(edit title) Is anyone who should be responsibie for my pain. Horrible delivery Options

[elain88]

I delieved my daughter in eastern hospital in Apr 2012 in Gothenburg. During delivery, I had to be given an operation so that my daughter could easily come out (I do not know the words to describe the operation). I got infection few days after delivery and had to go into hospital again. I was so painful in a few days and even thought I would be handicap and could not stand up and walk again. I could not bend down and could not sleep, the things were so worse that even there was a million cash laying on the floor, it could hardly be possible I climb up to take it.

Today I went to our regional vårcentral, the barnmorska checked my vagina and felt surprice I still got pain at this part. She could not put 2 of her fingers inside it. I was told the cutting part was not good cut and it made the stitch part of the skin quite tight, and she is easily to see I would feel painful when anything put into my vagina.

I refused to have sex with my boyfriend after delivery because of the pain. At the beginning I thought maybe it was normal pain and soon would disappear, but after today examination, I was really angry to find out I should not suffer the pain and I was arranged to see a doctor early next month to get deeper examination. I was told if another 3 months passes, I still get pain in vagina, maybe I have to be cut a little bit to make things better. I do not know why I am so bad luck and when I could have sex life again.

I am really angry and wonder is anyone who should be responsibie for my pain.

[entry]

I delieved my daughter in eastern hospital in Apr 2012 in Gothenburg.

Congratulations on the new addition of your daughter to your family Elain88. Regarding the post-operative complications and pain that you are experiencing it strikes me as unsatisfactory for your physician to take a three month wait-and-see approach. Although you have expressed importance in intimacy with your man I do not think this should be of primary concern. Your overall health and welfare is paramount. Seek additional counsel.

[Bender B Rodriquez]

Regarding the post-operative complications and pain that you are experiencing it strikes me as unsatisfactory for your physician to take a three month wait-and-see approach.

Quote: "I was arranged to see a doctor early next month to get deeper examination"

[libertarianism]

I can't say that anyone will do anything, but please consider reporting your experience to the Socialstyrelsen. It should be on record that they screwed up. I don't know if they'll compensate you for the pain they've caused though. You should still ask though. You might also try the Patientnämnden for assistance. If there are any förenings for new moms or maybe even a förening for midwives, you could write to them and ask for advice as well. There are people who will try to help, but it sometimes takes a lot of time and work to get to them. I'm sorry I don't have more help to offer. In the meantime, guided meditations and visualizations might help with pain management. Your län might offer accupuncture for pain management as well. These aren't solutions of course, but perhaps they might help until you're well again. Sorry for your experience. I wish you healing and relief. Congratulations on your baby.

[entry]

Quote: "I was arranged to see a doctor early next month to get deeper examination"

BBR, her statement did not slip past me. I am speculating a cesarean procedure(or more minor), there is extreme discomfort and an indication from her physicians that there may be a need for an additional procedure to alter the sutures. This does not alarm me but if she were my wife I would without being alarming concern myself about post-operative infection which she has not as of yet indicated. Post-operative infections are fairly high on my sensitivity level due to my personal family losses. A week, 10-days, two weeks, next month would not be a period of time that I would tolerate without confirmation that there is no existing infection.

[JulieLou40]

Strikes me as an episiotomy, not a caesarean. The op would not be having problems like she is, if it was a caesarean. Wrong bits!

[entry]

Too much information for me. I have managed almost half a century to avoid even being in the same room as a child having a diaper changed! I trust the good judgement of those that have those or parts of those 'bits & pieces' like yourself. O_o I will now run and hide from this thread!

[skogsbo]

Strikes me as an episiotomy, not a caesarean. The op would not be having problems like she is, if it was a caesarean. Wrong bits!

yeah, perhaps her fella asked the doctor/nurse to put a few extra stitches in for him? Or he/she got distracted and kept on stitching northwards, which is better than stitching too far south! Sorry old jokes, but don't get many chances to exercise them.

Ms Skoggy had the same Op, but it was all done on the delivery table, just gas/air for anesthetic, disolvable stitches. This was at the end of about 18hrs of attempted delivery through inducing, Skoggette was very stubborn and still needed VonTus(spelling) - that cap on the head, to pull the little fella out.
Was certainly tender for a while and a definate no go zone, but we were too knackered from little one keeping us awake anyway! I think pain is one of those things that just goes with the scenario, but each week should be getting better, not remaining the same. Perhaps the stitches are continual re-tearing?

[JulieLou40]

Too much information for me. I have managed almost half a century to avoid even being in the same room as a child having a diaper changed! I trust the good judgement of th ... (show full quote)

Too much information for me. I have managed almost half a century to avoid even being in the same room as a child having a diaper changed! I trust the good judgement of those that have those or parts of those 'bits & pieces' like yourself. O_o I will now run and hide from this thread! ... (hide full quote)

It's only sh*t. What happens when you wipe your own bum? Man up

[entry]

Julie I see the spirit but it is far too late for me, W. C. Fields and I share a common heart on this topic. It drives me bonkers! The little freaks(God and their mothers love them) they stalk me at the market, they in unison peer at me on the bus/tram and whisper "tomten!!!" I see little use for these creatures but bear them no ill will. When they hit their late teens or early 20s they can have their heads squared and become useful. Consider me old fashioned and good natured, be forgiving as I have not yet had time to smack enough heads around to bring society back to its senses!!!

/sarc off

[JulieLou40]

LOL

[Puffin]

It is not totally clear what sort of procedure OP had - but I agree with the others that it sounds as though it was an episiotomy to ease the delivery of possibly to allow an assisted delivery by ventouse (suction cap) or forceps

Pain is very common for a while after such deliveries as in addition to the actual cut - which may cut some nerves - there will be a lot of deep tissue bruising - it sounds as though only 6-8 weeks has passed so it is not long - there may still be swelling around the scar and you may find that once the swelling goes down and the pain from the cut nerves subside that many of the problems disappear.

Bear in mind that it is early days if you only gave bith in April. With my first daughter I ended up with over 50 internal stiches and surgery to drain a haematoma - and certainly a couple of months later I was in intense pain and never had a midwife follow up as I didn't want anyone to touch me - but by the time I went to see the consultant 14 weeks after the birth things were much better and the pain and swelling had subsided.

It is unfortunate that you got an infection as well as it makes you feel awful. It doesn't mean though that anyone did anything wrong as unfortunately having stiches "down there" makes the wound very difficult to keep clean when you go to the toilet - in particular it is hard to be precise with wiping after a toilet visit when you have stiches. One tip that a midwife gave me was to use a jug of luke warm salt water while sitting on the toilet to rinse and clean the wound.

So the answer is that while perhaps you may need a scar revision in the future - it may be too early to tell yet

[elain88]

Yes, it was an episiotomy.

Actually it was not only the pain, i was told a doctor would check the vagina to know if i need to be cut that part again so that when I have sex or maybe do some exercise which need to open the legs wide, I might not feel painful....

sorry for not clear expression since my english is not so good.