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Ex-wife got remarried

What are the implications for my daughter?

Parker69
post 1.Aug.2014, 09:40 AM
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Hello. I am an English person with permanent residency here in Sweden. My ex-wife (Swedish) with whom I have a child has recently remarried and I am wondering what the implications are for my daughter and I. Currently I look after my daughter for around 50% of the time, swapping every other week. I also pay my ex-wife a sum of money every month for the upkeep of our daughter. Given she is now remarried, does her new spouse have any new or additional rights over my daughter? Can I ask for a review of the financial situation and maybe reduce or even stop paying my ex? Any help would be welcome. Thank you.
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skogsbo
post 1.Aug.2014, 11:38 AM
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What will impact it is how the child is registered in terms of parent and guardian. As in the eyes of the state etc these can be separate things.

You are still and always will be father, but check if you are also part custodian/guardian, otherwise they will potentially have say over school things etc. not you.

Better to focus on making the new relationship work on all sides and you'll have a happy child. (not suggesting you aren't already). I find in Sweden there is much less bitterness and rivalry between ex and current partners, I've known a few weddings where the ex was invited along!
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LLHope
post 2.Aug.2014, 09:01 AM
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QUOTE (Parker69 @ 1.Aug.2014, 08:40 AM) *
Given she is now remarried, does her new spouse have any new or additional rights over my daughter?

Absolutely not.
Custody does not change just because she found a new partner, and parents have no rights with regards the child, it is the child that has rights. (e.g. Many think that the parents have the right to spend time with the child, but it is actually the child that has the right to spend time with both parents.)

QUOTE (Parker69 @ 1.Aug.2014, 08:40 AM) *
Currently I look after my daughter for around 50% of the time, swapping every other week. I also pay my ex-wife a sum of money every month for the upkeep of our daughter. Can ... (show full quote)

Why are you paying anything to your ex-wife? This is Sweden, individual responsibility! Especially because your daughter spends 50/50 with both parents.

If your daughter is spending 50% of the time with You then you actually have the right to contact Försäkringskassan and ask for 50% of the child benefit. (law changed this year). Just remember that child benefit is there to pay for your daughter, not your ex-wife. Remember it is around 12000:- a year!, do not just look at it as month-by-month.

However, each situation is different. For Example, if you let your ex-wife buy all the clothes for your daughter then you of-course will pay your share, but remember you can choose that you buy clothes that your daughter and have them at your place, and not pay for things at your ex-wife.

You will have to pay your share of dagis and after-school care if that is relevant now.

There can be extra costs for sport/hobby clubs and activities, the cost of those should be discussed and agreed with your ex-wife.

In anything, you should only pay for your share of costs related to your daughter and certainly NOT your ex-wife's costs, even if she is travelling with your daughter. That is her choice to go, she should pay.

Just what are you paying your ex-wife, and for what?
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