• Sweden's news in English
 
app_header_v3
Bisexual girl struggles to find home due to 'boy-like' partner
Denise (left) and her partner Elin (right). Photo: Private

Bisexual girl struggles to find home due to 'boy-like' partner

The Local · 3 Mar 2016, 16:05

Published: 03 Mar 2016 15:38 GMT+01:00
Updated: 03 Mar 2016 16:05 GMT+01:00

When the 21-year-old posted an advert looking for an apartment to rent with her girlfriend, she was prepared for some homophobic comments. But the student, who wants to be known simply as 'Denise' told The Local she was shocked at the level of abuse she and her partner Elin were being subjected to.
 
"The worst comments were that they thought that Elin wanted to look like a guy," she said.
 
"We got a lot of other comments like 'she looked like she was eight years old' and that I would be better off with a man."
 
Denise, who is a nursing student, met her girlfriend Elin, 23, when they were both studying in Örnsköldsvik in northern Sweden. She says she had not previously identified herself as bisexual, but fell in love with her new partner's personality.
 
"She has made me a better person. I can be myself with her and she always tells me how much she loves me."
 

Denise (left) and her partner Elin (right). Photo: Private
 
When Elin got a job in Gothenburg, the pair had a long-distance relationship for six months, before deciding to move in together on Sweden's west coast. However, the moment they reached out on Facebook accommodation-hunting groups, people began posting negative comments as well as sending nasty private messages to the couple.
 
Denise said she was surprise by the reaction, especially in Sweden which has a reputation as one of the most open and gender equal places on the planet.
 
"I thought somebody would mention 'the gay stuff' but I didn't think we would get those kinds of comments."
 
"I was surprised that people could sit behind their laptops and say such bad stuff to people (...) I think that I have good tolerance levels but when someone says something bad about your girlfriend you fire back," said Denise, explaining her decision to speak to the Swedish media.
 
 
She said that the couple had secured a lead on one apartment prior to talking to reporters and that a few other people had been in touch since she was first interviewed by the GT newspaper.
Story continues below…
 
Gothenburg, like most large Swedish cities, is experiencing a housing shortage, with rental costs rocketing as a result.
 
 
However, Denise's experience is not the first to cause commentators to question tolerance in Sweden in recent months.
 
The owner of a new night club for LGBTQ people in Falkenberg told The Local how he was threatened with violence for promoting the initiative. And last year a hotel hit the headlines after a gay man was told he could not book a spa weekend, but managed to make the same reservation a day later, after using a woman’s name.

For more news from Sweden, join us on Facebook and Twitter.

The Local (news@thelocal.se)

Today's headlines
World Cup of Hockey
Europe sends Sweden home from World Cup
Tomas Tatar scores a winning goal against Sweden's Henrik Lundqvist. Photo: Frank Gunn/The Canadian Press via AP

Sweden was kicked out of the World Cup of Hockey after losing to Team Europe in overtime.

Poetry can 'save Arab world' says Nobel Prize hopeful
The Gothenburg Book Fair. Photo: Fredrik Sandberg/TT

Speaking at the Gothenburg Book Fair, Syrian poet and possible Nobel Prize contender Adonis said that religious fanaticism is 'destroying the heart of the Arab world', but sees salvation in poetry.

Malmö gunfire missed child 'by centimetres'
Police in the area. Photo: Emil Langvad/TT

Bullets fired in a drive-by shooting in Malmö nearly hit a child, police have told Swedish media. Four men were injured, one critically, in the attack.

My Swedish Career
'As long as you hook Swedes on the first try, they'll be back'
Kerryn Beattie (left) and Craig Donovan (right), founders of the Nordic Kiwi Brewers. Photo: Nordic Kiwi Brewers

The Local speaks to a Kiwi expat who took on the tricky world of microbreweries in Stockholm and won.

Masked men on mopeds shoot four in Malmö
Censorgatan in Fosie is a relatively quiet residential area in Malmö. Photo: Google Maps

At least four people have been injured in a shooting in southern Malmö.

78-year-old crowned Sweden's best grower of oilseed rape
Gunnar Henningson celebrates his well-deserved victory. Photo: Svensk Raps

"This is one of the happiest days of my life,” said 78-year- old Gunnar Henningson, after being crowned Sweden's "Rapsmästaren".

Sweden to bring in tighter rape laws to up convictions
Mari Heidenborg, president of the Sexual Offences Committee wants to drop the Swedish term fro rape Våldtakt. Photo: Claudio Bresciani / TT

Swedish lawmakers are to propose adding a controversial consent clause to the country’s rape laws.

Sweden's centre-right voters up for deals with populist SD
Jimmie Åkesson with Centre Party leader Annie Lööf and Moderate leader Anna Kinberg Batra. Photo: Jonas Ekströmer/TT

A growing majority of voters for Sweden’s four-party centre-right Alliance support working with the anti-immigrant Sweden Democrats.

Coeliac disease not caused by early weaning: Swedish study
Carin Andrén Aronsson now plans to investigate why Sweden has such high levels of coeliac disease. Photo: Polarbrod

Mothers who stop breastfeeding early are not to blame for their children developing gluten intolerance, a new Swedish study has found.

Zlatan look-a-like storms pitch as Man U take on champions
A grinning Zlatan pushed the man away with the palm of his hand. Photo: YouTube

Zlatan fever has hit the UK, with a look-a-like storming the pitch on Saturday only to be palmed off by the grinning Swedish star.

Sponsored Article
Let's Talk: a personal Swedish language tutor in your pocket
National
Muslim teacher leaves job after not shaking male colleague's hand
Sponsored Article
‘I view the world in a different way now’
Travel
Why we adore autumn in Sweden
Gallery
People-watching: September 21st
Blog updates

7 September

Svensk or svenska? (The Swedish Teacher) »

"Hejsan! My inbox is full of questions :-). Here’s one about when to use “svensk” and…" READ »

 

23 August

A Summer in Sweden (The Diplomatic Dispatch) »

"For our first year here in Sweden we decided to have all our holidays in Sweden.…" READ »

 
 
 
Sponsored Article
'Creating a sense of home': Collective living in Stockholm
National
Stockholmers hunt killer badger after attack on neighbourhood hipster cat
Sponsored Article
Life in Jordan: 'Undiscovered treasure'
The Local Voices
Why this Russian developer is committed to helping refugees - with tech
National
Six key points in Sweden's budget plan
The Local Voices
How a Swedish name finally made recruiters notice this Iranian's CV
Sponsored Article
Gran Canaria: 'So much more than beaches'
Gallery
Property of the week: Luleå
Sponsored Article
Why Jordan is the ‘Different’ East
Gallery
People-watching: September 16th-18th
Culture
Why Swedish TV has given these kids' trucks a sex swap
Sponsored Article
How to vote absentee from abroad in the US elections
National
TIMELINE: Everything you need to know about the Julian Assange case
Sponsored Article
Why Jordan is the ‘Different’ East
Gallery
People-watching: September 14th
Politics
Why Sweden is putting troops on holiday dream island Gotland
Sponsored Article
Retiring abroad: ensuring your health is covered
The Local Voices
'What I mean when I say: I came here to blow myself up'
Sponsored Article
'There was no future for me in Turkey'
Society
VIDEO: Are Swedes that unfriendly?
Sponsored Article
7 reasons you should join Sweden’s ’a-kassa’
Features
INTERVIEW: How Arthur the jungle dog opened hearts and minds
Gallery
Property of the week: Smögen, Västra Götaland
Society
Sweden's ancient forest tongue Elfdalian fights for survival
National
Where Sweden's foreigners are from
Gallery
People-watching: September 9th-11th
The Local Voices
Shakib, 23, works and pays taxes — but will Sweden let him stay?
National
Watch this Swede roll his kayak without spilling his beer. Respect.
Gallery
People-watching: September 7th
The Local Voices
'Swedes are polarized on refugees - it's the welcome mat or the exit door'
National
WATCH: Yes, this Swedish rising star really is Abba legend's grandson
The Local Voices
'Whenever I apply for jobs I’m treated like an unwanted stranger'
The Local Voices
Is Swedish bosses' ignorance keeping refugees out of jobs?
2,970
jobs available