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Princess P
Posted on: 12.Sep.2011, 12:39 PM





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I do actually understand what Carterhayes means. I do have to be extra careful because her honest and genuine perception of what has gone on can differ from what actually happened. Autism isn't classed as a cognitive social communication disability for no reason. I've learnt this the hard way over the years, storming into school over some terrible event wanting blood only to find the reality was somewhat removed from what she thinks happened.

With that in mind, I've rung the union myself. They don't get involved until someone has paid in for 3 months. She got that bit but she missed that, however, as she is only 18 and still at school this would be waived. The number they gave her to ring was the union rep for this kommun not someone at the kommun. He said for her to go to the meeting and listen very carefully to what was said. If there was still a problem between her and the employer to let him know and they would take it from there. Because she's frightened and worried about being let go she heard 'come back if he sacks you and then we can get involved'.
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Princess P
Posted on: 12.Sep.2011, 10:28 AM





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Thanks for those who've offered constructive help and advice, much appreciated.

Koshsha, I've emailed that link to her at school. Thanks for that. My ability to understand Swedish disintergrates when I feel under pressure so I can't read it myself yet. Will try again later.
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Princess P
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So the consensus is that she doesn't go in alone. Good, that's what I was thinking. Now we just need to find someone appropriate.
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Princess P
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QUOTE (7 @ 12.Sep.2011, 09:51 AM) *
i must have missed it as well. have you left?

we have had a slew of trollish posters of late. it's easy to be suspicious of someone whose story doesn't add up looking at it at first sight.

Nah, I'm still here clinging on. I sent the memo when the location bit was first added, in the good old days. I objected to the oppression of only being able to choose my real Swedish location rather than one inside my head. I've always been listed as 'not in Sweden' because I couldn't choose Machu Picchu.
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Princess P
Posted on: 12.Sep.2011, 08:57 AM





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QUOTE (7 @ 12.Sep.2011, 09:48 AM) *
princess p is a long-time, respected poster on TL. she may not have updated her "location."

welcome back princess.



i don't have legal advice for you, nor do i know where to advise you to turn. the local union for restaurants is the first which comes to mind.

i think you have to decide what you and your daughter want to achieve. if it's a matter of getting her boss to behave professionally and supply your daughter with a proper working environment with a contract, then perhaps you can send in a family friend (less emotionally involved)

in the end, walking away might be the most assuring option for your daughter right now.


To be honest, I'd rather she walk away, but she doesn't want to. She knows how difficult finding work is, especially for an 18 year old disabled immigrant. She wants to keep her job but she wants to know what she's supposed to be doing and how and she wants the inappropriate comments to stop. She doesn't think her boss is horrible, she thinks he's an idiot, but she doesn't know how to deal with the issue so he can be a reformed idiot.

She rang the restaurants union people this morning, but they wouldn't help her because she wasn't a member. I thought this was a bit tight given the fact that she's only been in the job 5 minutes and didn't even know there was a union. Although they did give her a number of someone at the kommune. She rang and they said she should go and see them if she is sacked, but they can't help until then.

She's currently trying to get hold of one of the advisors at vuxen habilitering to see if they can help.
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Princess P
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QUOTE (JulieLou40 @ 11.Sep.2011, 09:18 PM) *
No idea on the legal issues etc (apart from the fact that he HAS to be accountable for treating a disabled person in that way!!)-but just wanted to say hope you get it sorted. He doesn't sound like a nice person at all, so IMO your daughter would be better off walking out and never going back.

If she decided to go to the meeting, I think she should take a parent, or better still, someone who knows about disability issues with her, as a witness.

Good luck to you and your daughter, Paula.

*Hugs*


Thanks Julie.
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Princess P
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She is an adult. It is not appropriate for her to take 'mummy' into work for a talk with her boss. I'm supporting her by trying to find out what services are available for adults with disabilities to support them in employment issues.

You missed the memo regarding location and 'not in Sweden', do keep up. But thanks for the nice patronising reply, reminds me why I stopped posting here in the first place.
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Princess P
Posted on: 11.Sep.2011, 07:27 PM





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Hiya, can anyone point me in the right direction over this issue:

My daughter is 18 and autistic. She is still at school but recently managed to find herself a job at the local Pizzaria at the weekends. She had to go for a trial during which she worked 3 evenings. She was then told that she'd got the job and has since worked 4 weekends.

It's been a complete nightmare and she came home today after just half an hour in tears because it's all too much. Her boss told her to go and see him tomorrow evening for a talk, which I take as meaning to be sacked. The problems are:

  • she doesn't know what she's supposed to be doing, she has no whatdycallitthingy which sets out her role and what is expected. She gets told she has to do x and then the next day gets told off for doing x as that's not her job so doesn't know whether she is coming or going
  • she's had no training on how to do things but gets in trouble if she doesn't get it right. Right also changes from day to day
  • she has had no pay slips. She asked about tax and stuff and was told that he would sort it all out. I have a sneaky suspicion that ain't happening
  • her boss keeps making jokes at her expense which upset her because being autistic, she doesn't realise he's joking. She's told him this but he keeps doing it.
  • her boss also keeps commenting on her weight, asking her what she weighs, lecturing her on healthy eating, asking her what she's had to eat. He's even given her a demonstration on how to drink as glass of water as he didn't think she was doing it right. WTF?
Today he started as soon as she walked in, asking her what she'd been doing and why hadn't she been more active and what had she eaten. She feels very vulnerable and doesn't feel in a position to tell him to mind his own business. She told him again that she has autism and find some things difficult. He looked quite shocked, even though she had already told him, and told her that she should have told him this right at the start. She was upset by this as she felt it was said in such a way that he was saying he would not have employed her had he known. Despite this she got to work. Then came the final straw. He started telling her that there is no such thing as autism, it's all in her head and that she needs to pull herself together and get over it. At which point she was distraught and told him she had to go home.

So what should she do? Where does she stand? Who does she need to speak to for advise and/or support? I don't think she's equiped to go in and face him alone tomorrow. What a mess.
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Princess P
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Princess P
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QUOTE (Freja @ 1.Feb.2010, 04:59 PM) *
But Princess P, lets stick to the truth an what we actually know/facts.

The truth: You keep saying that you did not bother to read my post(s) but still you make judgements about it/them ("trite") and claim that the purpose of it was to "stir up bad feeling". How could you make that judgment and comment on what you belive is the purpose if you didn't bother to read it/them? And you keep coming back with more comments and is indicated as being on here reading it quite often. Comme on, be truthful. You have read it/them. Ha!

I have read other people's posts replying to yours and I have read this one of yours in full. Your first post, I read the first and about a third of the second paragraphs. Your other post, I only read the part addressing me, which jumped out as I scrolled through the drivel to see what other's had written.

QUOTE (Freja @ 1.Feb.2010, 04:59 PM) *
Fact: You say "The sole purpose of that post was to stir up bad feeling". You know nothing about this. You are speculating. Your comment is a (stereo)typical British passively aggressive reaction. And your speculation is grotesquely incorrect. You are just being defensive as I shared my views about UK/London/Brits (for the purpose of illustrating that I can actually relate to aspects of what all you moaners/bithcers are going throught - but not your weaknesses - to encross yourself in destructive negativity).

So if I am wrong, prove it. Show me where you have contributed to this forum in a positive way. Show me where you have given friendly, helpful advice to another member. Give me a single previous post of yours that isn't bitching and moaning. (Previous posts under another user name do not count)
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Princess P
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QUOTE (Streja @ 1.Feb.2010, 02:49 PM) *
Princess P, I really don't get why you thought it was all tripe and why you answer her like that.


Because you she created an account to come on the local for the sole purpose of bitching and moaning about people who come on the local to bitch and moan. She is an egotistical hypocrite. The sole purpose of that post was to stir up bad feeling. What a pleasant individual.

QUOTE (Streja @ 1.Feb.2010, 02:49 PM) *
I mean the amount of shit that I read here everyday about Swedes and Sweden is enormous.


And I agree that some of it is completely unfounded and those that spout it should be pulled up on it. Some of it, however, is the truth about what people are feeling and experiencing here in Sweden. You may not like it, but it's real and that is why people express it here, in a community full of others who may have felt the same and who can understand what they are saying.

QUOTE (Streja @ 1.Feb.2010, 02:49 PM) *
Do you see me doing the same?


No dear, never.

Quotes from Streja:

"In the UK (not saying you're British), people take one hour for lunch and even have beer, come back drunk and spend the rest of the afternoon trying to work but being really slow at it."

"I hate British stag parties and the ones that go on them. I hate the pollution in Britain, the drafty houses that are so cold in the winter that you can't sleep naked. Not very romantic! "

"I don't think everyone in the UK is like that, but a lot of people there never do anything else but play online games, go to the pub or the nearest take out place. "

"I don't think English girls are uglier than Swedish women, but I think they are sluttier though. Us Swedish women in London were like appalled by their sluttiness, not to mention their slutty dresscode. A thong and a seethrough tacky black dress or a top that almost make their udders come out was the norm. "

"I know for a fact that England is like that though. It's all down the pub and witty banter and men with beerbellies having beans on toast while watching Emmerdale. "

"David, we're talking about swimming here, not going to work, but then you are so repressed. What are you? British? "

"Roundabouts in the UK though. MY GOD!! They are everywhere and you lose your bearings."

My favourite:

"I really hate the water level in English toilets."

QUOTE (Streja @ 1.Feb.2010, 02:49 PM) *
I have to ask again: Why is it not ok to moan about Britain on this forum?


Who said it wasn't?
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Princess P
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QUOTE (Newyork-Växjö @ 1.Feb.2010, 02:21 PM) *
I am sure you know the meaning.
Let others to educate themselves tongue.gif

If you want people to educate themselves, then you should really supply them with reputable sources of information.

Your first source is a work of fiction. Prize for the first person to name the actor.

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And your second is a guy who isn't even respected by Islam itself. He has had a fatwah issued against him which states:

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Zakir Naik is not an Islamic scholar. His teachings are against the Koran. In his speeches, he insults Allah and glorifies Yazeed, the killer of Imam Hussain. Naik had supported bin Laden and called upon all Muslims to become terrorists.

http://www.dnaindia.com/india/report_storm...ir-naik_1204534
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Princess P
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QUOTE (Newyork-Växjö @ 1.Feb.2010, 02:19 PM) *
You are already out of Sweden tongue.gif , But when there is peace in my country i would return now I am scared of being bomb by Americans or Nato troops sad.gif


No I'm not.

QUOTE (swozzie @ 1.Feb.2010, 02:21 PM) *
Peace as in no war ?

If so, I wasn't aware there was war in the UK which is where I believe you come from Princess P ?

I can't answer the question myself because Australia is a peaceful country but this topic has come up endless times between me and my Iranian and Iraqi friends and each one would go back to their country in a heartbeat if there was no war/oppression.


That depends on whether you read the daily mail or not.
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Princess P
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QUOTE (Newyork-Växjö @ 1.Feb.2010, 12:30 PM) *
Please make a report and ask every immigrants if there is a peace in your countries would you stay in here or you would leave? I can bet that 98% of them would say we will go back.

I bet they wouldn't. Let's put it to the test.

Locallers, those who are immigrants, if there is peace in your country will you go back?

I wouldn't.

(That's 100% against what you claim so far.)
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Princess P
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Hmmmm. Let's not.
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Princess P
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QUOTE (Freja @ 1.Feb.2010, 01:02 PM) *
Princess P: "I gave up reading this as soon…." No you didn't. You come back and added another four comments over a number of days. Ha!

Yes I did. Failure to read tripe doesn't preclude one from posting.

I didn't read this one either, just happened to spot my my user name and read the tripe aimed at me. Ha!
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Princess P
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Domestic violence and child abuse also lead to homelessness.
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Princess P
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Congestion, in Gothenburg? They're having a laugh. I see more congestion in my home town at 6.00am on a Sunday morning.
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Princess P
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Who?
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Princess P
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QUOTE (Nemesis @ 31.Jan.2010, 01:32 PM) *
Your choice and I support you in it. I was talking about on average.

Where do you get your figures from to calculate what is average?

QUOTE (Nemesis @ 31.Jan.2010, 01:32 PM) *
When you say lady of leasure. Did you lose your job?

No. I made an executive decision on what to do with my time. I have the option of working in a very well paid role here, have been asked repeatedly. I choose not to.

QUOTE (Nemesis @ 31.Jan.2010, 01:47 PM) *
I read what they wrote.

I know exactly what those two mean.

They are very brave behind a keyboard.

Please be more specific. What have they written that is racist?
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Princess P
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Why label people as racists because they don't like you? On a forum such as this, isn't it more likely to be because of what you have to say and how you say it?
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Princess P
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As far as I am aware, it depends upon the circumstances that you entered the EU. If you are here on a 90 day tourist visa waiver, then you can only be a tourist for 90 days. If you are married to an EU citizen you can move with them to another EU state to live and work, but you have to have the right to live and work in the state you are moving from first.

http://ec.europa.eu/youreurope/nav/en/citizens/index.html
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QUOTE (Nemesis @ 31.Jan.2010, 10:25 AM) *
People from Ulster, Connaught and the West coast of Scotland work hard and breed.

My family are from Connaught and the West coast of Scotland. I have one child and am a lady of leisure, with no plans to change.
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Princess P
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On what experience of Sweden are you basing your opinion Traveler2010?
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Have you looked for this information yourself? I found it with 1 google search in 30 seconds.
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