(edit title) How to steal a girlfriend from my colleague. She likes me but I'm a bit confused how to act? Options

[olga118]

"She is a kind person.

The girl also tries to flirt with me very rarely.

but sometimes I slightly criticize her.

She asks me how I am and once she asked what I will do the next day which was Sunday."

What planet are you people living on??? I can't believe anyone would take this post seriously, and if they did (which is clear) that they would offer any advice other than
"Give it up, dude, she's NOT into you!"

[Boar]

I suppose you can always better keep quiet if you do not have anything to say. That also works for you. Isn't it true? If true then respond and if false, just keep quiet.

[cattie]

Another woman to say, I doubt she interested in you as more than an acquaintance. She is living with friends and you do not even have a job.
She is a kind person, which means she is polite and friendly. Because you are attracted to her you hope her courtesy means interest.
The possible consequence of making a move is that you will no longer be invited to social events with these friends. Whether you are aware of this or not, it is usually the women in the group that have veto power over extending social invitations, so if she feels uncomfortable around you and complains to one of the other women... you are out.

I suggest, if you want to have access to her at all, to be nice and courteous, make eye-contact and talk to her. Be sure to conceal your interest in breaking up the couple.

[Boar]

Thanks for the suggestions. Actually she knows about my job etc. My colleagues also work part time in the same warehouse the one which I left. Even though we are graduates we kept working there. I left my job in that shitty warehouses working many years. I am no longer interested to work in warehouses. I can get that shitty job any time anywhere in Sweden as I have good contacts and experiences.

I have more future plans. I have savings and a car too. I can live by doing nothing for about 6 more months. Still, I am studying on CSN even having savings as a backup. I am going for this bus driving school to become a bus driver. I hope to work part time later on. My intention is to get the drivers License and work anywhere in Sweden. There is a lot of scarcity of job for bus drivers. And a lot more in Norway who have swedish skills. Norway has scarcity of Swedish bus drivers.

The girl is not greedy either. Otherwise she would find a rich man in one day. She is self confident.
I will try to follow your suggestion before I make any mistake. I will wait for a longer time and see what happens. From next week, I also need to concentrate on my driving practical for a month more. Then, things will settle down.
Be sure to conceal your interest in breaking up the couple.
I did not get this point.

[Migga]

Do you want to be with her or do you just want to steal her from someone else? I`d think very hard if I really like a girl who is already in a relationship and her boyfriend is a friend or if I`m just interested because she is out of reach.

You already said that she is a kind person and based on what you have written it sounds that is all that she is. She seems to be a very kind, polite, touchy and friendly person who likes to hug. But that doesn`t mean she likes you. Not everyone is flirting just because they are nice.

[Ugly Indian]

Det bara tutta och köra KLART

[Boar]

Oh man this reminds me as if I drive the bus by tutta. They tell me to avoid tutta while under training.

[hjoian]

Sounds to me you are reading the signals all wrong....because there are no signals....sounds like she is just being "nice". Maybe there is a bit of wishfull thinking going on here? Besides, its not for you to decide who she is in a relationship with,if she chooses to leave her fella thats fine, but for you to "steal" (your words not mine)her....well....i think she deserves better. Plenty of single women out there fella...get to it!

[Garry Jones]

Against my better judgement...

http://www.purple-twinkie.com/livin-large/...-boyfriend.html

[Puffin]

It sounds as though you might risk losing your friends

I don't see any special "signals" other than friendship - it is common here to hug friends and not necessarily a sign of any interest - are you sure you are not misreading her friednliness as special romatic interest?

[Boar]

It is common to hug. I know that. But, not all hug all the time even they might be friends. I know most of them even shake hand. Some hug willingly and some hug just to greet.
I don't know if it is her habit or whatever but she touches in different ways. Not sure intentionally or unintentionally. She criticized me only once recently. She is not Swedish but looks like Swedish. Swedish girls hug but never have habit of flirting. In fact they think it is weird to do so. They are straight forward while drunk or simply ignore things. I think I will better wait and see what she does the next time I meet otherwise it could go to hell.

[skogsbo]

I wouldn't bother because I think she might prefer someone more mature than you. You talk and sound like a teenager, but your 34yrs old. If you haven't worked it all out by now, then I suspect you won't. There are either shed loads of signals coming off this girl, or probably none at all, only those there can say.

I would ask any of your more perceptive friends, who have probably been witnessing or not witnessing these signals coming from both of you for weeks. If you are really struggling then set a trap, hanging back late after one of your get togethers and see if she does the same, she goes to the toilet, then you go 5mins after, perhaps meeting on the stairs as she returns, offer her a lift home etc.. if you can't sense any vibes from her, then there probably isn't.

[sometimesinsweden]

Vast majority of unmarried women under 40 dont know what they want, so go for it. You can't steal a woman (well, not legally) but you can offer her a better alternative to her life at the moment. Doesn't mean a thing if she hasn't flirted with you - some women don't know how to.

[Boar]

Skogsbo: I agree with you. And, also criticizing one another has become common since the beginning of the era. Child behaving like a man and an old man behaving like a child. Desiring for something and ending up in the same shit again and again. I will follow your suggestions anyway.

[Boar]

Vast majority of unmarried women under 40 dont know what they want, so go for it. You can't steal a woman (well, not legally) but you can offer her a better alternative to ... (show full quote)

Vast majority of unmarried women under 40 dont know what they want, so go for it. You can't steal a woman (well, not legally) but you can offer her a better alternative to her life at the moment. Doesn't mean a thing if she hasn't flirted with you - some women don't know how to. ... (hide full quote)

It's true. Once I met a woman who was 41. She was behaving like a child. We went to Mc Donalds and she asked for milkshake in Mc and some burgers etc . The girl in the Mc told we don't have milkshake. She became very angry at the girl. I was shocked and I just left that place immediately by saying don't worry I will pay the bill and leave, and said there was an urgent meeting for me. Then I decided it is better with younger than older ones. The older they are the more stubborn they become. It will be hard to täme them.