!
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