(edit title) What else advice please After girlfriend gave birth Options

[whoye]

then why do you seek help? every other word of yours is "help". i don't know your story but it seems like "sometimes" is right calling you irresponsible. "just the way it is", "things happen" is not a reason for your situation, you clearly expect people to help you and frankly, that thing bit disgusts me. clearly you don't have anything (skills, knowledge) to rely on, so you are trying to exploit other's mercy/empathy. the only thing is you can do loyal is left the child be, give it to a social services or something, although you have partly ruined his/her life by passing your genes, so don't smash it completely by being "role model".

[humblelove001]

Thanks for sharing your own opinion too mate

[sometimesinsweden]

There's not much you can do, mate.

I don't mean to be nasty, but I worked with hidden migrants in Sweden for 2 years for the Red Cross and although I empathised with many of their situations, I could never comprehend some of the actions they took, which seemed to often compound the misery in their lives. It's difficult enough in life to bring up a healthy child, let alone one that requires extra care, for a parent, so I don't understand your thinking by bringing a child into the world where you don't qualify for any normal rights. Contraception isn't difficult to get hold of in Sweden and sometimes you've got to be mature enough to be a parent, which is mature enough to say 'now is not the time to have a child'.

Your options are 1) stay as a hidden migrant - a bad idea as you'll always be looking over your shoulder and not have any rights over bringing up your child ie to make a decision for them in hospital if they are ill etc. 2) to apply for citizenship as others have mention and hope that you get a decent outcome or 3) Go back to your original country, get married and apply for citizenship in Sweden..which may not be possible depending on your financial situation or political status.

Finally, be a man and look after your child. The Western world is full of people who pop out kids and then expect the state to look after them financially and be their parents. The harsh reality is that a lot of growing up and taking responsibility is needed to change this attitude.

Good luck and good luck to your kid.

[humblelove001]

Thank you so much sometimesknew,I can see u r human

[dave.smith]

I don't know about the political side - the best thing to do would probably be to sue migrationsverkey for mercy and hope for the best.

One thing I can tell you for sure, and not many people will tell you avout is, when the baby is born, be prepared for serious lack of sleep for many months!

[humblelove001]

@David.smith.you are so right,we haven't been sleeping at night lately that is when the baby stays up to feed and to play all night then sleep all day.

Yes we hope for some mercy from MV
Thanks alot

[humblelove001]

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