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JulieLou40
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QUOTE (Gamla H?lsingebock @ 26.Mar.2014, 09:11 PM) *
You should see how big they get in Norrland!!!


(Fingers in ears): LA LA LA LA LA LA LA!!!
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JulieLou40
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QUOTE (baduo @ 27.Mar.2014, 10:50 PM) *
Hi my name is badou I'm from Kalyan. I seek asylum in sweden but my asylum was refused after one and half year, and was ask to leave sweden and was giving re-entry ban for one year... but was still in sweden at that time. 3month later i got married in sweden to my sweden girlfriend who is now my wife. Then I went to Denmark where she comes to me weekly. What's my chance of getting resident even if I go back to Kalyan.


Not good, especially as you have didn't leave Sweden when you were told. Why should Sweden help you out now. if you didn't play by the rules?
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Posted on: 26.Mar.2014, 01:53 PM





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I hate hate hate (did I mention I hate?) the immersion method. The powerless feeling I had, sitting around for months and not understanding wtf was going on, frustrated the hell out of me.Frankly, I still am not much further forward, and I was enrolled in SFI for years. Managed to pass C (how the hell, I don't know), but then gave up after a few months of D, where all the teacher did was go on and on and on about grammar-of words I didn't know in the first place. How the feck I am supposed to do the different tenses of words I don't even understand really pissed me off, and I left. I hated every single minute of sfi, and would get depressed as hell the days I was due to go.

I do think that the classes should be redesigned, and maybe special classes made for teaching Swedish in say, Arabic and English. At least then, 90% of the class would get through sfi quickly, and resources would be freed up to teach the minority that don't understand one of those two languages.
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You can get frozen chicken wings (bbq or chilli flavour) in Willys, can't remember the brand name offhand. 15 mins in the oven, or 5 in the micro. They're not bad.
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Hi guys,
So, this is the position. I've been working since last August, on a temporary contract with Lule? Kommun. I'm earning decent money, and I pay all my bills on time-always have done since I moved here. I don't have masses of credit-just a few catalogue-type accounts, of which I always pay a good bit more than the minimum off every month.

Anyway, at the weekend, we went to buy my son a new p.c. He needed a decent one, as he wants it partly for gaming. We decided fairly quickly which one to get, and then I applied for the credit. That's when the computer asked for further information-the guy in Media Markt said it meant something like a job contract etc. As my job contract is only temporary, I didn't think that would really help my case, and so I decided to leave it. My sambo then did it in his name, and we agreed I will pay the bill when it comes in. I was quite stressed at this point-. I had told my sambo before we went to the shop, that I was worried about applying for the credit in my name, as I only have a temp contract, plus I don't work full-time, just 60%. As I'd predicted, there was a problem. Both the media markt guy and my sambo insisted that once I have done a tax return since starting working, it will be fine, but I'm freaking out in case my credit rating is knackered (or at least compromised in some way). They said we hadn't actually proceeded with anything on the computer, so it wouldn't affect my credit at all. Personally, I thought they were both wrong, and especially because the media markt computer (I could see it) was in a Nordea Finance application page. The guy had also called someone at nordea when it asked for more info-so as far as I was concerned, there is plenty of a "record" that I have applied for credit and they have queried things.

Just now, I got a letter about the credit check, and it seemed fine from what I could tell, but this is the first letter (have seen these letters before), where it showed the risk factor. It said mine was low (1.4%), and it explained that the highest was 100. Does this mean that before I didn't have a risk factor, and now I have, because of the Media markt application being queried?


I'm pretty stressed, so any input would be appreciated. I don't want any problems in the future.

Cheers

Julie
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QUOTE (teawithlemon @ 2.Mar.2014, 11:40 PM) *
Does anyone know if there is an equivalent version of Graze boxes available in Sweden (specifically Stockholm)? I used to get them every other week in the UK and I'd like to sign up here if there is a similar service available.

For those who don't know, Graze is a service which sends you a box every 1-4 weeks containing 4 assorted healthy snacks like nuts, crackers and dried fruits.


Yeah, I used to have Graze in the UK too. It was fun. Maybe we should lobby them to post to us expats here? wink.gif
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JulieLou40
Posted on: 27.Feb.2014, 04:15 PM





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QUOTE (Ivor steph? @ 27.Feb.2014, 01:38 PM) *
I can't understand why the OP felt the need to create a thread on an individual instead of sending them a private message?


Get a life, Byvor. I just feel for the guy, that's all. If you are such an expert on my past posts, then you will surely remember that I stated I felt sorry for Dave because my son also has an autistic spectrum disorder, and I know how difficult life can be.

What's the matter...can't you understand the concept of someone giving a shit?
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Posted on: 26.Feb.2014, 02:45 PM





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Anyone heard anything about Dave lately? I'm wondering how he is getting on since his diagnosis some time back...

If you're reading this Dave, let us know how you're doing.

Julie
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Posted on: 25.Feb.2014, 11:47 AM





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They should have professional insurance...
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QUOTE (nickachu @ 19.Feb.2014, 12:16 AM) *
Yes you can. But not in anything really professional.


I got a job as an English modersm?l teacher without being good at Swedish.

QUOTE (nickachu @ 19.Feb.2014, 12:16 AM) *
I got a job as a dishy without the language, then ended up getting a job as a chef without the language, but learning it. Now I'm somewhere else, as a chef and speak the language with everyone there, I found that working was the best way to learn the language.


Kinda hard for me, as I work in my home language..but obviously I'm in a niche...not many people are lucky enough to work in their home language...
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QUOTE (Hisingen @ 17.Feb.2014, 12:35 AM) *
That was the typical order of the day in the army back in 1950. M & D - - medicine and duty, two codeines and keep going.
But Rick's plaster will prevent the 'keep going' bit for a little while at least. Hope his wife knits, as a long, cold knitting needle is great when the skin starts to itch way down inside the plaster.

sad.gif Scratch smile.gif


That's making me itch, just reading it!
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Posted on: 17.Feb.2014, 01:32 PM





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QUOTE (gplusa @ 17.Feb.2014, 11:59 AM) *
Exact same opening post from about 3 years ago. Word for word.



It doesn't look like anyone noticed your reply, Grant. I too noticed this was a troll, mainly because of the classic "same day join and post on something controversial".

Sigh...
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Ballsed my reply up as I didn't include gplusa's quote...doh
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Sorry to hear this Rick, but it sounds like you were very well looked after. Take care smile.gif
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QUOTE (trumanshow @ 15.Feb.2014, 11:30 AM) *
Whatever they look like, if you snag one, you will eventually end up smelling their farts.


Love it! biggrin.gif
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There are about a million threads on here about people wanting to move to Sweden. If you bother looking, you will find the answer to every question you have...

Sorry to be grumpy, but youmust appreciate that when numerous people constantly ask the same questions without bothering to do any research first, it gets tiresome. Very tiresome.
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QUOTE (deaftoned @ 20.Jan.2014, 10:48 AM) *
very very interesting.. elaborate please..


Well with all the stress of my son's condition/diagnosis/meds etc, my sambo and I have temporarily separated on two occasions, and he went to stay with one of his little sisters. There'd be something wrong if it hadn't caused us any problems frankly-it's been sheer hell on earth, and it would cause problems for most couples.
Found out that as soon as he'd gone to stay at his sister's place, a letter had been sent to MV, saying that we were lviing apart, and therefore I didn't qualify for a sambo permit any more blah blah blah. I'm 99.9% sure it was his sisters, because they pulled the same stunt with my 70 year old father last summer. They wrote him an email telling him what a lazy, good-for-nothing piece of shit his daughter was. They asked him not to tell me what they had said because they are cowards, but my dad thought I deserved to know what they'd said about me, so he forwarded me the whole shooting match-it wasn't nice, seeing the total character assassination they had set out on.

(The one tiny good piece in all of this, is that when eating out in town last May, sambo and I ran into his oldest sister, who visibly cringed when she saw me, and couldn't wait to get away. She was visibly uncomfortable. Now I know why).

Frankly, I hope I never lay eyes on either of them again, because I'd be sorely tempted to punch them both in the face (hard)-but as a teacher you have to be whiter than white and they're not worth losing my job for.


QUOTE (Gordy @ 20.Jan.2014, 10:58 AM) *
I thought I had problems with my MIL who generally carries on like a 6 year old but boy it's not a patch on that. You have my sympathy JulieLou.


Cheers. They have indeed been really hideous, and have caused so much pain on top of the trauma we as a family have been through these last years. But I will never ever forgive them for trying to shaft a special needs kid who loves living in Sweden. That's sickening. One of the ironic things is that they slagged me off for not getting a job (you all know how hard it is when there are no difficulties in the family, never mind sicknesses and so on), but they own a HUGE internationally-known building company-and as one of my friends commented recently-it's interesting that they never offered me a job when I was struggling. I'm glad of it now, but my friend does have a point...
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Been here four years in July. I'll be honest-it's been incredibly hard-though mostly to do with my personal situation, rather than Sweden, if you know what I mean. My son had always had behavioural problems, but they just exploded after we came here, and life was a living hell. But I will always be grateful to the Swedish healthcare system. We went from "nothing wrong with him, he's just naughty" in Britain, to a diagnosis of autism and help with meds and so on, in Sweden. And I've no doubt at all that if we'd still been in Britain, we would be no further forward, and in fact, my son might not still have been here to tell the tale, such has been his distress sad.gif .

Re the job and language situation, the stuff above has really interfered with my learning Swedish-which despite what people might say, you DO need here. I've been in SFI for years now, but it's taking forever, because i can only attend nightclasses (at first, because my son was in such a bad state, but now it's because I'm finally working). Yes, the natives can generally speak good English, but as other people have said, you get the brush-off from Swedes who are not confident enough in their English to talk to you. I agree with stuff I've read on this forum before, that it's generally contacts that get you a job. For instance, I expressed an interest to my son's modersm?l teacher some years ago, that I could be useful if they ever needed more English modersm?l teachers. And what do you know...after 3 years of unemployment, I'm now a modersm?l teacher. It's going great, and I feel much more valued in society. However, obviously because I work in English, that's also not helping with the Swedish learning! So there are good and bad points.

Re friends-I do agree that you tend to make friends with other foreigners first and foremost. I'm guessing it's because they know what it's like to be a foreigner in Sweden, so you already have something in common. I have a Brazilian friend who I met in SFI, a Mexican friend who I met when our kids were both at the same school to learn Swedish, and a Serbian friend, who I met through a brief cleaning job in the summer. I also have a couple of Swedish friends, but I can probably count my friends here on one hand, so it is hard.

I was in the UK at Christmas, and although I loved popping in to Sainsburys and buying all of our old favourites, I didn't like how dirty and busy Britain was-plus it rained every day for 16 days. I was so glad to get back to Sweden, to some peace and quiet, and I'm even making my peace with the snow. Won't be sorry to see it go (hey, I'm in Lule?, it stays a long time!), but it won't stop me going out any more.

On balance, I much prefer living in Sweden-even if my in-laws are freaks. Found out when I last went to MV that they had written an anonymous letter to try and get me and my son kicked out of Sweden. But that's a story for another day-or maybe a "My in-laws are bastards" thread biggrin.gif .

(Incidentally, it didn't work-we got our PUT mwah ha ha ha!).
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QUOTE (cherrybubble @ 9.Dec.2013, 10:35 AM) *
Libby29, you seem to have already made up your mind. One of the dangers of the internet is that is has plenty of webpages to reinforce any opinion we have. Have you ever typed "Are swedes ..." and looked at the google autocomplete suggestions? The suggestions are friendly, racist, nordic, nice and so on. Replace swedes in the original query with any nationality and you get very similar results.

Are swedes accepting of international students in academic settings? Yes. I am an international working in academia and the swedes are very accepting of international students. The language of study and interaction is english AND lots of swedish. I personally think its kinda cool to learn a new language, but not everyone feels the same way.

If you come to sweden and study, you will have a wonderful time. And sometimes, you will be miserable and lonely. I studied in the states and most of the time I was happy and sometimes I was miserable and lonely. You, as an individual, your personality, how friendly YOU are, will determine a lot where ever you go.
And yes, if you are bad at studies or research, you aren't going to get a job, in Sweden OR in the US. Thats just reality though. If you are good/ can network, you will find a PhD position/ job/ internship.
I personally think the quality of education is higher in the states. BUT you pay a lot for it. (or perhaps I should say you don't get paid very much at all). But don't let imagined flaws and imagined attributes decide what you do or where you move.


Great post.
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For heavens sake, this is so obviously a troll...
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I'd lean towards the first of the two options that you mentioned at the end. Having said that, he might just be really polite, and he feels bad for not replying sooner.
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Why does the headline say you are Swedish, if you say you are Finnish? blink.gif
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It's definitely sold in Willys at least...it's fresh, not frozen. I think it's called Smrdeg.
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Dave, For Gods sake (and your poor family!), please stop sharing this, because it is TOO MUCH INFORMATION!!!!!! I didn't think you would get more graphic and embarrassing than what you first posted, but you really have.

This is really really personal, and should NOT be on a public forum.
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Dave, I know that a while back you told us you were diagnosed with Aspergers, and as I know something about this (my son is about to receive the same diagnosis, I think), I'll give you some advice. I know that you guys have a hard time interpreting the emotions and actions of people, so I'll be brutally straight with you:

A public forum like this is NOT the place to discuss this. Your wife and your wife alone, is the person you should be discussing this with. Talking to her parents about it, was I reckon, somebody taking the p***. I would be mortified if my partner did to me what you are doing to her on here.

With two small children to look after, your wife is probably absolutely knackered. Frankly, 4 times a week is above the average, I would say!

Last but not least, focus on being kind instead of whinging about your (unjustified) perceived "lack" of sex. Run her a bath when she's shattered, make her a cup of tea, and some other little things which will show her you care about her welfare, instead of just viewing her as some kind of sex-dispensing machine. Because that is what you sound like.

PLEASE delete this post. it's cringeworthy.

Take care


Julie
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