(edit title) Getting married in Sweden What should I know? Options

[Opalnera]

So we are getting married this year, no big deal just a quickie ceremony at stadshuset (yes it's booked) and a tent party afterwards for about 60 people.

I've never been to a wedding here so I'm not sure if there's anything really out of the ordinary that I should know or be prepared for. So really what I am looking for is general observations about past experiences either having your own or being a guest at a wedding.

One major question that I have is about changing names. My fiance has a stupidly long name and double barrel surname and we are going to put him on a name diet and get rid of one of the surnames and 2 of his middle names. Should he do it before or after the ceremony? When is the best time?

[jonko]

hahaha. That was hilarious!
Well, I warn you. Swedish people get totally waisted in weddings.
And someone will bring a CD with Europe's Greatest Hits. Put someone to guard the stereo.

[Opalnera]

Ah no problem, got 15 alcoholic Aussies flying in, they'll be in good company.

Excellent that will go with the karaoke machine nicely.

[Beavis]

make sure the two witnesses signing are Swedish, otherwise its very messywe had to change the witnesses on the day without knowing this, wasnt a big deal , but migh tbe for some.You can change your name to whatever you want, so long as its not on the list of banned names.And put some contol over speeches, best to have a friend be a "taostmaster" as its not the standard parents and bestman,bridemaides that can speak, its a free for all!

[Ethical_]

So we are getting married this year, no big deal just a quickie ceremony at stadshuset ...

From the comments it sounds like you're an Aussi guy marrying a Swede. No doubt you got one of the good ones. But what's your picture of Swedish women in general? Are many of them as feminist as some Swedish men say? Weigh in as men all over the world discuss the issue at The-Spearhead.com: "Scandinavian Men Leaving Feminists to Themselves"

[Migga]

From the comments it sounds like you're an Aussi guy marrying a Swede.

Really? It sounds like the original poster is a woman;

My fiance has a stupidly long name and double barrel surname and we are going to put him on a name diet and get rid of one of the surnames and 2 of his middle names. Should he ... (show full quote)

My fiance has a stupidly long name and double barrel surname and we are going to put him on a name diet and get rid of one of the surnames and 2 of his middle names. Should he do it before or after the ceremony? ... (hide full quote)

[Hisingen]

A good divorce lawyer is also handy to know in this day and age.

[Megalagom]

Having gotten married in Sweden and seeing all the differences as I was planning it and then later as a guest at another Swedish wedding, I wrote a guide to Swedish weddings a few months ago that you might find useful: Swedish Wedding: “Svenskt Bröllop”

As for changing the names, you will be able to file for name changes right after the wedding. When I (a New Yorker) tried to change my name in Sweden however, they told me it was not possible as they don't have the power to do that from another country - so I changed it in New York a few months later when we got our marriage license in New York. Your Swedish guy should be able to do it right afterwards though, being able to change it to whatever.

Meg ~ Something Swedish ~

[beefbroff]

Don't do it!