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Stir over Swede’s advert for sexy male flatmate

A Facebook post by a 19-year-old Swedish girl searching for a 'good looking as hell' flatmate has caused a stir on social media, with the teenager accused of objectifying men.

Stir over Swede's advert for  sexy male flatmate
Alicia Hansson. Photo: Private
Finding an apartment can be a nightmare in major Swedish cities, where short-term second hand contracts are the norm unless you've been on a waiting list for years. Flat sharing is also rare – half of Swedish households are inhabited by just one person – the highest proportion in Europe.
 
Aware of the tricky rental market and her own singledom, Alicia Hansson, 19, took an unusual approach when posting an advert on a flat-hunting Facebook group page in Gothenburg last week.
 
Currently preparing to return to Sweden after working as an Au Pair in Spain, she wrote: "Are you good looking as hell, charming and know how to put down the toilet seat after you?"
 
The advert continued: "Searching high and low for a prospective room mate/partner to move in with some time after the summer. Love is absolutely no obligation!"
 
She wrote that she would be happy to cook, clean and keep track of bills, while her new co-habitor would have to "more or less just exist".
 
Within days she had well over 1,000 responses to the advert, with some men even sending her romantic poems or snaps of their bare chests.
 
 
 
"From past experience, I can say that the combination of a handsome, charming man who folds down the toilet seat is not particularly common. So you could call my advert a mixture of humour and a cry for help searching for that non-existant, ideal man," Hansson told the Gothenburg Post, which broke the story on Monday.
 
Speaking to The Local, she added: "My first intention was just to find an apartment for me to rent after the summer…But instead of erasing my vision of having someone lying on the other side of the bed I decided…I might as well spice up the criteria a little while I'm at it!"
 
"In my world, love is what creates a home," she said.
 
But the post has attracted some criticism, with commenters on social media accusing her of flaunting her own looks and bashing Sweden's gender-equal ideals.
 
"White trash," one post below Metro's version of the story simply said. 
 
Others appeared baffled by the idea: "Is this some kind of social experiment?" wrote Jonas Bengtsson, another member of the same apartment rental group on Facebook.
 
But others praised the teenager for her approach.
 
"Hahahaha, best advert on here," posted Gillis Tjenare Mannen Wiktorsson, while Siya Mhlwatika wrote in English "hilarious lady this!".
 
The Au Pair told The Local that she was genuinely interested in meeting people who had contacted her about her advert, suggesting that the men who had reached out to her might be "more serious" about finding a partner than those using dating apps such as Tinder and Badoo.
 
"I have found very many funny and charming people, but it's a little hard to have a coffee with them when I am still in Spain," she laughed.
 
Responding to complaints that she had both exploited her sexuality and objectified men, she said: "Today people are so busy trying to prove a point about how the world really is that they forget it’s important to have fun too."
 
However she added that she did know how to "make a man feel king" by seducing him with her eyes.
 
Room seekers have previously been known to find love from looking for apartments online. In the UK, Helen and John Webster made national headlines when they got married after meeting via British rental site SpareRoom.
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‘Don’t wear bright colours’: Eight tips on how to dress like a Swede

Swedes have an international reputation for dressing well, with Scandi style a popular trend outside Sweden. The Local asked Swedes and foreigners living in Sweden to try and figure out the best tips and tricks for how to dress like a Swede.

'Don't wear bright colours': Eight tips on how to dress like a Swede

Black is best

When asking several Swedes their top-tips on how to dress like a Swede, many agreed – wear black.

Young professional Tove advises to keep it “all black, minimalist”. Uppsala newspaper columnist Moa agrees: “Wear a lot of black clothes and DON’T wear sneakers or ‘comfortable’ shoes, like running shoes, with dresses.”

Black is a neutral colour and, in general, if you get the neutral colours right you have got a long way in following the Swedish style. 

Neutral colours and a lot of knitwear is a good starting point. Photo: FilippaK/imagebank.sweden.se

Stay neutral 

Sweden might be saying goodbye to hundreds of years of neutrality by joining Nato, but Swedish fashion maintains its strong neutral stance when it comes to colour combinations.

Generally speaking, in autumn and winter Swedes tend to wear darker colours, as Sharon put it: “lots of beige, grey, black and ivory knits or wool. Jeans black or any shade of blue. Black tights with white sneakers for skirts and dresses”.

“Swedes in general will wear black and navy together which I’ve not seen before,” she added.

However, as the weather gets warmer, things change, as half-British half-Swedish Erik explained: “in summer/late spring Swedes change shape and personality,” adding a bit more colour to their wardrobe.

“Lots of colours yet still somewhat monochrome,” he said.

Most Swedes don’t wear a tie at work. Photo: Fredrik Sandberg/TT

Follow the news trend, drop the tie

Nils, a reporter and presenter for public broadcaster SVT in western Sweden, does not always wear a tie in front of the camera – and he said his colleagues on national news don’t wear ties either.

“It’s not a must,” he said.

A blue shirt, no tie, top button open, beige chinos and a grey dinner jacket is the look he chose when presenting the evening news a few weeks ago.

Nils Arnell presenting the news on SVT Nyheter Väst. Photo: Nils Arnell/SVT

On a day to day basis Nils, who stressed that he’s “not a fashion expert”, gave the following advice: “As long as you manage to dress in a neat style, you can get away with quite a lot.”

“A white t-shirt and an overshirt work well in most situations and look stylish.”

Stay classy, even in class

Engineering student Erik (not the same Erik quoted previously) recently returned to Sweden from a one-year exchange at Birmingham University, where he noticed a big difference in student style between the two countries.

“The first thing that comes to mind is that on university campus there are so many people wearing work-out clothes, at least where I was”, he said.

“In Sweden, it’s more common to wear jeans than tracksuit bottoms, compared to the UK”. 

It’s also common to see a difference in styles even between departments at Swedish universities. The law and economics departments, for example, tend to wear more formal attire with a higher number of students wearing shirts and polos than, say, social sciences or engineering students.

Many students seem to wear a toned-down version of what they might be expected to wear in their future workplace.

When in doubt, think Jantelagen!

Equality and conformity are important concepts when it comes to many aspects of day-to-day life in Sweden, including the clothes you wear.

This doesn’t mean you have to do exactly the same as everyone else, but more that being too flashy or over-the-top can be frowned upon.

This can be traced back to Jantelagen, “the law of Jante”, a set of 10 rules taken from a satirical novel written by Danish author Aksel Sandemose in the 1930s, which spells out the unwritten cultural codes that have long defined Scandinavia.

Jantelagen discourages individual success and sets average as the goal. It manifests itself in Swedish culture not only with a ‘we are all equal’ ethos but even more so a ‘don’t think you are better than anyone, ever’ mindset.

And this is seen in Swedes’ attitude to clothing, too. Flashy, expensive clothing with obvious logos or brands designed to show off your wealth breaks the first rule of Jantelagen: “You’re not to think you are anything special”.

‘Stealth wealth’

This doesn’t mean that Swedes don’t wear expensive clothes, though. They’re just not in-your-face expensive.

Felix, a podcaster from Stockholm describes it as “stealth wealth”, saying that Swedes would have no problem buying and wearing “a black jacket without any tags for 10,000kr”. 

Despite living in Sweden his whole life, he said that it’s not always easy to get the style right.

“I’m struggling myself,” he admitted.

He suggested taking a look at fashion blogger and journalist Martin Hansson for inspiration on how to dress. 

“Do NOT use bright colours,” Felix added.

Birkenstocks with socks. Photo: Carl-Olof Zimmerman/TT

Footwear

Most of those we asked said that Swedes are a fan of white trainers, most commonly Stan Smiths or Vagabonds.

With the shoes being popular all year round for men and women, this can cause issues at house parties – as Swedes take off their shoes when they come inside.

This inevitably results in confused guests at the end of the night trying to figure out just which pair of white trainers belongs to them – and trying to find one missing shoe the next day because someone accidentally walked away with one of yours is more common than you might think. 

Vans trainers are also popular amongst more alternative crowds (black of course). At work, dress shoes are popular in the winter and loafers or ballerinas in the summer.

In the summer months, you’re likely to see Birkenstock sandals on men and women. Most Swedes wear Birkenstocks without socks – unless they’re off to do their laundry in their building’s tvättstuga.

Birkenstocks are also popular as indoor shoes all-year-round, both at home and at work. It is common to have a “no outdoor shoes” policy in gyms, schools and some offices. This is to avoid bringing a lot of dirt indoors, especially in the winter months when there is snow, rain, grit and salt on the streets.

H&M’s then-CEO Rolf Eriksen wears colourful socks at a press conference in 2006. Photo: Björn Larsson Ask/SvD/SCANPIX/TT

Don’t forget the socks!

As you often take your shoes off indoors in Sweden, your socks are visible.

This has led to an unexpected trend for colourful socks with interesting patterns, which are a great way to break the monotone of neutral colours and conformity by expressing your personality – in a lagom way, of course.

A pair of colourful socks or a playful pattern will get you noticed and likely be a conversation starter at a dinner party.

What’s your best advice for dressing like a Swede? Let us know!

This article is based on the responses we received from Swedes and foreigners in Sweden on what they think you should wear if you want to follow Swedish fashion trends.

If you have any tips of your own which you think we’ve left out, let us know! You can comment on this article, send us an email at [email protected], or get in touch with us on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram: @thelocalsweden

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