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Mother arrested for filming her kids in the tub

Malin Nyberg · 4 Mar 2011, 12:59

Published: 04 Mar 2011 12:25 GMT+01:00
Updated: 04 Mar 2011 12:59 GMT+01:00

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"This is completely absurd. The woman was concerned for her children’s safety and this is how it’s turned out. It’s a tragedy,” children's rights advocate Monica Dahlström-Lannes told The Local.

The woman at the heart of the case, which was first reported by the Aftonbladet newspaper, separated from the children's father in the summer of 2008.

Since then, the couple shared custody of the two children, a four-year-old son and five-year-old daughter.

Last year, however, the children started acting in a sexually suggestive manner, prompting the woman to suspect that they may have been sexually abused by their father.

While she reported the matter to police, the investigation was dropped due to lack of evidence.

“That’s when my lawyer advised me to film the children, in order to show the police how they were behaving,” the concerned mother told Aftonbladet.

The mother filmed the children when they were taking a bath and then showed the movie to officials from the local social services department (socialförvaltningen) before handing it to the police.

The next day she was arrested on suspicion of child pornography.

After spending a day behind bars and losing custody of her children, the woman was released.

Prosecutor Christel Anderberg argued she was in the right to film the children in order to collect evidence against the father.

But the decision to drop the investigation was appealed by the social services office, which argued that the woman has exposed her children for serious psychological abuse when filming them.

“It hasn’t been confirmed that the children have been sexually abused by their father, but to let the children continue with what they were doing in the tub is abuse,” the investigators concluded, according to Aftonbladet.

Following a district court ruling stripping the woman of custody, the children are now living with their father.

“The mother is of course very upset,” said Dahlström-Lannes, who is also former cop who specialised in investigating crimes against children.

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"I’'e been working with cases like this for 25 years and it’s just getting worse."

She said the children's behaviour and actions "should be taken seriously" and has since reported the social services department to Sweden's Ombudsmen for Justice (Justitieombudsmännen- JO).

"It’s like the social welfare services have stopped listening to the children," said Dahlström-Lannes.

"It's really upsetting."

Malin Nyberg (news@thelocal.se)

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13:48 March 4, 2011 by Rishonim
I have known three cases where mums accused the dad of molesting the kids after a divorce and they have all been a fat big lie. Women tend to do shait like that just to get back at their ex's
13:52 March 4, 2011 by tariq mehmood
Parents always give confidence to their children to become a useful citizen of the society, but here case is opposite and mother is playing politics with her own children. I doubted that both of the parents have psychological problems.
14:07 March 4, 2011 by calebian22
Liberalism is indeed a mental disorder. Social service employees being the biggest liberal idiots found anywhere.
14:10 March 4, 2011 by flintis
##exposed her children for serious psychological abuse when filming them##

The mind boggles, what kind of idiots do the Social Services employ

No doubt the camera crew, the extra's & lighting upset them.
14:24 March 4, 2011 by IranianBoy
she was not believed by court and at first the case was dismissed because of lack of evidence. she did everything before providing evidence through filming them and reported the matter to police. but when the case was dropped, she chose this as the last solution, not that she liked to it or she was a porno producer. i'm sure it was unpleasant for her too.

now there are two probabilities: 1-the mother wanted to play politics with father and get back to him and tease him.... 2- or the father really abused children and their behavior was a consequence of his abuses....

should we prejudge the mother and say she is a lier and presuppose the first theory?

WHAT IF you where in the same situation as the mother says she was in? what would you do if your children are abused and police doesn't listen to you for lack of evidence and your lawyer advises you to film the children to provide evidence and you really don't have any other solution?

let me put it another word: what else could the mother do, so that police would what mother was saying was true?
15:02 March 4, 2011 by Say what?
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15:11 March 4, 2011 by Hoath
"Last year, however, the children started acting in a sexually suggestive manner, prompting the woman to suspect that they may have been sexually abused by their father."...

...or they could have been copying what they saw on TV.
15:58 March 4, 2011 by HeilNizar
What for difference could it make of she proved it or not? A couple of years in jail? Yeah right

Few days ago I was reading the article about the Swedish pedophile who only got 3.5 years, what a joke! You can search for that article on TL, but you can't leave comments there, nose!

Ofcourse this is happening all over the so called "civilized world", pedophiles and sex offender are not getting the punishment they deserve, it should hanging in public to make them lessons for others.

Law makers in the west should be ashamed of themselves, just imagine the horror abused kids go through.
16:53 March 4, 2011 by Zala Russe
So the mother showed the film to social services, then handed it over to the police. Yes that shows her criminal intentions for sure doesn't it? Swedish public services are becoming the staple of jokes internationally.
17:29 March 4, 2011 by William Sachsen-Coburg-Gotha
Not forgetting that she was acting on instructions from her lawyer.
17:57 March 4, 2011 by Playmaker
yeah thats the big on her lawyer told her to do it. maybe knowing it was illegal so he could repersent her in court for some real money. i bet she is a b**ch though playing poltics
18:44 March 4, 2011 by Buccaneer
Women in Sweden keep going down the road of making legitimate concern questionable. women now make up story about one form of abuse or another on themselvs or on their kids because that is the only way to get back at the Ex. If you want to have full custody or embarrass your Ex man/husband you just make up one story to achieve that aim.

I have been a victim of such bogus claim by my ex, that I beat up our young son when I meet him for visitation. Fortunately for me, I knew she was angry that I moved on and was saying someone else, so I insisted that I would only meet our son in a supervised visit in a Social apartment. Well that did not stop her going to the police to say that I beat my son when he and I meet in the social apartment, the police got in touch with the social contact people who comfirmed that the mother was making up stuff.

That did not stop the mother from trying some new tricks in court (after she found out I got married to my new partner) which have not worked till date but made her pay lots of legal fees.

How come the first thing that comes to these women when a child's safety is in denger is that the father must be the culprit?

It is sad but these woman are not helping the legitimate case of lots of kids whose safety are in real denger. The action of these angry vengeful women out to make their ex suffer for one reason or the other has helped to put innocent people in jail/trouble. It is shameful that this is very common and acceptable in Sweden. I say acceptable because when it is discovered that the women are making stuff up the the case ends there with no consequences to the women for making stuff up. And if the man is unlucky not to have a good lawyer to defend him he ends up in jail.

It is my opinion that this case in question should be looked into to find out why the kids are behaving that way. By so doing, we would know if the kids are in real denger from their father or we would find out how they learned such behavior. If eventually it is discovered that the mum was just filming the kids for her own selfish or vengeful reasons, then she should be made to answer to the law.
19:39 March 4, 2011 by munched
That the first person the mother accuses inspite of the many other influences a child has, (TV, Daycare, friends, relatives) should only confirm the woman was out for sole custody. From my own experience, the is no bottom to the depths a swedish woman will sink to to gain full control of shared children.
19:56 March 4, 2011 by adigunbabatunde@yahoo.com
^^^^agreed..exactly what came to my mind. forgetting that the children lives in this "sexualized" world. where a pair of shoes is to be bought because its sexy or makes the user sexy.
20:36 March 4, 2011 by Grandson of Swedish Emigrants
While the mother could be making the whole thing up about sexual abuse to attack her ex, the police should not use child porn laws as the vehicle for punishing her.

They should charge her with filing a false police report.

The Swedish legal system is just sick and non-functional. That is what happens when prosecutors, judges, and the police view themselves as "above the law."

Sweden needs to clean house of judges, prosecutors, and some of the police, if it does not want to be labeled as a 3rd world dictatorship/monarchy, ruled by a Power elite.

How sad!
20:46 March 4, 2011 by dammen
Bucaneer I tend to agree with you that Swedish women will stop at nothing to get there own back -. been in the same situation with the ex wife. However, I have also been in the same situation as this mother with my own small kids.

Social services don't care that children are abused - all they care about is filling their quota of abused kids - and it does not matter who is the abuser (if there is any) in our case it was the day care worker - but social and the police did not give a damn WHO IT WAS just that they had someone. It is always the poor innocents who suffer - just like in foster homes. This makes a total mockery of the laws protecting children here in Sweden. At the end of the day - the laws that supposedly protect the children are actually the ones working against them. But there again Swedes have got their heads so far up their backsides that they cannot see this - this is the price to pay for promoting the individual as the most important - not the weak and innocent like children and animals - the individual person rules - hence the priority is ME as being more important than YOU, even if you are only a few days old/months/years!
23:09 March 4, 2011 by kenny8076
Thats really wierd because my parents have pictures in their albums of me in the tub playing (naked of coarse)..... there are also videos of me and my brother playing in the tub while we were this age. Are you really not allowed to do this in Sweden? Shall my mother feel ashamed? Shall i go to a doctor to make sure i haven't been tramautized?
09:21 March 5, 2011 by mikewhite
Perhaps they were acting out something they heard on Sveriges Radio P3 ...
11:08 March 5, 2011 by johnny1939
It is indeed sad that parents will use their children to get back at each other.. I think that a 4 and 5 year old would be perfectly able to tell the social services whether they are being abused or not. Of course there is always the chance that they might be coerced by some party. Then you wonder too, why the mother/father would not have noticed these tendencies during the marriage. Personally I could never accuse anyone of some misdeed out of vengeance.
01:21 March 7, 2011 by Tanskalainen
My Mommy used to film me in the bathtub all the time! ('course I was 25 at time)
07:52 March 7, 2011 by InTheBubble
From this story and other recent stories from Sweden about home schoolers, it seems obvious that Sweden has followed Britain down the "social services" rabbit hole of political correctness. This will not change in Sweden or Britain until the dried-up old women responsible, these political feminazis, are removed from power.
12:42 March 13, 2011 by mieoux
A lot of bitter men on here. I hope you are not trying to date any women with that kind of bitterness. Stay single.
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