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Carnal knowledge: A sex scandal made in Sweden

Christine Demsteader · 2 Nov 2009, 17:57

Published: 02 Nov 2009 17:57 GMT+01:00

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A is for anal sex, B is for blow job and C is for clitoris; the ABC of sex education in Swedish schools has been branded by some as carnal knowledge too candid for the classroom, following an exposé on Swedish television.

A war of words broke out recently after cameras followed a lesson at an Uppsala school for the TV programme Skolfront, which was recently aired on public broadcaster SVT. The report was billed as a behind-the-scenes look at sex education today.

There’s an echo of giggles from a group of 9th-grade boys when asked for slang terms to describe their genitalia. Meanwhile, girls stare at a whiteboard drawing to correctly locate the clitoris. The tutor sings a fanfare as she hits the spot with her marker.

This is Sweden’s take on human biology; the birds and the bees are banished and replaced with the topics of ‘cock knowledge and cunt facts’ (kukkunskap och fittfakta).

Helpful tips are bandied about as free condoms are handed around. “The anus doesn’t have any natural lubricant,” the tutor tells them. “So that’s important if you are thinking about having anal sex.”

The class is run by the Swedish Association for Sexuality Education (RFSU) who have been offering the service to schools for the last 13 years. Sex education has been mandatory in Sweden since 1956, but some schools opt to outsource lessons to the organisation.

The programme also interviewed shocked parents who labelled the lessons, “vulgar,” and “too advanced.”

The debate was then taken up in the media with outcries that studies of “sexual techniques” are not suitable for 14-year-old students who are under the legal age of consent.

Further criticism suggesting that the lessons fuel a “sexualised society” has come as a surprise to RFSU.

“I didn’t expect that kind of reaction,” Pelle Ullholm, teaching officer at RFSU told The Local. “I thought we could broaden the subject and talk about sexual practice as a subject for knowledge, not only values.”

Their philosophy maintains that knowledge empowers young people to get to know their body in a healthy manner.

“For example, there are many people in Sweden that don’t know the clitoris is 7-10 centimetres long,” Ullholm adds.

“By giving young people information they can make their own decisions, feel good about themselves and take responsibility. In that way we can prevent unwanted pregnancies and the spread of sexual diseases. ”

According to RFSU, the need for their services comes from a lack of expertise in the existing education system.

“Sweden has a reputation of being open about sexuality but we don’t talk about it,” Ullholm says.

“Only six percent of teachers are qualified to give sex education classes. Schools invite us to do this because they don’t have the means to do it themselves.”

Tutors are typically in their early 20s and the teaching style is on a level with the youth of today.

“We use their kind of language,” he adds. “We talk about what happens when you get sexually aroused and then you don’t tend to think of genitals in a biological way.”

Ullholm says the fear of promoting sex this way is largely unfounded.

“We don’t think that abstinence is a method,” he says. “But we know that with the right information young people tend to become sexually active later in life. And studies show the school is the best environment to get these messages across.”

Yet, the privilege of educating their children on such issues should remain with the parents, according to journalist and commentator Roland Poirier Martinsson who joined the debate in the Skolfront programme.

In a follow up article in the Svenska Dagbladet newspaper he considers the lessons nothing short of sexual propaganda and compares the style of teaching to what can be found on the sports field.

“Try everything, train hard and specialise later, like a decathlete,” he wrote. “Do parents know that schoolchildren are learning anal sex techniques in the classroom?”

Since the lessons have come to light, Poirier Martinsson advocates the management of sex education by schools alone.

“An organisation with liberal ideals should not be brought to run classes like these,” he tells The Local.

“It would be equally wrong to bring in the Catholic Church to teach the subject.

“A lot of people in Sweden don’t reflect much on these matters,” he adds. “But if this were to happen in the US there would be outrage.”

While admitting his view is shared by a minority in Sweden he maintains there is a consensus that basic morals are at stake.

“The conservative religious faction is small in Sweden,” he adds. “But the opinion that sex should not be perceived as a hobby – like playing soccer – is something a lot of Swedes agree with. Children should be taught to abstain from sex until they are older,” he says.

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In his article, Roland Poirier Martinsson encourages parents to contact schools to control the way sex education is being conducted.

However, new legislation to be introduced in June 2010 will lessen the power of parents to remove their children from class, Bertil Östberg, state secretary at the Ministry of Education tells The Local.

“All students have a right to the knowledge as stated in the curriculum,” he says.

“So the possibility to skip certain parts of the curriculum in school will be reduced in the future. How sex education lessons are implemented remains something that the individual schools can decide for themselves.”

RFSU have no plans to change or review their approach. “We are staying with our programme,” Pelle Ullholm says.

“And we will be happy to continue this debate because we are sure we are doing it in the right way.”

Those at Sweden’s Ministry of Education and other government officials can take the opportunity to brush up on their own cock knowledge and cunt facts this week: RFSU is staging a special sex education lesson for politicians in a makeshift classroom at the Swedish Parliament.

The aim is to further discussions to make sex education mandatory in teacher training courses.

It is unclear as to whether anal lubrication is on the agenda.

Christine Demsteader (christine.demsteader@thelocal.se)

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Your comments about this article

19:13 November 2, 2009 by Harding00
'"For example, there are many people in Sweden that don't know the clitoris is 7-10 centimetres long," Ullholm adds.' I had no idea, damn American sex ed classes, they didn't teach me anything!
20:26 November 2, 2009 by nevon
Excellent. The fringe conservatives should shut up and let children learn about sexuality. They even admit no one agrees with them.
20:55 November 2, 2009 by Walter Al
I am a Brazilian citizen and have another culture and values, for these reasons I was surprised by what I read about sex education in Sweden. I believe it is important that everyone has access option to read educação.But so parents have no alternative to offer sex education is adequate for their children. The government sets the rules, it seems to me a detour function inalienable parents.
22:05 November 2, 2009 by shiraz
What a courageous and bold society! I am speechless. How amazing must be your legislators and your reformers and the folk who run your society! Someone (probably God?) really must love Sweden! Astounding and very humbling. May you be blessed and may the nations be able to dream a heavenly tomorrow as you are attempting to do. May all succeed in emerging from darkness and into the light.
23:28 November 2, 2009 by nevon
Parents are still free to teach children whatever they want.

It's just that when you lie to your kid, or withhold information that will probably prevent them from making good decisions for themselves or enjoying their lives, there is a qualified teacher at school who will do that for you.

This is because your kid is not your goddamn pet, and you can't tell them that masturbation causes blindness and then cry about it when someone else tells them the truth.

More power to the Swedish school system and Johnson's "No More Tears" for all the crying bitter religious nuts and militant conservatives (i.e. shiraz who fails at sarcasm).
01:01 November 3, 2009 by Cmhiggins12
The problem is that the most important information is withheld here in Sweden from the kids. Like the increasing rate of STDs and the results, like the increasing number of women who need to take fertilization meds in order to get pregnant. Or the percentage of relationships that don't work out because couples find out they are sexually incompatible. I think people need ALL the information in order to make informed decisions.

Good catch 'nevon' at the sarcasm. But I have a harder time with non-parents who act like they really know more about kids and have such strong opinions about raising them without any real life experience.
02:18 November 3, 2009 by raiteki
Being a parent myself, I'm totally okay with the approach that the swedish system has taken with regards to sexual education.

I always consider myself as an open, democratic, nothing-is-taboo kind of parents, but I gotta admit too that sometimes the age gap between parents and children makes something is quite impossible to be talked openly. Not necessarily from my side as the parent, but think teenagers in their midst of raging hormonal cycle, where basically everything from the parent's mouth is just wrong in their ears, then you know my point is.

As parent, I think the basic function that I gotta do is to give my children all the knowledges and informations that relates to life, and let them makes their decisions themselves based on that. So, I don't mind having someone more qualified, and - more importantly - more "age-compatible" to pass that knowledge to my children. I always believe that in the right time, my children will be willing to talk about it openly with me, but until that time comes, there should be someone that pass these "sexual ed" messages to him. Because sexual education is really important, especially for young people, so they can make decisions wisely.

Having said all of that, I think Sweden's view of sexual education is really ahead of this time, compared to most other nations in this planet. Good job Sweden!
05:28 November 3, 2009 by shiraz
Response to :@ 23:28 November 2, 2009 by nevon

I am sorry I was not being sarcastic. I think Sweden is doing a very courageous experiment and I hope it pays off for the country and for the world. I hope that they are a light to the world. Why would I be sarcastic about this? But its not about me. I think Sweden is doing a good thing. I wish I was the recipient of a straightforward and earnest and understandable education. I and everyone else needs to know about their bodies and how it functions and we need to do it in a scientific and non superstitious way. I am sorry if I offend anyone in saying that. I am mostly wrong.
15:55 November 3, 2009 by Walter Al
Response to : for all

I would like to express that at no time wanted to question the sexual education

in Sweden. Only I was surprised because the system is not new, the original text the process of sex education began in 1956. Therefore, there are generations of parents and even grandparents who went through the Swedish sex education, and yet the process has informationless.Então this whole process has not formed adults who have conditions going into their children and grandchildren information on sex education? Children really need to have the information to their physical and mental.O process can not close the link between parents, grandparents and their rulers, the question remains: the enchanted world with the courage of Sweden to adopt the only efficient method some respects, but not effective for most of humanity. But either way God sees Sweden without any sarcasm characteristic of the human race. I am sorry if offend anyone too.
16:26 November 3, 2009 by Beynch
This is an outrage!!! That teachers and journalist for the most part are out on the anarchic, leftist, fringe was known. A pack of unforgiving extreme communists. But that they can stoop to such lows is appalling. Teachers and journalists are supposed to teach and inform. Not indoctrinate! Swedes should put the brakes on this filth, or the Swedish nation will sink into Sodom and Gomorrah. It's already halfway there. Defeat the left in 2010!
16:44 November 3, 2009 by vladd777
I'm so grateful that my offspring are adults and that I have no grandkids.
22:09 November 3, 2009 by MarkinBoston
"For example, there are many people in Sweden that don't know the clitoris is 7-10 centimetres long," Ullholm adds."

The clitoris is 2 3/4 - 4 inches long in Sweden? Are all the women on steroids and testosterone over there? How do they walk around with those things dangling like that? My grandparents were from Sweden, and rest assured monster clit syndrome was never discussed in my family.
01:51 November 4, 2009 by Colonial Swede
anal sex and easy sex has created awful diseases these past 50 years. Look at the statistics. It has broken many homes. Anyone who allows their children to be taught this garbage is weak and foolish.
07:46 November 4, 2009 by Harding00
@MarkinBoston, I think (and hope) you were being sarcastic as far as talking about the length of the clitoris being 2 3/4-4 inches long, because that is roughly 7-10 centimeters.
09:01 November 4, 2009 by Random Guy
Haha, using imperial measurements. How cute! It's like a monkey playing piano!
09:41 November 4, 2009 by Harding00
Forget what I wrote MarkinBostin, I read your post wrong. But I do wonder how the hell a clitoris could be that big.
13:56 November 4, 2009 by MisplacedAmerican
Beynch: anarchic, leftist, fringe, communists. That's all I saw. You sir, would feel very at home here in the South of America.

About the clitoris thing: look at some anatomy drawings. Most of the clitoris, just like the penis, is inside the body and not visible without a scalpel or other cutting instrument (I can't recommend this. I know if I cut my girlfriend's vulva to see her clitoris, she'd be quite angry indeed.) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clitoris has some nice drawings, which will spare your wives and girlfriends much pain.
14:14 November 4, 2009 by Nemesis
Actually, if you do an autopsy, you will find that the clitoris actually has more tissue than a penis. Most of the clitoris tissue is under the skin, just like an iceberg.

As for the sex education teaching. This is very good.

We need that in Ireland north and South for not only the pupils but for the parents as well. In fact I think this should be rolled out all over Europe and made compulsory.

This type of teaching will help wipe way ignorance and shame about sex and allow young people to safely explore there own bodies in knowledge of what they are doing.

Well done to the Swedish schools for this.
22:45 November 4, 2009 by HejHej
let me complete the basic lesson

D= Dick or Dildo

E = Ejaculation / Erection

F = Facial / fellatio

G = Glory hole / G spot

H = Hymen

I = Interracial

J = Jerk Off

K = Kinky

L = Lubircant / love tunnel

M = MILF / Multiple orgasm

N = Nooner

O = O face / orgy

P = Paraphilia

Q = Queef

R = Rimming

S = Scat

T = Tribadism

U = Upskirt

V = Vagina

W = Wife Swaping

X = X-rated

Y = Yaoi

Z = Zoophilia
00:59 November 5, 2009 by Brad_L
I hope that Swedish students will continue to get candid and complete sexual information that helps them to feel good about their bodies and make smart sexual decisions. The fact that they get it from young instructors who can communicate with them on their own level is all the better! I received Canadian sex ed that spread misinformation (i.e. "HIV passes through condoms") and had parents who's lessons stopped at "no sex before marriage". In fact the conservative approach leads to riskier behaviour, increased teenage pregnancy, and unenjoyable sex due to lack of information. I envy Swedish youths for their opportunity and ability to enjoy their bodies, after all, youth is the natural time for it!
03:22 November 5, 2009 by Greg in Canada
"I received Canadian sex ed that spread misinformation (i.e. "HIV passes through condoms") and had parents who's lessons stopped at "no sex before marriage".

I'd like to know what part of Canada it is where you received this kind of "sex education". I'll guess somewhere in the rural prairies? Or were you part of the Catholic school system?
06:29 November 5, 2009 by soultraveler3
It's great that Sweden has such an open and thorough sex ed program. It's important for everyone to have knowledge and be comfortable with their bodies.

I hope that on top of that they're also teaching the children real facts about STDs and pregnancy.

How they're increasing in numbers and can be very serious, they should show graphic pictures of what warts, herpes, etc. look like on male and female parts. It might change the attitude of children thinking it's funny to get a STD, like that sad article in the local a couple months ago. :(

Most importantly, they need to teach children to respect themselves and don't have sex before they're ready or with a partner that doesn't respect them. Don't just do it because your friends are or because you see it in the media. Don't do it because someone is pressuring you. Give young boys and girls the strength and self confidence to tell someone to p#ss off if they only want to be with them for sex.

Tell them that if they wait until they're read. You don't have to be in love, but make sure you like and respect the person and that the feeling is mutual and they'll have a much more positive experience.
14:15 November 5, 2009 by calebian22
There is nothing wrong with sex education but why does this sound less like education and more like Penthouse forum?
16:27 November 5, 2009 by geofare

Maybe because kids that age don't know the technical terms but know the slangs. So, it makes sense to use terminology they understand. If you start throwing around the technical biological terms they'll feel like you're just preaching down to them. Also, this is a little off the subject but a good analogy, I remember my folks told me to stay away from drugs when I was a kid but they never told me what drugs were. I had friends in junior high who were smoking weed but I didn't know they were "doing drugs" because my ignorant religious parents never bothered to tell me that weed was a drug or what it looked like. This is a prime example of incomplete knowledge. I didn't smoke with my friends by the way, but not because I was trying to stay away from drugs. It was simply coincidence that I avoided what I later found out to be a drug. Just so there's no misunderstanding though, I'm not against marijuana, I just don't have any interest in it. The point is, even if my folks had told me to stay away from canabis sativa because it's a drug I wouldn't have known that meant weed unless someone had told me. For now, kids don't need to know the technical terms for male and female anatomy, they're not med students. Besides, would someone really ask their partner, "Can I lick your labia majora and clitoral hood while massaging your urethral sponge?" My guess would be no, unless he/she is joking. You have to not only give them information, but also make sure it's useful information.
17:30 November 5, 2009 by Bisonex
This is truly sick. Teaching children about "blow jobs" and "anal sex" is, in my opinion, the sexual abuse of children. The only difference between the people teaching this filth and paedophiles is that the latter are put in prison. I'm pleased my own daughter is past the stage of learning this this bilge.
17:57 November 5, 2009 by Authentica
I prefer building a good relationship with my child, talking about the subject openly as soon as she reaches puberty. And moving out of Sweden before she does:)
03:56 November 6, 2009 by JoeSwede
As a parent, I want my children to make good decisions. One trusts schools will impart knowledge and skills that will help kids make good decisions. So...both a biological as well as personal relations type information is important.

Family vs. society is a balancing act. If a parent wants their child to withdraw from a class then they should be able to. How can we expect parents to have the responsibility to raise a child but then take away that responsibility?

Individuality, family unit, then government by the people. If you mess with that order, eventually you tend to ruin things....
09:35 November 6, 2009 by SarahRF
As a teen who went thru this whole sex ed thing in high school here in Sweden, I have to say I don't like that system. Getting that kind of knowledge only made me and my entire class even more sexually active, trying to gain some kind of Casanova reputation by sharing our "knowledge" with our partners.

This teaching style also takes away the intimacy of sex. They really did make it seem like a hobby, like playing soccer, instead of being the most intimate thing you can do with another person. It cheapened the whole experience for me, and I regret not skipping those classes.

Looking back, I would rather have asked my parents for this sort of information, because they have a relationship with me, and won't treat my questions as if they were nothing, as if they were directions to the bus stop. As a parent, I plan to be as open as possible with my kids about sex, telling them that if they are brave enough to ask, I will answer whatever questions they have.

As for the school making it harder for the parents to take kids out of classes... that's ridiculous. Who exactly is raising these kids? Who has to go to work to provide for them? Who has to make sure they have everything they need? It's the parents who are directly responsible for all that, why all of a sudden can they not choose what their kids learn in school?
09:44 November 6, 2009 by calebian22

Well if they already know the slang, then it is time to learn the correct terms. This is supposed to be about education, knowledge and empowerment. For example, ghetto slang is not taught in school; correct grammer (ideally) is taught. Sex education class should be more about form, function and potential repercussions, not a springboard for a sex party.

The point is taken though about the sex talk though. Thanks for the laugh.

It sounds like there might be a middle ground here in Sweden regarding the presentation of sex education. Victorian ideals rarely exist here, but at the same time a little propriety might be nice.
10:35 November 6, 2009 by FirstCrusade
This is nothing short of grooming children to be abused and manipulated by sexual predators. This will set many children up to be victimized. This is the equivalent of giving a child fire-crackers and telling them to go play with them and figure out how to handle them. They are going to get hurt, if not physically then certainly emotionally/mentally.
13:02 November 6, 2009 by Rekan
I think we should theach them everything abaout sex when they are young.
13:08 November 6, 2009 by rumpaa
me to cause i like sex
13:16 November 6, 2009 by goerre
"Swedes should put the brakes on this filth, or the Swedish nation will sink into Sodom and Gomorrah."

I would say it is practically there!

Some say we should teach by providing knowledge and not be in the business of teaching values. It strikes me there is plently of value being attached to this "so called" provision of knowledge - hence the perception it's "filth".
14:55 November 6, 2009 by richardbw
Two points, firstly I live in Sweden and I am very impressed how mature the Swedes are about sex. The Swedes don't act childishly when discussing the subject and they are very clear about the physical and emotional pros and cons. This has obviously worked well for the Swedes because they have a much lower teenage pregnancy rate than the UK and the USA (and most of europe).

Secondly, knowledge does not make you do things, it prepares you for things. I am concerned with the naivety of some comments here. Some kids going through puberty will try sexual contact irrespective of what you do or do not tell them. The best you can do is make sure that all teenagers have all the information necessary so they can 'navigate' this tricky stage of life.
15:03 November 6, 2009 by Kooritze
@ sarahRF

What you say makes perfect sense to me. With such attitudes in Sweden, it does not suprise one to also understand why divorce rates are high as well as the percentage of those living alone.......no one trusts each other anymore.

It seems the system is promoting a further development of this situation.........so that in the furture you may well end up with broken society. Good luck with your experiment Sweden!
18:27 November 6, 2009 by Dulcinea
This article and the comments associated with it are positively hilarious!

On another note, I don't know how comfortable I'd be with having my child taught about anal in highschool...seems a little odd. But I'm American and repressed by nature. :(

Viva La Sverige!!
20:26 November 6, 2009 by secondthought
This is when overnment is parenting your child!!

And what kind og parent??

The kind that teaches SODOMY as sex!!.

Sodomy involves feces, the most disgusting filth,the most dangerous

to human health. That is not a place for sex.

And they teach them rubbing your mouth with genitiles is sex as well.

This is TALMUDIC indoctrination, it has nothing to do with education.

Sex is NATURAL , it comes instinctively, no need another to show you how

you do it, neither is someone else's sexual likes be yours.

And the clitors that are 7 inches sized, i recomend CIRUMSCION for you gals,

talk to Somalian girls about that, they have cute little clitors.
14:32 November 7, 2009 by barryberry
At least there is sex education in Sweden. But in my place, Hong Kong, parents still think talking about sex with their kids is a taboo and Chinese people are generally conservative and reserved.

I think what Swedish teachers should do is to improve the way Swedish people convey the message of sex. Teachers should not only talk about it in a correct way cos sex is no joke at all, but also put themselves in students' shoes. Teachers can use some slang during the lesson cos students can easily understnad. But meanwhile, students shouldn't take sex too lightly.

Sometimes sexual desire isn't easily controlled. And I know it very well cos I did watch too much porn stuff when I was sexually aroused. But at the end of the day, it is a very bad thing in my life. So sex education should in no way be delayed! Time for sex education.
17:14 November 7, 2009 by Kaethar
@SarahRF: Odd, since I also went through this education and it didn't make me or my friends promiscuous in the least. It's all about the company you keep... :)
20:47 November 7, 2009 by soultraveler3

How can someone be so freaking stupid?!

There's nothing wrong with oral and anal sex as long as it's done in a safe way between consenting adults.

You're also need education about the clitoris, yes it's that long on all women naturally, most of it is inside the woman's body. Swedish women don't have long things hanging off the front of them like a man if that's what you're thinking.

As far as your Somalian girls having cute little ones, you're sick. Genital mutiliation is common pratice there and is horrible. They have "little ones" because they're cut off to prevent women from enjoying sex and to control them.


The most common form of female genital mutilation (FGM) or female genital cutting (FGC) practiced in

Somalia is Type III (commonly referred to as infibulation and in Somalia, the "Pharaonic circumcision").

Eighty percent of all genital procedures for women and girls consist of this form which is the most harmful

form. The less radical or Type I (commonly referred to as clitoridectomy and in Somalia sometimes called

"sunna") is practiced mainly in the coastal towns of Mogadishu, Brava, Merca and Kismayu. The

procedures leave a lifetime of physical suffering for the women.

Type III is the excision (removal) of part or all of the external genitalia (clitoris, labia minora and labia

majora) and stitching or narrowing of the vaginal opening, leaving a very small opening, about the size of a

matchstick, to allow for the flow of urine and menstrual blood. The girl or woman's legs are generally bound

together from the hip to the ankle so she remains immobile for approximately 40 days to allow for the

formation of scar tissue.
21:06 November 7, 2009 by secondthought

This discussion is not about CONSENSUAL sex , it is about SEX itself.

Your ass is for defication, not for sex.

Your mouth is for talking and eating.

Your genitiles are for sex together with your EMOTIONS.

How about that for "sex education".

The guy speaking of WIFE SWAPPING, do you even know that it is the

religion of the SABBATEANS, crupto jews, the FRANKISTS.

Do you know thta what is fed to you as an accepted social issue is the faith

of those who controll entertainment industry and education?
22:34 November 7, 2009 by Authentica
@ secondthought

Hey dude, how about having a third thought and a couple more if necessary before you comment
23:30 November 7, 2009 by DavidtheNorseman
Do they include the most purient information?

That homosexual men average a lifespan of around 42 years, lesbians around 49? Cameron, Playfair, Wellum, " The Longevity of Homosexuals: Before and After the AIDS Epidemic, " Omega Journal of Death and Dying," 1994

That STD's obtained in teenage years often eliminate the possiblity of having children at all. PID, madness, death are some of the "side effects" of promiscuous behaviour.

I'll guarantee that none of the realities of sex's consequences are being taught, only techniques and those often without the realities of the damage factors (eg. permanent ripping of tissue from the idiotic pracitce of anal sex, bleeding to death from fisting etc.).
00:39 November 8, 2009 by secondthought

This is a third thought for you.

How about Child endangerment?

This kind of realationship between teacher-pupils will

give the teachers all the opportunity they need to mollest kids.

I shorten the comment because this paper censors opinions

that don't cheer pervertions.
03:10 November 8, 2009 by JoeSwede
checking to see if this will show....
09:46 November 8, 2009 by SarahRF
I would be perfectly happy with my kids learning about sex in school as long as the focus was on how to be safe and how to respect themselves and their partners. If the focus is on techniques, I'd feel like I was potentially training my daughter to be a prostitute.

@Kaethar: I was the least popular kid in my class (I was the "invandrare"), and also the class nun at the time. I didn't hang out with my classmates all that much, just not my kind of people. The reason I know it made them all more promiscuious is because every monday morning at our lockers there'd be talk about which technique they tried over the weekend and which worked best. But I do agree with you about the company... if a couple start like that, very soon everyone joins in.
15:21 November 8, 2009 by Qinx
Wait... hold on... Swedes don't learn about this stuff until they're 14?! Wow, I knew most of that stuff coming out of elementary at 11, 12 yrs old. You know, as a sensible amount of baggage before going to high school. In time also, to know about this stuff BEFORE becoming sexually active, so that when the 'opportunity arises', you can make an educated decision on where and how far you want to take everything.

Well, I guess sometimes growing up in the Netherlands is better than in Sweden... ;-)
21:05 November 8, 2009 by delusion1982
Won't also the teacher distribute some anal lubricant at the end of the class for the anal-sex-discovery-after-school-party

Another example of the trial-and-error approach to everything in life, no one really knows the consequences of this thing nowadays called school. could be good could be bad. but probably will increase depression amongst all day by day.
21:29 November 8, 2009 by Malmoman
I grew up in Vermont and we had sex ed starting in 7th grade (around 13). I remember we had to draw what we thought a vagina and penis looked like. You could tell who the players were in that class! Unfortunately I was not.

Thankfully we missed the anal tips...
17:10 November 10, 2009 by coswede
this will go over well with the muslims
13:14 November 24, 2009 by Argentina84
"17:57 November 5, 2009 by Authentica

I prefer building a good relationship with my child, talking about the subject openly as soon as she reaches puberty. And moving out of Sweden before she does:)"

Totally agree with Authentica. I think most Swedish parents find it easier to let schools do what they should do themselves: teach their children to respect and take care of their bodies.
12:56 December 12, 2009 by sometimetoquestion

An excerpt from a "contraversiel articale I stumbled upon.

I was raised by two alcoholic parents. My father was a violent and rageful man. I developed an intense hatred for men, and determined in my heart I would never let a man get close to me. I was also sexually abused as a child - which only reinforced my feelings of hatred. Because my Mother was a victim of my father's violence, I became her protector and caretaker. "Mom," I vowed, "I hate it that you are weak, clingy, and powerless. I will have nothing to do with womanhood."

Other factors contributing to male or female homosexuality may include:

* a father who, having wanted but failed to get a son, treats his daughter as a boy;

* a mother who favors a "more feminine" daughter over one who is "tomboyish" or a father who favors a "more masculine" son over one he perceives as too sensitive;

* a mother who over-protects or "Smothers" her son, possibly competing with the father for the son's love;

* the combination of a weak father, who does not draw his son into the world of men and masculinity, with a domineering mother who draws the son into her world;

* the work-addicted or television-addicted parent who is just "too busy" to spend time with a child;

* alcoholism in one or both parents, especially when this leads to emotional neglect of the children;

* parents who are hostile to each other and constantly fighting, so that their children learn to fear marriage and the heterosexual patterns leading to it.

In fairness it should be said that parents are not always at fault, or they may be only minimally at fault. Sometimes a father's rejection of his son is perceived rather than real; for example, if the father is working overseas while the son is very small, the little boy may have no male role model and may be smothered by female relatives. Sometimes simple bad luck plays a role, bringing together several unfavorable circumstances. Any single one might not have mattered too much, but the combination can be powerful.

How can the homosexual condition be prevented? Parents might study the list above to see how a dysfunctional, unhappy family lives - and do the opposite. Positively speaking, parents should give added attention to the way each child relates to the same-sex parent. A child is likely to have a normal sexual disposition when the parents have a happy marriage and when they give much love to all of their children, never favoring one over another but recognizing and encouraging the special gifts of each. In a large family, it is important to avoid neglecting older children as younger, cuter, and more demanding ones come along.

Are we taught this in school? NOT. And then why take time to praise "regressive behaviour and glorify promiscuity.

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