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Sigtuna pastor calls for society to 'listen'

TT/The Local/cg · 25 Sep 2011, 09:00

Published: 25 Sep 2011 09:00 GMT+02:00

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"We must dare to ask for help without being ashamed. And we must dare to listen to others' cries for help."

Every seat was filled at the memorial service, held in Sätuna Church in Märsta. Both children and adults had come, to light candles and honour the memories of the murdered children. Pastor Ann-Marie Johansson had put together several psalms she thought appropriate for the situation, including "Rock of ages, cleft for me."

During the ceremony, she asked the question: "How should we honour the memory of these boys?" The answer was to learn to ask for help, and heed calls for help when we perceive them.

"Sometimes the calls may be weak, uncertain, or inarticulate, but we must learn to listen, and ask ourselves, 'What was this person trying to express?'" said Ann-Marie Johansson to news agency TT after the ceremony.

But the responsibility is two-sided.

"When someone feels that 'this won't work any longer', they too must be able to see that they're losing their balance."

If a call for help doesn't feel heard, don't give up, suggested Ann-Marie Johansson.

"Sometimes we fail in asking for help, but then we must try again."

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After the ceremony, many churchgoers continued down to the water.

The two boys, aged four and eight, were found dead in the waters of a Sigtuna lake on September 19. Their mother confessed to having killed them on Thursday.

TT/The Local/cg (news@thelocal.se)

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10:13 September 25, 2011 by Tysknaden
The problem is: People, who are really depressed, do not ask for help. Depression means stasis. To know, they need help, you have to look at them, to understand them. To know them. To be interested in them.

This is difficult, because it is a fact, that people are making a rather happy impression, shortly before commiting suicide. (Caused by a feeling of relief; the fight is over/ pressure will end.)
10:55 September 25, 2011 by Grokh
some people should be psychologically evaluated before being allowed to procriate.

In sweden and throughout the world insanity seems to spread through bad parenting, some become alcoholics, others go insane, others become presidents and invade iraq, others manipulate markets through speculation all because they didnt get enough love and understanding from their parents.
11:08 September 25, 2011 by Tysknaden
@Grokh: Childrens and young people's minds are flooded and poisoned by stupid massmedia. And the same thing happened to their parents. This is the reason for the growing problems. People are refusing to become adult - and prefer to stay in a childish dreamworld; this causes conflicts with daily life. Another thing is atheismn, because the religion did not go away; it became sour; and materialismn is the dead for poor people. No love, no comfort, no communion, no money to buy surrogates for all this, no acceptable social status.

But most likely this woman did have other problems.
11:31 September 25, 2011 by rouzi
Come on Sigtuna! you are really a miracle! This is long time it is said please listen to these people. This is long time it is said it is not correct to bring people here and only give them job and money and expect every thing go well. Yes, people need to be counted as well. They need to be respected. they need to be listen. In the other word, what theses people need is empathy not the stupid sympathy. you need to learn that even an African be right and can tell correctly. Ah, look what types of people stand at crossroads worrying about event. And a man must, indeed must, be crushed under the wheels of time to bring the feeling that now is the time for harping the whistles of stop. Ah, I am coming from the land of frozen minds, words and sounds. And this land is full of the steps' sounds of the people who are kissing you and in the meanwhile weaving the rope of your gallows. Happy corpses, the thoughtful, silent corpses, handsome tasteful corpses, the hollow human being.
11:51 September 25, 2011 by hjoian
@ Grokh/ some people should be psychologically evaluated before being allowed to procriate. This comment shows your complete lack of understanding.
13:17 September 25, 2011 by Dr. Dillner
The author wrote, ". . . ad put together several psalms." when, in fact, the pastor put together several *songs*. "Songs" and "Psalms" sounds sort of alike, but . . . .!!!
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