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Looking to meet serious friends in Gothenburg

Long term, honest, fun

Pechane
post 8.Sep.2017, 06:34 PM
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Joined: 8.Sep.2017

Hello everyone,

I am a french woman of 33 living in Gothenburg. I am married. Sadly I have trouble meeting long term friends here. Entering a Swedish circle of Friends is pertty hard. All my husband friends are 40+ and have kids. So it is not easy for me. We also do not have at all same interest.

Due to sickness I am not able to work for now. So I can't meet coworker either (and it failed in the past).

I am very open, extrovert, have a lot of humour, very direct and honest.
I love gaming, manga, Asian drama TV and movie, cute stuff, having fun, sci-fi, I also do some muscle training.
I do not drink so I do not go to bar. And I am not a "late night" person.
I raise huskies, and craft as a hobby.

It is pretty tough to find people to hang out with for me. As I never feel I can be myself.
And that blocks me. I met several people but it ended with them remaining in their closed group of friends.

So I am asking here.
I am looking for long term friends and not just people to hang out one night and goodbye.
Honest and non judgemental people.

Cheers,
Pechane.
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flaneur
post 8.Sep.2017, 08:09 PM
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Location: Stockholm
Joined: 19.Aug.2017

I don't mean to be rude, but you really sound desperate. People can feel that and nobody wants to be a friend with desperate, needy people. Not even in more social societies than Sweden...




...okay maybe in Italy.

If I were you I wouldn't care about getting Swedish friends. Or friends at all. I've never cared actually and I found three of them in Stockholm who I see and talk to almost every day. I met much more people in general but only those 3 I consider friends. And they're all socially awkward Swedes. wub.gif

So chill, you'll find friends but definitely not by asking for them on a forum... smile.gif
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intrepidfox
post 8.Sep.2017, 10:14 PM
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Location: Gothenburg
Joined: 18.Jul.2012

Here are a few links

https://www.internations.org/gothenburg-expats/french

http://www.expat.com/en/nationalities/fren...den/gothenburg/

https://www.movetogothenburg.com/socialising-and-networking

or the side i googled

https://www.google.se/search?q=expat+french...366&bih=638


It´s not easy to move to a new country but never give up. I was lonely for years but now i have masses of friends.

Good luck
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Bsmith
post 8.Sep.2017, 10:47 PM
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Joined: 25.Jun.2009

One of the best ways to make friends in Sweden is to join a club. Do an internet search and see if there are some clubs in the area that interest you. Also, I met several friends in SFI.
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riemann
post 9.Sep.2017, 11:31 AM
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Joined: 30.Jan.2017

Take a look at meetup.com, there are a ton of meetup groups for people in exactly your current situation. The Gothenburg cultural meetup group is especially recommended!
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nicola4444
post 11.Sep.2017, 10:42 AM
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Joined: 4.Oct.2015

I struggled with the same thing when I first moved to Stockholm, then later down to Malmö.

My advice:
Go out there and meet people as per intrepidfox's advice
Be patient - friendship takes time.
Repetition, I found that I hung out with people repeatedly from Toastmasters and board game evenings we hosted. Initially they were "mates" but over time we became proper friends and they became people we could count on, and genuinely cared for
Make an effort to invite people for coffee or a drink once you meet people you like at the events intrepidfox mentioned. Get to know them one on one.
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Mistress_Of_Doom
post 11.Sep.2017, 12:17 PM
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Joined: 14.Mar.2016

Is it just me or is it a bit strange to be looking for friends at this age? Ain't nobody got time for that. Also, what's wrong with being 40+...
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Bsmith
post 11.Sep.2017, 03:11 PM
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Joined: 25.Jun.2009

Friends are nice to have at any age, MOD. Ain't nothing wrong with being 40+...if you're healthy.
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flaneur
post 11.Sep.2017, 03:25 PM
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Location: Stockholm
Joined: 19.Aug.2017

I'm 26 and I love 40+.
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Mistress_Of_Doom
post 12.Sep.2017, 12:52 PM
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Joined: 14.Mar.2016

QUOTE (Bsmith @ 12.Sep.2017, 03:11 AM) *
Friends are nice to have at any age, MOD. Ain't nothing wrong with being 40+...if you're healthy.

Friends are nice when you just meet naturally. As mentioned above, op seems needy and imo clingy.
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intrepidfox
post 12.Sep.2017, 01:42 PM
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Location: Gothenburg
Joined: 18.Jul.2012

QUOTE (flaneur @ 11.Sep.2017, 02:25 PM) *
I'm 26 and I love 40+.


Oi. What about 50+
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flaneur
post 2.Oct.2017, 03:39 PM
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Location: Stockholm
Joined: 19.Aug.2017

QUOTE (intrepidfox @ 12.Sep.2017, 02:42 PM) *
Oi. What about 50+


Honey, if your abs are as defined as your sense of humor, then it ain't gonna work.
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tamara
post 26.Oct.2017, 06:57 PM
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Joined: 20.Oct.2017

Do not use tinder to try to make friends in Sweden, as I did is my suggestion.
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bryann
post 27.Oct.2017, 11:11 PM
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Joined: 21.Sep.2017

Jeez, people are so cynical. Making friends in Sweden is hard because you need someone to invite you into your social circle. If you are looking for someone to hang out with, im in the same boat as you. I am a 25 year old dude so I dont know if we have any interests.
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djkroo
post 30.Dec.2017, 12:42 PM
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Joined: 18.Jul.2010

Sent you a pm =)
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