(edit title) Is this forced marriage By Swedish girl Options

[mvito]

Hey guys, mygal frnd is pregnant and she is swedish and am not. Infact am an asylum seeker is Norge but i work and live on pretty well.
The thing is i dn't believe in using my child as a tool to stay in any country, i wld be fine with the kid in Africa but sweden will not let me. And my galfrnd has given me a strange condition that i ''either marry her or will never see the kid''.
I love her no doubt but am not to be pushed. She threatened to regester another (person) as the father if i dnt, and my not being in sweden means i cnt have access to paternity claim/suit for the kid.
She has a good job so do i, but she wants me to start supporting her financially which am willing to do (started sending me credit card bills to cover for her own spending and not related to the kid).
PS the kid aint born yet.

How can i be sure of getting joint custody of my child when i have no right of entry into Sweden?
And how can i apply to be with my child, without my galfrnd signature (cuz its coming wit a f***n cost)

#the swedish state often deprive the overseas parent access to their child/s unless they come to Sweden to visit them

[Boar]

Listen to what she says or disappear. If you want the child then treat the mother well. Don't whine.

[byke]

Welcome to the swedish model ....
But seriously, marriage only has the value YOU put into it.

[Puffin]

It is not forced marriage unless you are a minor or otherwise dependent on your girlfriend - which does not sound like the case here - but is sounds as though she is worried about being an unmarried mother - would this be a problem for her?

If you are not married or in a sambo relationship however she may well be able to get sole custody of child so you have no automatic rights. You can contact the social services department of the kommun where she lives and accept paternity for the child (and the requirement to pay child support) - if she claims that another person is the father then DNA testing will be carried out once the child is born

You are however in most cases not required to support her as she is either getting her own salary or money from the state - all maternity care is free in Sweden

[Children Of Adam]

I am sorry to say but I have seen many guys to a have a sex before marriage and making the woman preganent in a order to get visa.

First of all it is your fault to have a sex before marriage and making the woman preganent and now she wants to register another father, What would happen to a child when she/he know that my father actualy was a user who wanted to use my mother for any reason (one night stand, visa ).

My advise to you is: to work with her and become a responsible father and get married before the child is born, I am sure your paper work would be later fine once you the child.

[Hamsterdam]

CoA, I just checked my calendar and it said 2012 AD, not BC. Give me your address and I'll send you an updated one free of charge

[Children Of Adam]

in 2012 AD a guy is coming and seeking for help for "forced marriage" in western world, why? Becuase something went wrong, now it depends on how you interperet it and how I do.

My heart just goes for the Child and Her/his future , because a child needs his father love and mother would go throught many problem alonely if she rais the kid, we should not support this idea of 2012 to let any man make woman pregranent and leave them on their own.

Lets be honest and support the idea of getting properly married making a happy family. SO Marriage is the Solution.

Marriage is a moral safeguard as well as a social building block. Through marriage, families are established and the family is considered to be the fundamental unit of our society.

[Yorkshireman]

The thing is i dn't believe in using my child as a tool to stay in any country, i wld be fine with the kid in Africa but sweden will not let me. And my galfrnd has given m ... (show full quote)

The thing is i dn't believe in using my child as a tool to stay in any country, i wld be fine with the kid in Africa but sweden will not let me. And my galfrnd has given me a strange condition that i ''either marry her or will never see the kid''. ... (hide full quote)

This can be challenged in the family court in Sweden. Once fathership is established, you can challenge any rights for access, especially if You are also paying maintenance. Regardless of if the Mother has sole-custody. The courts in Sweden would consider the case, and make a decision based upon the interest of the child. It is very rare they would agree with 1 parent preventing access, unless that access puts the child in danger.

I love her no doubt but am not to be pushed. She threatened to regester another (person) as the father if i dnt, and my not being in sweden means i cnt have access to paternity claim/suit for the kid.

You can register paternity and challenge any other name registered, and a DNA test will be done to confirm true paternity.

Sometimes it can be a surprise! Recent results from testing in Ireland showed that 1-in-3 fathers were not the biological fathers, and didnt know it. In Wales that was found to be around 6-in-10! You may not like the result you get!

but she wants me to start supporting her financially which am willing to do (started sending me credit card bills to cover for her own spending and not related to the kid).

This is NOT the Swedish way ... even the handbook from Migrationsverket says, Swedish culture is Swedish Women are expected to pay their own way!

As the Father however, and you say you want to, You have the responsibility for meeting the needs of the child.

How can i be sure of getting joint custody of my child when i have no right of entry into Sweden?And how can i apply to be with my child, without my galfrnd signature (cuz its ... (show full quote)

How can i be sure of getting joint custody of my child when i have no right of entry into Sweden?
And how can i apply to be with my child, without my galfrnd signature (cuz its coming wit a f***n cost)
#the swedish state often deprive the overseas parent access to their child/s unless they come to Sweden to visit them ... (hide full quote)

Wait for Your asylum application in Norway is completed. If given asylum, You will also have freedom to travel to Sweden.

If rejected in Norway, You can apply to Sweden for Permit based upon Family. Making sure the application (there is a little checkbox) that states Child under 18. Paternity needs to be established.

However, as an earlier poster says, there are many cases where resident seekers have had children with Swedish residents, in order to get permits. This is well known with Migrationsverket, and having a child here does not automatically give You the right to stay, they will look at the case, and judge from that. Your asylum application in Norway may also be taken into consideration, since it is registered in the central database for Europe.

[orangetree]

Hey guys, mygal frnd is pregnant and she is swedish and am not. Infact am an asylum seeker is Norge but i work and live on pretty well. The thing is i dn't believe in usin ... (show full quote)

Hey guys, mygal frnd is pregnant and she is swedish and am not. Infact am an asylum seeker is Norge but i work and live on pretty well.
The thing is i dn't believe in using my child as a tool to stay in any country, i wld be fine with the kid in Africa but sweden will not let me. ... (hide full quote)

if africa is a place where you prefer to live and where you can live why you are an asylum seeker!!

[hackie]

she wants me to start supporting her financially which am willing to do (started sending me credit card bills to cover for her own spending and not related to the kid). . PS the kid aint born yet.

I smell some rat here

[Gamla Hälsingebock]

You beat me to it!

However, I would like to use the term Troll.

I think he would have done better if he played the Africa card a little more, asylum seeker, etc..

Posters joining the same day with these "help" problems are a bit curious to me.

[Svensksmith]

The game is afoot.

[Leonie]

Sounds like you made your bed and now you have to lie in it!!!
 I'd say blackmail not forced marrage, like someone else said if your not under 18 then its not forced but if your old enough to have sex then i'm guessing you know what a condom is!!!!!
but I guess you have to do what she says if you want to know your child. I can't see why  she would want to get married but if you are going to live together then why not apply for a sambo visa.

[Gamla Hälsingebock]

The hounds are...away!!!!!!!1

[Boar]

Idiot OP! In which burrow are you hiding?