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I need help for asylum/immigration

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udayk8139
post 18.Feb.2017, 02:53 PM
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Hi, I'm Alice(Not legal name) from India.
I'm 17 years old and I discovered my gender at the age of 15. I kept my identity to myself and online communities and never came out to parents or friends(except for 1 friend who was very close and promised he wouldn't disclose this information to anyone and thankfully he stood on his word).

I've only been able to get to know about myself after watching porn such as cross-dressing, gay, and sissy kinds. At that time I never really had any Idea about anything, and I usually had the basic thought that "gay" and "lesbian" or just basically any "other" gender is just silly, and totally disgracing to the community and society etc. I was very much against these things from birth due to the society and culture that I live in. This was because of how I was raised, my parents, teachers and school, the society and religious and cultural leaders; everyone made me believe that homosexuality is the worst crime you can commit in your life.

I normally don't get any discrimination right now because I have not come out of the closet yet. I did not disclose to anyone except a few people who are with in the LGBT community and they are pretty remote as well. My friend is the only real life person who knows about my personality.

Life of Homosexuals in India -
If I happen to disclose my sexuality and orientation to my parents, the possible results would be pretty bad, my parents are more than likely to take me to a religious person and try to "cure" me of my thoughts, they might as well take me to the hospital to talk to a psychiatrist or even take me to "black magic" rituals to cure my "disease".

This is how they treat LGBT people here, and India has criminalized homosexuality and put life time imprisonment if caught. This is very bad, LGBT people are deprived of their fundamental human rights and banished from most of the society. LGBT people are mostly uneducated, because no body cares about them, nor do the LGBT people have money to pay for their education; I know that most of the LGBT community is below poverty level and their poor educational qualifications often lead to miserable conditions as they don't get any kind of help from the govt. There have been recent improvements in the community as more and more educated people, students and veterans started supporting the LGBT people, although that is not enough. Recently a group of teachers, activists and supports came together to start a school for LGBT people, especially the Transgender folks by starting a small school, they went to many govt officials and organisations and schools for help, sadly the govt refused to help and so did the other institutions, but those people were finally able to create a small school environment for transgender people by making a small school out of what ever they could donate. The result was a very small school which could educate less than 10 transgender children. I have read about this here

Recently in the same way, India got it's first transgender school principle in yet another part of the country; sadly the principle quit her job after facing numerous accounts of discrimination from both the school's staff as well as children.

LGBT rights in India
Wikipedia page here


As there are no laws against discrimination, LGBT people are often offended both publicly as well as privately. Even the police don't give much of an importance to the LGBT community and cases relating to this, and I doubt that they might as well not support LGBT community in court and law.



These are all the problems I have in India, I need help, I want to fulfill my dreams, I want to help the world grow. I've tried to suppress my urge to be a girl for a few days, and I seriously can't manage the pressure I get onto myself. I get mad, I get really angry and often times end up at suicidal thoughts. This really frightens me and my future. I dreamt of becoming an entrepreneur and the only way to do that is by being myself, to open myself up and to follow my emotions. It's very hard to pretend to be someone who you never will and can be. It's very hard to stick to the society's stereotypes even after knowing how meaningless some of the society's norms and views are.

I seek asylum, I seek help and equality for myself and everyone else stuck in this and other homophobic, non-feminist countries(no country shows 100% equality in any way though). I wish to take pride in what I am and what I wish to do. This country may not be legalizing homosexuality anytime soon, but I need time and support to get a level, so that I could stand up for human rights, not only in the Sweden or India, but the entire world, the human race. It sounds very shameful to me as the word "Human" means to be Humane, to be kind and respectful and most of us aren't really that human at all. My parents threaten me of my life if I don't pass my high school exams, not that I'm not smart or dumb, it's because of the society's stereotype that people with higher grades will become successful.

I may not be able to put what I've learnt on the paper well, but that doesn't mean I don't know anything, nor does it mean I'm useless. Everyone is unique and everything they do by their heart has a special meaning in their life.

Although I'm not sure how the court will accept my proposal with the help of you guys or how I will be gendered according to what I say and believe; I'm only hoping for the best. I don't want to stay in this country, I want to live and work for a country which respects human rights.

My real name is not disclosed in this message as I want to stay as anonymous as possible until I stay in this country.

Thank you for reading this, please share anything you can to help me out,
Alice.
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udayk8139
post 18.Feb.2017, 04:17 PM
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If there is anyone who can help me here or point me to somewhere useful please reply. and additionally, i failed highschool which decreases my chances of going outside my country
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Bsmith
post 18.Feb.2017, 04:32 PM
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Dear "Alice", is there any way to retake the exams and try to pass high school? That is where I would start.

Best of luck.
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udayk8139
post 18.Feb.2017, 04:34 PM
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There is a way, but it's already too late
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udayk8139
post 18.Feb.2017, 04:48 PM
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and because I failed highschool my parents have beaten me up with belts, and there's no law that stops people from doing these kinds of stuff in my country
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Uncle Fred
post 18.Feb.2017, 05:47 PM
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QUOTE (udayk8139 @ 18.Feb.2017, 04:48 PM) *
and because I failed highschool my parents have beaten me up with belts, and there's no law that stops people from doing these kinds of stuff in my country

udayk8139
2.Oct.2016, 04:00 PM
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Hi, I'm Uday from India. I'm still pursuing my 12th class(which will be finished by April-May 2017) and I am 17 yr old. Next year, I want to study in Sweden.

I have read the articles on Swedish websites and all, but I'm pretty confused on how to Apply?
What's the difference between Spring and Autumn semesters and when do they start?
I am currently bound to write IELTS exam in this month and do you think that I am late? for applying for the college?
and do you think that I am too fast?

I want to study Computer Science and I searched for my course at https://www.universityadmissions.se and I searched in that website. The search queries I got are very weird for me, like hey from my perspective I am not sure what to choose... In my country there's only course name as Computer Science and everything that is related is put there. I want to know how I can get in contact with anyone who will help me out. I for myself think that I am very late in applying.

and in addition to that I am not able to find any consultancy services near or around my city and I am worried for that.
I would like to get help for this aspect.

Thanks


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Strange how your life has changed so much in less than 5 months. You say you failed high school. Yet you have said before your 12th class will be finished by April-May 2017. Now that doesn't add up.
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udayk8139
post 18.Feb.2017, 06:27 PM
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Yeah, it changed. I failed highschool because I did not attend the practical exams, if you fail at practicals, then you can't pass the highschool even if you wrote the exams well, and in my case, I am not prepared well for my exams :/
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udayk8139
post 18.Feb.2017, 06:28 PM
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generally if you failed the experiments/practical exams, you are just failed, there's a way to actually retake this exam, but even if I did, I am not able to pass my highschool final exams.. then nothing is going to work and ugh why are you doubting what ever I said sad.gif I thought I had a plan, so i can get out of this country and live as I am, but it did not happen the way I planned, I got mentally and emotionally hurt and ended up not doing well in the practical exams, which were important, without which you're failed. and due to all the thoughts and all i did not prepare well for my exams. I thought the Swedish people were more helpful but im still keeping my hopes
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Uncle Fred
post 18.Feb.2017, 07:51 PM
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QUOTE (udayk8139 @ 18.Feb.2017, 06:28 PM) *
generally if you failed the experiments/practical exams, you are just failed, there's a way to actually retake this exam, but even if I did, I am not able to pass my highs ... (show full quote)


I didn't say I was doubting anything, I simply said "Now that doesn't add up". What you had previously written didn't match which you wrote later.
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udayk8139
post 19.Feb.2017, 04:12 AM
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Yes, I was a bit confused at that time on how these things work, and then finally never made it out safely, now I have to get out of here some how.
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udayk8139
post 19.Feb.2017, 08:32 AM
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QUOTE
Strange how your life has changed so much in less than 5 months. You say you failed high school. Yet you have said before your 12th class will be finished by April-May 2017. Now that doesn't add up.


Life can change in minutes sad.gif
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Bsmith
post 19.Feb.2017, 12:17 PM
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QUOTE (udayk8139 @ 19.Feb.2017, 07:32 AM) *
Life can change in minutes sad.gif


Yes, it can. For the good as well as the bad. Take a walk, go for a run, or whatever it takes to get a clear head. Then sit down and assess what your goal actually is and how that you might achieve it. If you truly want it bad enough and are willing to work hard at it, just about anything is possible.
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Bsmith
post 19.Feb.2017, 02:23 PM
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You are assuming that if you were able to move to Sweden, everything would be all hunky-dory as you would find more acceptance there. India has a huge population. I am sure there are others in your own country who would accept you as you are. Seek them out. Perhaps your destiny is to be a trailblazer for acceptance in India.
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LLHope
post 19.Feb.2017, 04:01 PM
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You will highly likely find that any claim for asylum will be rejected, even by Sweden, for the simple grounds that regardless of how Indian communities may treat you, you have as stated chosen for some years to hide your so-called gender (sorry, I am a believer in only 2 genders male & female) which actually is a sexual preference. The argument against you is that since you hid it for some time then there is no reason to offer protection because you could continue to hide it. There are many gay people that are refused asylum and sent back to places like Iran for that simple reason.
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Bsmith
post 19.Feb.2017, 05:55 PM
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QUOTE (LLHope @ 19.Feb.2017, 03:01 PM) *
(sorry, I am a believer in only 2 genders male & female)



Oh, you are so old fashioned, LL. There are 63 genders now:

http://www.aminoapps.com/page/virtual-spac...reds-of-genders
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