18 mistakes foreigners make when first moving to Sweden
Emma Löfgren · 3 Aug 2016, 06:59
Published: 03 Aug 2016 06:59 GMT+02:00
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1. Trying to pay in cash. Swedes use their debit cards three times as frequently as the average European, even to pay for smaller amounts. Some shops and bars have even stopped accepting cash – so don't bother waving those kronor around, just tap in your pin. Or go Swish.
2. Only staying in Stockholm. We do love the Swedish capital. But there is so much more to Sweden, from the stunning north with its cool-but-not-in-your-face-cool towns to the southern beaches and trendy food scene. Don't just stay in Stockholm. Get out there and visit Sweden.
3. Pressing the button when getting off the metro. If you do visit Stockholm, remember that unlike in many other cities, and despite there being a button next to the doors on the metro, they open automatically at every stop whether you press it or not. But you're not alone, one member of The Local's editorial team admitted it took him months before he stopped getting weird looks from Swedish passengers.
They open by themselves. Like magic. Photo: Cecilia Larsson Lantz/Imagebank.sweden.se
4. Showing up late to a dinner party. What's the point of a starting time if nobody respects it?
5. Showing up early to a dinner party. See above.
Show up on time for the crayfish party. Photo: Carolina Romare/imagebank.sweden.se
6. Making small talk with strangers. Many a foreigner has been left wondering why the seemingly innocuous remark "hi, lovely weather" made their Swedish neighbour/shopkeeper/passerby stare at them in horror. Congratulations, you've just learned that Swedes don't do small talk. Do keep trying, but... be gentle.
7. Making only expat friends. If you just moved here for work or studies and don't have a native partner, this is a trap that is easy to fall into in any country. Perhaps even more so if you don't have the stamina to tackle the reserved Swedes (see Lex Swedes Don't Do Small Talk). But don't give up, the Swedes actually make lovely, kind-hearted friends, and your experience here will be all the richer for it.
READ ALSO: Seven tips for making friends in Sweden
Life goal: befriend a Swede. Photo: Fredrik Sandberg/TT
8. Addressing your university teacher by their title. Equal Swedes aren't particularly big on titles, so even if your teachers are "Doctor Andersson" and "Professor Svensson" boasting a string of noteworthy scholarly accolades, they will insist that you call them "Ingrid" or "Bosse".
9. Sit out the office fika. Skipping the institutionalized office morning coffee and cake to instead keep working through that pile of documents on your desk after the holidays is tantamount to kidnapping your boss' dog, painting it pink and hoisting it up the flag pole. It's just not done.
Well, there's no rule saying you have to talk to each other during fika. Photo: Jessica Gow/TT
10. Going to the bank after work. Only a decade or so ago, Swedish banks used to have a tradition that they always closed at 3pm. This rule has been loosened somewhat in the past few years, but many banks – particularly in small towns – still close remarkably early even on weekdays.
11. Buying booze at the last minute. Thinking of nipping to the store to pick up a bottle of wine for your host on your way to the party? Forget it. State-owned monopoly chain Systembolaget closes at 3pm on Saturday and 7pm or earlier on weekdays. Get there early to avoid the queues.
12. Not bringing your leg to Systemet. Speaking of Systembolaget, don't forget to bring your leg. No, that's not a body part. It's short for 'legitimation', your photo identification document. Even if you are well past the age where anyone would reasonable mistake you for someone under 20, they will ask for your ID.
13. Doing your laundry after 10pm. Many Swedes don't own a laundry machine, but instead wash their clothes in communal laundry rooms in their apartment blocks. Before you do this, it is very important you read the rules and stick to them. You don't want to be on the receiving end of a tvättstugelapp.
READ ALSO: Ten taboos you must never break in Sweden
Doing some rogue nighttime laundry, perhaps? Photo: Fredrik Sandberg/TT
14. Getting offended when someone says "Oi!" While the word in English-speaking countries is a slightly ill-mannered way to attract somebody's attention, sometimes followed by an angry outburst, in Swedish it is spelled "oj" and means "oops". So when you stepped on that Swede's foot on the bus and he exclaimed "oj!" that's all he meant. Not to confuse with "aj!", meaning "ouch".
15. Raising your voice. Don't raise your voice in an argument, even if it is just to show you are excited about making your point. Your soft-spoken Swedish friends will think you hate them.
16. Not mastering the Swedish hug. First time you meet someone, shake their hand. Every other time thereafter, hug them. Don't even try the good old peck on the cheek, it will frighten them.
17. Not learning the language. English speakers tend to get an easy ride in Sweden, because so many Swedes speak English (and in fact will insist on speaking it to you even when you do make an effort). But a lot of a country's heart and soul is in its language, and if you don't learn Swedish you will lose out on words such as knullrufs, orka or vabba.
18. Trying to join the gym without a personnummer. Hahahahahahhahahhahha.