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Baby's crying forces family to move

TT/Rebecca Martin · 19 Aug 2011, 10:41

Published: 19 Aug 2011 10:41 GMT+02:00

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Bazil Lazim and his family are at the end of their tether after their 9-month-old son's repeated and long-running nighttime crying fits have prompted neighbours to complain and warning letters to be issued from landlord Hoforshus.

“Surely they must understand that babies cry, it is normal that they cry from time to time and he is so little that he can’t tell us what’s wrong," Lazim told local paper Arbetarbladet.

"What do they want me to do? I can hardly get rid of my child. We pick him up and try to comfort him but if that doesn’t help, what then?”

The landlord has gone as far as threatening the family to pay for the costs incurred by workers sent to the building by a security company in response to repeated calls to its disturbance hotline caused by the inconsolable infant.

The property management company also told the family that they ought to have the boy looked at by a doctor.

Helen Fröjd, who is responsible for disturbances and complaints at Hoforshus confirmed to Arbetarbladet that there have been complaints and that she has repeatedly been in contact with the family.

“People shouldn’t have to put up with this. A newborn is one thing but this child is older. It is my responsibility to make sure that the residents in the property have a good night’s sleep, and after 10pm it should be quiet,” Fröjd said to the paper.

She also said that the fact that the child is crying night after night is a sign that it isn’t feeling well and that the parents should therefore take it to see a doctor.

Next time the security officers are called out in the middle of the night, Lazim and his family will most likely have to foot the 1,500 kronor ($233) bill.

“If the security company is called out and they confirm that there is a disturbance, it is the tenant's responsibility to pay for it,” said Fröjd to Arbetarbladet.

As a consequence of the feud, Bazil Lazim and his family have felt forced to give up their flat.

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“I haven’t thrown a party and I haven’t played loud music. If I had done anything wrong it would have been right to report me, but I haven’t. We liked it here but now we feel unable to stay on. We’re here for another 3 months and then the neighbours can sleep soundly again,” he told the paper.

When contacted by The Local, Fröjd refused to comment further on the matter and attempts to reach Hoforshus CEO Christian Rickardson and Lazim were unsuccessful.

TT/Rebecca Martin (news@thelocal.se)

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12:02 August 19, 2011 by coolduck
I will just refer to the quote of Helen Fröjd: "People shouldn't have to put up with this. A newborn is one thing but this child is older. It is my responsibility to make sure that the residents in the property have a good night's sleep, and after 10pm it should be quiet," Fröjd said to the paper.

Been a parent my self of a 7 month baby, I can totally understand the parents. My baby is crying quite often because of teething. When I read this I just say thank god that I don't live in Sweden anymore and especially in an apartment with small minded neighbours. I have lived in Sweden before and I remember been a excellent neighbour, but sometimes it only takes one time to mess with your "nice" neighbours, once I drop a heavy item on the floor after 10pm and the guy lived below me came up in 1 min knocking my door saying to me to be quite!

I am not surprised anymore when I read those things in The Local, Swedes are not somehow what you call "understanding" people. From what I read in the past they wanted to forbid babies and kids in restaurants in order the elderly to enjoy their meals quietly. They don't care if is a baby, dog, music, tv, a person that might just dropped dead and made that noise. If it is breaking the rules (after 10pm) then they will tell to the landlord, police, fire department, maybe even call migration verket if you are of a foreign origin. Just to make sure that you have to follow the Swedish way or the high way. It doesn't matter if you are infant, toddler, teen, adult or elder, you can't break the rule. "Yes Mr. Lazim your 9 month should by now learn to self sooth based on the 5 min method that we follow here in Sweden, it is not normal to cry when a baby is 9 month" , how ironic.

No sympathy, no care, no love just rules!!!!
12:06 August 19, 2011 by krow
I had same neighbour who complained my active three years hold jumbs around and make lots of noise around 7am. And she reported us many times to the landlord. They came and saw my boy jumping around and the man could not help but saw himself that he was difficult to control. So I asked, what the neigbour wants, To hit my child to be quiet or what?They left and I won the case by paying for gymnastics, swimming class, taking him for plan and unplanned holidays in order not to be home to disturb the neigbour. But where i come from, we dont really care about the noise because it is a part of life and life is fun. But in Sweden, seems most people enjoy life of solitude. They seriously need help
12:21 August 19, 2011 by crofab
Parents, I'm sorry, but neighbors are entitled to have peace and reasonable levels of quiet in their own homes. If your child is keeping all the neighbors up, as unfortunate as it is, it is YOUR responsibility to do something about it. Move the child to a room where the sound doesn't carry so much, install some kind of sound-dampening device, or, yes move to an apartment with thicker walls. You choose to have children and that includes the responsibilities that come with that. You can't just shrug and say "babies will be babies, tough luck!"
12:58 August 19, 2011 by Svensksmith
I have to agree with crofab. I endured many sleepless nights with my own children. That's just part of the deal. I would hate to have to listen to other peoples screaming kids when I was trying to sleep. And don't get me started on people who let their dogs bark all night.
13:02 August 19, 2011 by Frobobbles
The toddler is 9 months old, so the constant screaming at night can't be infant colic. Surely something is wrong, and the landlord is correct to demand that a doctor look at the matter. Interesting to note that the father expects the child to be screaming continuously still at the age of one year.
13:32 August 19, 2011 by Rick Methven
When helping my son, partner and 5 month old daughter, move into a new apartment a few weeks ago, there was a notice on the board insisting that parents of young children ensure their children where quite a 6 o-clock in the morning as they wanted to eat their breakfast in peace and quite on their balcony.
15:26 August 19, 2011 by bocale1
Well, since I moved to Sweden more than 3 years ago with my child of 6 months (at that time), I never had any sort of problem with other people here.

I live in a rented apartment quite well isolated from noises (I guess, since I have never heard any sort of sound coming from my neighbors flats neither), my child is quite active at any hour of the day and often shouting or trowing things around... no complains at all, and the same in other places like restaurants, pubs, shops, etc...

I would say that the people here is much more patient with children than in major part of other places in Europe I have been.

This must have been a quite special case and maybe there are other reasons that justify such aggressive behavior from Bazil neighbors. Maybe the baby and the noise is just an excuse to kick them out for other reasons...
17:16 August 19, 2011 by tadchem
First, it isn't the baby's crying that is forcing the family to move, it is the landlord. This is the landlord's way of dealing with all the complaining neighbors. The baby has his own complaints; that is why he cries. If the parents tried to work out *why* the baby has been crying, they may have more success in raising him and in keeping their home.

Babies cry for 4 reasons: hunger, thirst, fear, or pain. A well-fed baby in mother's arms will usually only continue to cry if there is some source of pain: teething, stomach gas, constipation, low-grade fever, muscle aches, etc. Parents must learn to THINK.
17:22 August 19, 2011 by lovedealer76
Well,i guess any body who is supporting the fact that those neighbours are cruel,i think they are inconsiderate,if you've ever been a working person in your life and know how important one sleep is,you won't side with Lazim for a minute.

It doesn't mean cause those neighbours may not be parent them selves means the can,t understand with Lazim,it's just a simple philosophy,don't make your problem other people problem,which i think many will agree with me on this
10:10 August 20, 2011 by PoJo
Come on people, are you kidding? Children cry, they don't have a schedule for it, they just do. And most often it is not something that has to be checked by a doctor. It's mean to behave like these neighbors towards something so natural as a baby's cry.
22:18 August 22, 2011 by Localized
I have a dog and I am sure if my attitude was "well dogs bark" my neighbours would not be too appreciative. I chose to have a dog and I take responsibility to keep it quiet.

I understand that babies cry, but if you choose to start a family then you know you are in for some sleepless nights. But unless your neighbours made that same decision to give up their restful nights, I think it is only respectful that you take steps to keep the noise contained to your apartment.
22:27 August 24, 2011 by wxman
@ Localized is correct. Take responsibility for yourself in all things. End of discussion.
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