(edit title) How to avoid typical Swedish jealousy at work? Any advice? Options

[cogito]

...you are talking about the word envy, which as I previously stated is a lot different in meaning than jealousy.

You are correct. I should have translated it "envy," not jealousy. Sloppy of me not to have made a distinction.

[Realhuman]

What I hate the most is when ppl have 2 faces at work, smiling at your face and talk shit behind your back, this is what I see it as a big problem !

[klubbnika]

Would you prefer them to talk shit behind your back AND to your face instead?

[Gamla Hälsingebock]

[VargasGray]

Nice one Klubbnika!

well what do you mean with two-faced at work? Come on you got to be more precise then that, I'll even lend you a little help if you want by adding my own story about this perceived two-faced mentality going on in Swedish workplaces.

This took place two days ago when some colleague did tell the depot manager that I apparently didn't do my job properly. This and another colleague has been harassing me for over 6 months now and since I, in typical Swedishness, don't want to make a big deal out of it I just told them to calm down and be grown up about it. Of course they never wanted to listen and come to an understanding but they aimed to win this whole ridiculous argument.

So this Monday I left one ironpallet with four detachable ironwalls inside the main gates, little to the side so it weren't in the way of the forklifts. I did, as always, had the intention of sorting the said thing out after I've loaded the truck. I didn't manage to work more then 3 minutes before the depot manager was notified about my transgression. He then proceeded to sort the ironpallet himself, quite discontent, which I told him not to do because that's my job.

So you understand that a argument ensued shortly after when the colleague himself appeared to support his claims and to disprove my claims. Seeing in this argument, I didn't yell nor did I use ad hominems, that we had some other colleagues being onlookers I turned and asked one of them "Hey, you don't sort your ironpallets right away, do you?" He denied ever leaving ironpallets unsorted, which was a lie or perhaps a misunderstanding from his part, leaving me virtually discredited.

This isn't that uncommon that some of my colleagues don't want to come clear and actually end a argument by telling the truth that they, as all the others, do as I do. Leave pallets on the sides and sort them when all is loaded and secured - of course pallets are being sorted under the loading when two are working the same vehicle. It seems like if they come clear they feel that they might get some awful bad rap, which isn't true and also not that bad since there's only these small annoyances occurring. Also it feels, or seems like it, that they rather look on with interest as the whole thing unravels into a shitfest of childishness.

I just can't to understand why they're so dishonest about it and why they tend to exaggerate the smallest of things? And I'm a Swede myself, who just realised that either is the saying true, that we're two-faced bastards, or the truth might be that we're subjugated into fearing authorities, which I feel is the most possible reason.