(edit title) It is cold in Sweden I am not talking about the weather Options

[djmarko]

Exactly my point, earlier today, a swedish girl whose parents are immigrants complained how cold people are, this is someone that has lived here for most parts of her life but she has spent the last 10 years living in the UK, Barcelona and she reckons she will never move back here full time, even ethnic Swedes complain to me about the same thing, personally i feel one should respect the differences, takes its positive aspects and think less of the negatives things

[Hisingen]

If you need a PUT then you are a guest. But of course, you can excuse my ignorance.

[Hamsterdam]

I neither want a PUT nor be a Swedish citizen. However it doesn't make me a guest!

[Hisingen]

To be honest I wouldn't know what that makes you, but then I don't really care. That is entirely your own business.

[Hamsterdam]

In which case it would be preferable if you didn't generalise with your "guest" supposition.

[Migga]

Nobody likes to hear the truth

What truth? Your truth?

[Hisingen]

One thing is for sure, I certainly wouldn't want the big Ham for a guest.

[Hamsterdam]

Oh I do apologise for disagreeing with your antiquated views

[mångk]

Exactly my point, earlier today, a swedish girl whose parents are immigrants complained how cold people are, this is someone that has lived here for most parts of her life but ... (show full quote)

Exactly my point, earlier today, a swedish girl whose parents are immigrants complained how cold people are, this is someone that has lived here for most parts of her life but she has spent the last 10 years living in the UK, Barcelona and she reckons she will never move back here full time ... (hide full quote)

The interesting thing here is that she may have grown up with predominantly her parents culture and the differences between Swedish culture and her parents culture may have created some type of conflict! Why don't these people around me behave like me/my parents, type thing!

personally i feel one should respect the differences, takes its positive aspects and think less of the negatives things

Thats probably the best thing to do!

Plus learning why/how things are done can help as well!

[djmarko]

some of these guests do pay taxes and contribute their quota to their adopted country, so it will be nice if they were regarded as something more appropriate, well thats my opinion anyway

[mångk]

I took guest in this instance to mean those that are not citizens that have been allowed to live in Sweden.

It is generally not an absolute 'right' to be able to move to another country to live.

Perhaps I read that wrong and should have taken off my shoes at the front door upon entry!

[Gamla Hälsingebock]

Isn't that an Asian custom?...Just kidding of course

[djmarko]

The interesting thing here is that she may have grown up with predominantly her parents culture and the differences between Swedish culture and her parents culture may have cr ... (show full quote)

The interesting thing here is that she may have grown up with predominantly her parents culture and the differences between Swedish culture and her parents culture may have created some type of conflict! Why don't these people around me behave like me/my parents, type thing!

Thats probably the best thing to do!

Plus learning why/how things are done can help as well! ... (hide full quote)

haha, to be quite honest, if she adopted any of her parents culture, she will never be my friend, she is as westernised as they come, born and brought up in Goteborg, she is just a bit opened minded, loves travelling a lot so i guess she has a different approach to life, but like i pointed out some ethnic swedes tell me the same thing as well!! I have been working and living here for 5 years, so i have come across a lot of people

[Gina88]

What if Swedes show warmth, respect, friendliness and care in their own way?

Everything depends on one's perception. I, for example, came to Sweden and thought: Wow! Everyone is so friendly! And I am not joking here. The situation in my country is changing a bit, but I still sometimes get that feeling, that cashier is making a huge favour by scanning my groceries and telling me how much I need to pay (I do the packing).
So I guess I do see that warmth, respect and friendliness. And this subtle expression is closer to my heart than the 'too sweet' friendliness in the UK, where I miss that true respect and warmth...and yes, I will be moving back to Sweden

[Gamla Hälsingebock]

FYI:

A few years ago there was a thread about the "too sweet" salutations copiously given and returned.

I think the postings ranged from total phonies to what wonderful people...and I believed it started with the "Brits" against the Swedes...like now...sort of...