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Stepfather: Bobby's mother toasted his death

15 May 2006, 21:31

Published: 15 May 2006 21:31 GMT+02:00

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When Bobby's mother's partner told what happened on the day the boy died, it was a dramatically different story to that given by the mother.

In the stepfather's version, he's sitting in the kitchen listening to the mother and Bobby arguing in the living room.

It was nothing unusual, said the stepfather to the court. They were like two teenagers yelling at each other.

Suddenly, the mother came into the kitchen, dragging Bobby behind her. The boy was naked and she was holding him by his legs.

"She was really angry, almost desperate. She said 'I'll make you pay for all these bloody awful years,'" said the stepfather.

The mother dragged Bobby towards the verandah and the stepfather explained how he helped.

"I got hold of Bobby's wrists," he told the court.

According to the stepfather, this was to prevent Bobby's head banging against the concrete floor.

In the stepfather's version of events, the mother is the active partner, Whilst he is just an accessory, mostly to support Bobby. In the mother's version, the roles are the exact opposite.

Out on the land surrounding the house, they throw snow over the naked boy, but according to the stepfather, he gets up and runs back into the house to warm himself by the stove. They joke about what happened and then Bobby eats and goes upstairs to watch TV in bed.

"That was the last time I saw him alive," said the stepfather.

Several hours later in the evening, when the mother and the stepfather had eaten and talked, the stepfather went upstairs to go to bed.

"I opened the door to Bobby's room to say goodnight like I usually do," he said. "But the boy

didn't react. So I went in and put my hand on his forehead and felt that he was ice cold," said the stepfather.

"I shook him, but he was completely lifeless."

The stepfather called for Bobby's mother and together they tried mouth to mouth resuscitation and heart massage, but to no avail.

"I thought it was difficult to get air in. It was as if there was something blocking the air passage," said the stepfather.

He was upset when he realised that Bobby was dead, but he was still uncertain whether he should call for an ambulance.

Bobby had injuries and the stepfather was afraid that there would be problems.

"They'll think we beat him to death," he told his partner.

He told the court how he sat with his mobile phone and considered ringing a priest, but that he couldn't bring himself to do it.

"I couldn't phone anyone," said the stepfather.

He also told the court how Bobby's mother reacted, how she started drinking and toasted the boy's death.

The mother's reactions made it impossible to call the authorities, according to the stepfather.

"She was practically ecstatic. I think she was in shock," he said.

The situation didn't get any easier as the hours passed.

"I was in a position I didn't know how to get out of," said the stepfather.

Bobby's dead body ended up in a lake. When the stepfather explains this to the court, on the fourth day of the trial, he starts to cry. His voice cracks and he cries quietly for a moment as he remembers how the mother swore and shouted over her dead son.

The mother looked completely impassive as the man told this part of his story.

The stepfather also told his version of the many assaults it's thought that Bobby was subjected to.

He denies any responsibility for the violence, but said that he'd seen Bobby's mother treat the boy badly on a number of occasions.

"Didn't you ever do anything to stop her," asked the prosecutor, Erik Handmark.

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"I said 'Calm down', but it just got worse. She'd get more and more angry at Bobby."

The prosecutor wondered if the stepfather couldn't have done more.

"Well, I couldn't throw them out," he replied.

"Why not?"

"I loved her and could never have done such a thing."

In the end it was the mother who told the police where the boy's body was. The stepfather would never have done so.

"Bobby was like a son to me, but she was his mother. It was up to her to decide what to do."

The prosecutor asked the stepfather why the mother lay all the blame on him and told a version of events which he says never happened.

"That's a big question for me as well. I don't know how she could say those things. It wasn't her story, those words didn't come from her," said the stepfather.

The stepfather's lawyer, Per Oehme, has been critical of the police interviews with the mother ever since the start of the trial and believes that there were too many leading questions.

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